The pool and DH issues

[Anonymous]

I'm a pretty big drinker but I can see being nervous. My oldest almost drowned several times at that age because she could swim but tired easily and then would just founder and go under. I've also fished out kids at least twice when their dads were sitting 6 feet away, not recognizing the warning signs of drowning (kids were bobbing and going under with arms pinned down and panicked looks and unable to respond when I asked them if they were okay). At least make him read that article that gets posted every year on what drowning looks like. It's eye opening. those life guards are mostly overworked teenagers--you can't just rely on them.

[Anonymous]

This is only half-related, but our country club used to serve drinks at a little bar at the pool during evening swim meets. Otherwise there was no alcohol in the pool area. I remember the dads in work clothes at the bar. My mom recently told me that they used to get really drunk (like the old-fashioned, who-cares-about-drunk-driving kind of drunk, not just loud and rowdy) and one dad fell in the pool after a meet and others got into a fistfight.

[Anonymous]

This is about the OP's efforts to control the drinking of her alcoholic husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our pool allows alcohol, as long as it's not in glass, and you don't act like an asshole.

On a related note, did you know WF sells wine in cans??

So does Trader Joe's (Underwood) and a lot of other places. Where have you been?

I agree that OP knows her husband best. I've seen adults in our pool drinking wine in a can wrapped in a koozie. I wouldn't do it and think it's a bit much.

[Anonymous]

No doubt all these pearl clutches with
their need for alcohol have a drinking problem. So happy I was raised in a non-drinking home! It's so sad y'all rely on chemicals to have a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our pool allows alcohol, as long as it's not in glass, and you don't act like an asshole.

On a related note, did you know WF sells wine in cans??

So does Trader Joe's (Underwood) and a lot of other places. Where have you been?

I agree that OP knows her husband best. I've seen adults in our pool drinking wine in a can wrapped in a koozie. I wouldn't do it and think it's a bit much.

Haha. Apparently living under a rock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No doubt all these pearl clutches with
their need for alcohol have a drinking problem. So happy I was raised in a non-drinking home! It's so sad y'all rely on chemicals to have a good time.

Those who enjoy alcohol at the pool are not your typical "pearl clutchers." Perhaps you should use some of those brain cells you've saved from lack of chemicals and get it straight. Drinking socially doesn't necessarily equal drinking problem.

[Anonymous]

So I will preface this by saying I know DH does not have a drinking problem and he's responsible around alcohol so...

I would trust him when he said he was going to have a beer. Hell I'd be fine if he had two beets. Been with DH long enough to know that 2 beers spread out over a couple of hours will in no way impact his judgement or response time.

But your DH may be different and if you don't trust him to actually stop at 1, I completely get your reaction. Otherwise I think you are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is about the OP's efforts to control the drinking of her alcoholic husband.

Where do you see that he's an alcoholic? Because he likes to enjoy a cold one in the sunshine next to the pool? Get a life. This is about OP's absolute and total need for control over her husband. Heaven forbid he actually have a good time without her!

[Anonymous]

Either he has a drinking problem or not. If he doesn't, then drinking at the pool with the kids isn't a big deal. He'll stop before his judgment presents an unusual risk. If he does, then it doesn't matter, particularly, that they are at the pool. Childhood comes with a lot of risk, and a drunk parent is a problem wherever they are.

[Anonymous]

I've brought canned wine to our pool before -- its enjoyable to sit in the sun with a glass of cold wine. However, I've only ever done so on weekends while my husband is also at the pool. It seems a bit much to drink at the pool five days a week, especially if you'll be drinking 5 days a week for a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We drink when our kids swim in the pool. It's in the backyard.

We have a pool as well and our kids have been in the water since birth and are stronger swimmers than most adults, so we are comfortable with our children in the water and us paying half attention. However st age 5? No my kids were still closely supervised.

When we have pool partiee, I'm pretty shocked at how distracted parents are. We now hire lifeguards at our own pool when we have adults over drinking. This is because I once had to jump into my own pool and save a 3yr old who fell in and silently sank to the bottom. All I saw was a dark object at the bottom of the pool. Had i not noticed, the outcome woyld have been deveststing. Parents DO NOT pay attention when they are drinking.

I think owners of pools are much more diligent than visitors to pools.

[Anonymous]

Our local pool allows drinking and people frequently bring beer in cans or wine in boxes or cocktails in pitchers. Kids run around and play in the sand box. Adults get to hang out. It's lovely.

No one is too intoxicated to watch their child in the pool.

This is one of the pleasures of summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is there a pool that allows drinking?

Yes, I'd like to know, too... for "research."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is there a pool that allows drinking?

Yes, I'd like to know, too... for "research."

High Point Pool, on the border of Arlington/Mclean/FCC allows drinking. Glass bottles have to be kept in a cooler- but you can take them out to pour into a plastic cup.
We frequently have dinner at the pool and have wine with it- its lovely.