Couple requested guests wear the same color for wedding

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have a problem with this request and I can absolutely see how it would make the pictures visually striking. It seems to say to the guests: "You all are a part of this wedding too!"

Weddings are not photo shoots or cinematic productions.

You can spin it any way you want, but making this kind of request of guests is rude. Period.

[Anonymous]

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Does anyone else think it is poor form to demand anything of the guests? Especially something so specific? "But my photos!" Wow.

Yes! Incredibly selfish.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ! why cant you people just chill out and go with the flow! why must everything be an issue? what miserable lives so many of you must have knowing that every time you wake up there is something you need to get pissed off about because it's "what you do".

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I think this really calls for separates. I wear white pants all summer and white tops when not wearing the pants. You can pair them together for the wedding then get some use later. Dresses are the hardest thing to fit, and white dresses seem to have only very specific purposes, like graduation, wedding, Easter, ect. lot of time looking in stores ahead ...

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Given that weddings are more of a theatrical production than a sacred rite or even a social occasion, I don't think this is an outrageous imposition on guests. I have been to three all-white weddings and it was stunning. If I hadn't found something I felt even marginally comfortable in, I would have declined the invitation. The only one that was the least bit hard was a formal white wedding and my then-BF had to rent a white tux. He looked so damn good in it (he's dark skinned) that I forgot about the expense until now and just drooled.

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Anonymous wrote:I appreciate your sympathy, but it's misplaced. Neither of the brides are wearing a gown. It's not the center of attention or bride's perfect day type wedding. It's honoring and celebrating their very long relationship, and their newly-attained right to marry.

Again, I think the monochrome thing is a neat idea. It's not an imposition. I just didn't know how white the attire is supposed to be. I see bright colors plus white aren't what's expected.

Does anyone know if white background with very mild colors is ok? I'm trying to figure out which dresses are a possibility. My bust size is about 6 dress sizes larger than the rest of me. Finding a dress is a challenge.

If I were a man and had to get a white suit I would be even more annoyed.

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Anonymous wrote:The best wedding photos are ones of joy and remembrance and softness and love. They are not the photos of your stupid wedding shoes, gown, guests all matchy matchy, or your flowers. Nobody, mind you, NOBODY cares about that stuff or would remember it in a positive way. If OP's friend is reading: get some perspective.

It sounds like you're reading too much into it. If you knew them, you'd know what you're saying is completely asinine.

I don't really need 20 responses about what you all think about the idea. I've decided how I feel about it. You weren't invited, so your opinion of the brides doesn't really matter.

You're asking for help but being snarky about it. You and the brides all seem a touch rude.

[Anonymous]

+1 really. This is DCUM. I've received help a few times here, but it always comes with the larger conversation.

[Anonymous]

What about a white wrap knit blouse paired with a very light taupe, linen, stone or nude colored skirt?

I imagine most of the men will end up in pale khaki or stone colored slacks with the white in their shirts, as there really are very few options for men's white pants, especially for men who are a little thicker through the middle.

You will blend in with the guys and still fit in with the whole white theme.

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the thought of all the male guests in white suits is making me die. Can you let me know when this is taking place so I can see it?

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Oh, who cares. The OP doesn't seem to mind. I think it's crazy, but clearly the OP is looking forward to it and needs help finding a dress.

OP, someone suggested White House Black Market. I would definitely try there. Their clerks are extremely helpful and will be able to help you put an outfit together. They might show you something that you think wouldn't look good on you, but just give it a shot and you may be surprised.

If you have no luck there, try a Nordstrom personal shopper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ! why cant you people just chill out and go with the flow! why must everything be an issue? what miserable lives so many of you must have knowing that every time you wake up there is something you need to get pissed off about because it's "what you do".

Chilling out and going with the flow? Would mean just inviting your guests and letting them decide how to dress themselves.

Asking that every *guest* (let's not forget that they are GUESTS) wear the same color is the opposite of chilling out and going with the flow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ! why cant you people just chill out and go with the flow! why must everything be an issue? what miserable lives so many of you must have knowing that every time you wake up there is something you need to get pissed off about because it's "what you do".

Chilling out and going with the flow? Would mean just inviting your guests and letting them decide how to dress themselves.

Asking that every *guest* (let's not forget that they are GUESTS) wear the same color is the opposite of chilling out and going with the flow.

Yep. Control freak in action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the thought of all the male guests in white suits is making me die. Can you let me know when this is taking place so I can see it?

I dare them to play Night Fever at the reception...

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Anonymous wrote:the thought of all the male guests in white suits is making me die. Can you let me know when this is taking place so I can see it?

It'll look like an Ice Cream Man Convention! Or a Col. Sanders Convention.

I'd have fun with this and have DH dress as David Lee Roth (as he looks in the Ice Cream Man video) or Col. Sanders, complete with black floppy ribbon tie.

For my ensemble, I might wear a vintage white starched nurses uniform with white stockings and white oxfords.

This is hilarious, OP!

Weddings are indeed carefully staged, theatrical productions now.