The pool and DH issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We drink when our kids swim in the pool. It's in the backyard.

+1

+2. And it wasn't just the guys. The moms routinely have afternoon play dates where they drink wine and the kids swim. Load the kids up with floaties, don't get shit-faced, and you're going to have a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drinking at the pool is totally accepted at our local pool. Folks are expected to be discreet (pour the beer into a red Solo cup), but absolutely run of the mill. Not everyone does it, but enough that there is a "crowd".

We must go to the same pool. For the record, OP, I'd be ok with a beer or two but I'd worry if it's more. It's deadly boring to spend hours and hours at the pool watching a five year old. That being said, by age 5, my kids could swim and were going off the diving board into the deep end, so this wasn't really an actual problem we faced.

[Anonymous]

I confess that I'm not a big drinker, so I think it's odd to plan to drink every single time you go to the pool, almost every day of the week, and several drinks at that. We aren't 22 anymore, we have responsibilities and even if you don't get drunk on 1-3 drinks, alcohol does impair your judgment. I would also wonder why he can't have fun with his kid without drinking. Once in awhile is totally fine, but every single time? I think it's odd and I can see why the op is annoyed/worried.

[Anonymous]

The pool with a non-swimmer is really somewhere you need to bring your A game so you, you know, don't drown your kid. I don't drink at the pool when I'm alone with my kids and I expect DH to do the same. Luckily he's not selfish so he doesn't have a problem with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't drink at the pool with your son. You have to take him canoeing and drink together in the canoe. Duh.

Or go tubing and have an entire case of beer tethered to your tube for you and your 2 buddies.

This is what my cousins do in Michigan (and everyone else on the river). I don't really drink so I was taken aback at first, but actually, it's kind of awesome.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be ok with it, but that is because my DH has a borderline drinking problem. If DH is someone who is responsible about alcohol, I think it is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pool with a non-swimmer is really somewhere you need to bring your A game so you, you know, don't drown your kid. I don't drink at the pool when I'm alone with my kids and I expect DH to do the same. Luckily he's not selfish so he doesn't have a problem with this.

A couple of beers really don't impair you that much, certainly no more than a bad night's sleep. (And my wife would never say, "no, you slept poorly, don't take the kids and leave me all alone in a quiet house.")

I think the "A game" is really only necessary if they're swimming Class 6 rapids or with sharks or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The pool with a non-swimmer is really somewhere you need to bring your A game so you, you know, don't drown your kid. I don't drink at the pool when I'm alone with my kids and I expect DH to do the same. Luckily he's not selfish so he doesn't have a problem with this.

A couple of beers really don't impair you that much, certainly no more than a bad night's sleep. (And my wife would never say, "no, you slept poorly, don't take the kids and leave me all alone in a quiet house.")

I think the "A game" is really only necessary if they're swimming Class 6 rapids or with sharks or something.

You definitely have me laughing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pool with a non-swimmer is really somewhere you need to bring your A game so you, you know, don't drown your kid. I don't drink at the pool when I'm alone with my kids and I expect DH to do the same. Luckily he's not selfish so he doesn't have a problem with this.

Yup, this. I'm a laid back parent but alcohol plus pool is a non starter. Also, the fact that her DH is pushing back on this AND that he wants to go to the pool frequently to drink beer with his buddies is really immature. O can see why OP is concerned.

[Anonymous]

My husband doesn't drink, so this wouldn't happen with him. However, my ex would always say I'll just have a beer and would end up getting drunk. In his case I wouldn't trust jim to know when to stop. My BIL is responsible and I've seen him drink a beer or two and be perfectly able to take care of his kids. Therefore, it really depends on your husband. You know him best and how much he will drink. If you don't feel comfortable with the situation then there's a reason.

[Anonymous]

Our pool openly allows beer alcohol, just not in glass containers, and as long as nobody gets rowdy.

Also, I would be totally fine with my DH having a beer or two at the pool with our kids. It's not like he's getting drunk.

[Anonymous]

I saw a lady bust out a 1.5 of yellowtail at Overlee the other day. She even had plastic wine glasses. This is common.

[Anonymous]

Our pool allows alcohol as long as it isn't in glass, so no
Bottles. But otherwise if you're over 21 it's ok

[Anonymous]

Just a tip, it ain't just Starbucks in those cups.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps country clubs allow beer drinking at the pool....??!

I'm not sure.