Single mom and Father's Day at school

[Anonymous]

I do not have the time to do "Muffins with Moms" nor my husband does "Donuts with Dads". It does not even register for us and my kids do not mind.

However, if a child does not have a mom or a dad, then I am sure they are more sensitive about it. I felt bad on Grandparents day, because DH and my parents live overseas, and my kids could not bring their grandparents to school. I am sure if my parents were local, they would have ignored that day!

I wish the schools would just do "Granola with Guardians" a couple times a year and call it a day!

[Anonymous]

This may bother you a lot more than her. I agree to find a male family member or friend or go yourself.

[Anonymous]

My ex lives abroad so my DD has occasionally had to deal with events like this. I either volunteer to come or now that I know some of her friends' dads, they usually sit with their daughter and mine. When kids ask where her dad is, she tells them he lives in Spain (which is the truth). This is pretty much the way it has always been so it doesn't make her uncomfortable. It's just a fact.

[Anonymous]

We've been through this over the years, so I get where you're coming from, OP. It can feel like pouring salt into a wound. I think that pp's have touched on some important ways your child can participate, including honoring another family member, electing to do another activity, or you could approach the school.

Yes, some kids don't have mothers, but statistically it's a much higher chance that a child has been abandoned by a father than a mother. So it's not the same thing at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I disagree . This is a family holiday that does not need to be honored in school. It just reinforces the notion that there is only one type of family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any grandpas?

Op here. Wow. 3 pages to read.
No grandpas. They have never met and are not interested in child. Their choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not have the time to do "Muffins with Moms" nor my husband does "Donuts with Dads". It does not even register for us and my kids do not mind.

However, if a child does not have a mom or a dad, then I am sure they are more sensitive about it. I felt bad on Grandparents day, because DH and my parents live overseas, and my kids could not bring their grandparents to school. I am sure if my parents were local, they would have ignored that day!

I wish the schools would just do "Granola with Guardians" a couple times a year and call it a day!

Make the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Actually normal schools don't acknowledge Hallmark holidays. Thx for your input.-op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

What does the activity consist of?

I don't know. I got flowers- op

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

+ 1 agree

+1000. Too many schools are doing away with things like this because of complaints like ops. It is what it is op. The sooner you teach your child to cope the better

There was that one thread not long ago about a parent who wanted schools to stop having class pets because of her DC's allergies. Kids are no longer allowed to play tag because some kids got hurt and parents complained. I saw a news article that said in some HS in TX kids who graduate with honors in HS are no longer allowed to wear some item that indicates this honor because it hurts some other kids' feelings. The list keeps

But why must schools celebrate mothers and Father's Day at all? If you have a mom and a dad you celebrate at home. What benefit comes from making a silly gift at school? It is fine to recognize kids for academic honors that they worked for or sports achievements or that sort of thing. But why would a class enforce Mother's Day knowing that some kids would be left out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see this activity (whatever it is) as the perfect opportunity for you to have that all-important heart to heart with your DD about her father...explain as best you can why things didn't work out between you two and answer any questions she may have and just basically reassure her that his absence is not a reflection on her.
Waaaaaaay to many women out here with psychological and emotional issues in this era of absentee "baby daddies" - screw the damn activity make sure your daughter doesn't grow up angry and hating men or loose and just sleeping with anyone that pays her a compliment because daddy was never around.

Than you-op

[Anonymous]

Personally I hate the idea of letting the motherless kid or the fatherless kid make a card for an aunt etc. I would think that would serve to make them feel more different. Just don't celebrate Hallmark holidays in school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid school insists on celebrating Father's Day. Dd has heard from dad in over a year.
She's 5. What do I say? Do?
The school activity is set.

Tough. Mother's Day is also celebrated and there are children without mothers. It doesn't matter. Other children have a right to celebrate and honor their mother and father even if there are other kids without a mother or father.

Wow, you're awful.

I would not have posted this, but it definitely did rub me the wrong way that OP called the school stupid for celebrating Father's Day. This is a tough situation for her, but the alternative of having no kids celebrate their fathers to avoid it strikes me as an awful choice.

Op here. I don't think they should deal with any holidays. Not mothers, fathers, Christmas etc...it is a nondenominational school.
And Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's, sweetest, grandparents etc are bullshit-op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I hate the idea of letting the motherless kid or the fatherless kid make a card for an aunt etc. I would think that would serve to make them feel more different. Just don't celebrate Hallmark holidays in school!

This is where I am coming from. But they are and what do I do?- op

[Anonymous]

Making a motherless child celebrate Mother's Day would be like making a jew celebrate Christmas.