Single mom and Father's Day at school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Ditch day.

[Anonymous]

I see this activity (whatever it is) as the perfect opportunity for you to have that all-important heart to heart with your DD about her father...explain as best you can why things didn't work out between you two and answer any questions she may have and just basically reassure her that his absence is not a reflection on her.
Waaaaaaay to many women out here with psychological and emotional issues in this era of absentee "baby daddies" - screw the damn activity make sure your daughter doesn't grow up angry and hating men or loose and just sleeping with anyone that pays her a compliment because daddy was never around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see this activity (whatever it is) as the perfect opportunity for you to have that all-important heart to heart with your DD about her father...explain as best you can why things didn't work out between you two and answer any questions she may have and just basically reassure her that his absence is not a reflection on her.
Waaaaaaay to many women out here with psychological and emotional issues in this era of absentee "baby daddies" - screw the damn activity make sure your daughter doesn't grow up angry and hating men or loose and just sleeping with anyone that pays her a compliment because daddy was never around.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't skip school, it teaches your child she has something to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

I agree.
Our school also has pet week where kids bring in pictures of their pets. We don't have one. I don't go buy one or make abig feel about not having one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+1, Our family left our abusive father when I was a tot and I never had him around (thank God!). I never had an issue celebrating Father's Day at school. Maybe talk to your child? Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

I'm also a single mother, and my sons dad lives too far to attend "donuts with dad" or whatever. I won't be attending because I went to the Mother's Day celebration. It's fine. My son gets sad about it, but he will experience sadness in life that is far more profound than this.

Let it be. The bigger a deal you make of this, the worse it will be for your child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

+1000. Too many schools are doing away with things like this because of complaints like ops. It is what it is op. The sooner you teach your child to cope the better

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

+1000. Too many schools are doing away with things like this because of complaints like ops. It is what it is op. The sooner you teach your child to cope the better

There was that one thread not long ago about a parent who wanted schools to stop having class pets because of her DC's allergies. Kids are no longer allowed to play tag because some kids got hurt and parents complained. I saw a news article that said in some HS in TX kids who graduate with honors in HS are no longer allowed to wear some item that indicates this honor because it hurts some other kids' feelings. The list keeps growing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

+1000. Too many schools are doing away with things like this because of complaints like ops. It is what it is op. The sooner you teach your child to cope the better

There was that one thread not long ago about a parent who wanted schools to stop having class pets because of her DC's allergies. Kids are no longer allowed to play tag because some kids got hurt and parents complained. I saw a news article that said in some HS in TX kids who graduate with honors in HS are no longer allowed to wear some item that indicates this honor because it hurts some other kids' feelings. The list keeps growing.

National Honors Society sashes...
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/texas-school-bars-national-honor-society-sashes-graduation-article-1.2657631

[Anonymous]

Talk to the school? Surely they have encountered this before with young children and can help you out with suggestions. You may even prepare the teacher with a quick email to explain the situation, and that you'd prefer that a card is not forced.

I would probably speak to your daughter about how to answer questions from other well-meaning parents who say stuff like "Oh Larla, where's your daddy today" when they sit next to her during a craft so she doesn't feel confused or unprepared. And if you do have a special adult male in her life - uncle, grandfather, friend's dad who can be aware and be willing to sit next to both of the girls - then you could do that. I know my DH would happily double up on charges for a school Father's Day activity if a fatherless friend of our son's asked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

+1000. Too many schools are doing away with things like this because of complaints like ops. It is what it is op. The sooner you teach your child to cope the better

There was that one thread not long ago about a parent who wanted schools to stop having class pets because of her DC's allergies. Kids are no longer allowed to play tag because some kids got hurt and parents complained. I saw a news article that said in some HS in TX kids who graduate with honors in HS are no longer allowed to wear some item that indicates this honor because it hurts some other kids' feelings. The list keeps growing.

National Honors Society sashes...
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/texas-school-bars-national-honor-society-sashes-graduation-article-1.2657631

That is some fake news right there. The school had a policy banning all club sashes, and the kids do wear honors sashes, just not that particular one.

[Anonymous]

I have done "donuts with dads" as the mom when my husband couldn't come b/c of work. You could go, or any grandpa, friend, uncle, etc.