Single mom and Father's Day at school

[Anonymous]

Op again
I have a shitty family but a great school. What can I do?
If the project is a one day thing I will pull her and we will have a ladies day out
But if it's some multiple day thing I just don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

My husband works (surgeon) and hasn't been able to get to many, many Fathers Day school functions so I go, and have never been the only female there, or the only non father. There have always been Grandpas, uncles, and aunt and me, or some combination and no one bats an eye

[Anonymous]

Ask the teacher what the project/day is like. Do you have a close male friend or a brother who could be a dad-substitute?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

I don't find OP's comments to be bitter. She's raising her child and having this irrelevant (to her?) holiday forced upon her. She shouldn't have to make her daughter sit through this and she shouldn't have to send in a surrogate male. Truthfully I would be find doing away with all holiday celebrations at school or making them super general like 'winter party' etc. Why exclude?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

I'm sure this school also celebrated Mother's Day, correct? Why is the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. We should celebrate Fathers. They are important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

No. Just you are wrong and unless you can post some sort of actual recommendation why are you posting. Rhetorical.
Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

I'm sure this school also celebrated Mother's Day, correct? Why is the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. We should celebrate Fathers. They are important.

I don't think they should've celebrated Mother's Day either. -op
But it was my clue they would celebrate Father's Day also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again
I have a shitty family but a great school. What can I do?
If the project is a one day thing I will pull her and we will have a ladies day out
But if it's some multiple day thing I just don't know what to do?

OP I'm the PP who asked what the activity was. (I don't see your answer here, but forgive me if I missed it.) Is it an event for which an adult come, or a craft project to take home? At our school, many of the craft projects take multiple days, between waiting for paint to dry and children's attention spans. The teachers fit them into the rest of the activities for the day. What if the project in your case is to create a photo of your DD in a wooden frame that DD will paint? Wouldn't you rather DD participate in the project and then you could get the photo and frame when it's complete? The one thing I can guarantee you is that the activity will not be a "one day thing" because no activity lasts a full day (or even more than 1.5 hours) in a school for 5 year-olds.

[Anonymous]

My dad killed himself when I was 11. Father's Day was always hard for me, but it never occurred to me to mind that other people celebrated it. Life isn't fair, but you make the best of things with the cards that you are dealt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

I don't find OP's comments to be bitter. She's raising her child and having this irrelevant (to her?) holiday forced upon her. She shouldn't have to make her daughter sit through this and she shouldn't have to send in a surrogate male. Truthfully I would be find doing away with all holiday celebrations at school or making them super general like 'winter party' etc. Why exclude?

Why have parties at all? School should be about academics. Parties can be at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

Holidays are an important and special part of our American heritage. Celebrate them all.

Don't be bitter OP. It does your child no good.

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Schools don't do away with all holidays because not everyone feels the way you do OP. And there's nothing stupid about it.

[Anonymous]

Given that the vast majority of households don't look like a nuclear family, I'm surprised they don't make it more of a "family" or "caregiver" day and let the children choose a special family member. I can't even imagine how heartbreaking and isolating this is for some kids.

[Anonymous]

This is a tough one OP. I am a single mom also and "donuts for dads" is always a tough day for my DD. One year we went out to breakfast ourselves before school. But now she doesn't want to do that because I think that makes her feel even more different. Next year we are importing grandpa to come. But it doesn't sound like you have that option....

They always make something in class for father's as well which I think is more what you are talking about. I always tell the teacher upfront each year that I am single (no dad) just so they have it on their radar. And DD makes the fathers day gift for grandpa.

Its hard but its part of our life. We are a one parent family and as much as we both would like it to be otherwise - we have to deal with the cards we've been dealt.

I just want you to know I empathize with you.