Husbands with SAHMs that prefer they work

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Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

And under no circumstances do men give birth and care for babies.

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

Yes. A child legally cannot work.

After a certain age they can.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

A teenager does not need constant, one on one hands on care (barring special needs). What exactly is the SAH spouse "contributing" at that point that equals an income that will benefit everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some husbands simply want to provide their wife with a nice life and have a less stressful home and schedule. Why is this so hard to understand? Work is hard and I will already be doing most of the lifting in terms of pregnancy and caring for a young child. My husband wants me to be happy and to do whatever is best for me and for our family, which may be staying home. It's not necessarily a bad thing to have a husband whose love and admiration for you isn't dependent on how much money you bring to the relationship or what you do or don't do from 9-5.

When I was dating I hated how men seemed to be so polarized about this. I have no idea if I will want to stay home with kids (probably not) but I tried to avoid men who hated sahms or who were insistent that their future wife work. I'm glad I found a man who simply wants us both to be happy.

You don't have kids yet. Cute post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

Yes, because a SAHM has a choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to be 40 and starting at an entry level position.

I did at 47 and it wasn't as hard as I thought. Almost 50 now and love my new career (RN)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

Right?!? My favorite are the SAHMs who are like "he's totally cool with it!" and would freak the eff out if their husbands said "sorry honey, done working, you get a job now, thx!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

So I'm no longer a woman? I would love to have a man stay home, raise my kids, do my laundry, clean my house, balance my budget, deal with the contractors, maintain the home and yard, handle our social calendar, and have dinner waiting for me when I got home! Shit, I wouldn't even mind if he went shopping, got his nails done, or even got fat!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

A teenager does not need constant, one on one hands on care (barring special needs). What exactly is the SAH spouse "contributing" at that point that equals an income that will benefit everyone?

Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, gift buying/wrapping, home maintenance, etc. At that point its more like a homemaker.

Also, some of us are married to husbands who make so much that the incremental income we'd bring is not needed and would barely be noticed. Its not like we are living on credit card debt or skipping college/retirement savings for me to stay home. Quite the opposite.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

And under no circumstances do men give birth and care for babies.

huh? Many men care for babies by themselves. DH had more paternity leave than me. Why is caring for babies a woman thing? You've got me on the birth part though. Wish I could outsource that to DH. I have a feeling he'd be better at pregnancy and birth than me.

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Gift buying? Really?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

So I'm no longer a woman? I would love to have a man stay home, raise my kids, do my laundry, clean my house, balance my budget, deal with the contractors, maintain the home and yard, handle our social calendar, and have dinner waiting for me when I got home! Shit, I wouldn't even mind if he went shopping, got his nails done, or even got fat!

My DH is SAH. He definitely stays home and the kids are still alive. Everything else is still at least 70/30 on me. Never works out the way you think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

A teenager does not need constant, one on one hands on care (barring special needs). What exactly is the SAH spouse "contributing" at that point that equals an income that will benefit everyone?

Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, gift buying/wrapping, home maintenance, etc. At that point its more like a homemaker.

Also, some of us are married to husbands who make so much that the incremental income we'd bring is not needed and would barely be noticed. Its not like we are living on credit card debt or skipping college/retirement savings for me to stay home. Quite the opposite.

Seems you're not the target audience for this thread. Note pissed-off husbands earlier in it. But it's cute that you call the income people mention here 'incremental." What a snooty, elitist thing to say.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot.

I bet he regrets marrying a leech.

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things? Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof? Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?

A teenager does not need constant, one on one hands on care (barring special needs). What exactly is the SAH spouse "contributing" at that point that equals an income that will benefit everyone?

Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, gift buying/wrapping, home maintenance, etc. At that point its more like a homemaker.

Also, some of us are married to husbands who make so much that the incremental income we'd bring is not needed and would barely be noticed. Its not like we are living on credit card debt or skipping college/retirement savings for me to stay home. Quite the opposite.

The difference between you and the OP seems to be you have a partner who agrees with your position of "homemaker", and you have the financial means that this arrangement is agreeable to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Under no circumstances would any woman allow a man to not work for 5+ years without small or special needs kids to deal with. If the roles were reverses most of you would utterly without pity.

Right?!? My favorite are the SAHMs who are like "he's totally cool with it!" and would freak the eff out if their husbands said "sorry honey, done working, you get a job now, thx!"

I'd be happy to. I can't earn a quarter of what he earns at any job that would hire me at this point, though, so he would a SAHD with zero household help.