Couple requested guests wear the same color for wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP the only reason I responded to this thread is last week, I was walking on a bluff overlooking the ocean, and there was a gathering of people dressed in white. It was a (Jewish) wedding and they broke the glass just as we were walking by.

I had never seen anything like it, all in white, even the photographer. It was actually visually striking.

And yes, a huge imposition. Unlike the bride, I'm sure the guests haven't been working out and eating right for months, and getting their makeup done so they can look fabulous in their dress which took months to pick out.

However; it does lend a sort of cameraderie; it's a uniform, if you think about it, and tends to do what uniforms do in terms of the mental inclusiveness state of mind.

I am glad you are putting on a game face and going. I think that this situation calls for either doing it or not showing up. If someone showed up in, say, red, it not only wrecks the visual, but makes the person in red pop out, not the bride. Yikes. This makes me think that that kind of request really leaves the bride vulnerable on her day to be the center of attention.



Again, I am sympathetic and do not think this is a great idea but glad you are trying to comply.

Ugh Jews and being difficult! ?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I attended a wedding like this. I thought it was pretentious. The guests were snarly and there were a few break downs in etiquette, but everyone did wear white. Since we all had to buy something there were a lot of cheap clothes there. People who had an extra pound looked a bit uncomfortable. The bride was the kind who was oblivious to that. The groom of course, being a man, was a bit clueless. I guess it looked good in pictures, but there were not that many. The white was for the croquet game. You know, croquet on the lawn? The dress you showed is lovely, and maybe your friends mean white floral pattern, but everyone at this wedding wore solid white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate your sympathy, but it's misplaced. Neither of the brides are wearing a gown. It's not the center of attention or bride's perfect day type wedding. It's honoring and celebrating their very long relationship, and their newly-attained right to marry.

Again, I think the monochrome thing is a neat idea. It's not an imposition. I just didn't know how white the attire is supposed to be. I see bright colors plus white aren't what's expected.

Does anyone know if white background with very mild colors is ok? I'm trying to figure out which dresses are a possibility. My bust size is about 6 dress sizes larger than the rest of me. Finding a dress is a challenge.

Neither of the brides is making an effort, but you can. OK. I think buy something you like. I spent forever finding a dress for the occasion which I wore once.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have a problem with this request and I can absolutely see how it would make the pictures visually striking. It seems to say to the guests: "You all are a part of this wedding too!"

[Anonymous]

I'd stick with just white.

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[Anonymous]

The best wedding photos are ones of joy and remembrance and softness and love. They are not the photos of your stupid wedding shoes, gown, guests all matchy matchy, or your flowers. Nobody, mind you, NOBODY cares about that stuff or would remember it in a positive way. If OP's friend is reading: get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

Go to Ross, Marshall's or TJ Maxx - you might luck into something there.

I would go with plain white - no colors. If that means wearing a flowy top with white pants, so be it.

[Anonymous]

Separates are fine too.

http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/m/product/4120211624002.jsp?color=011&cm_mmc=Google-Mobile-_-PLA-_-US+-+Shopping+-+Clothing-_-Skirts&adtype=pla&product_id=34961227&adpos=1o9&creative=78481242924&device=m&matchtype=&network=g&gclid=CJPG7a6GucwCFckehgodH7cEqw#/

[Anonymous]

They're not making an effort? That's an obnoxious response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separates are fine too.

http://www.anthropologie.com/anthro/m/product/4120211624002.jsp?color=011&cm_mmc=Google-Mobile-_-PLA-_-US+-+Shopping+-+Clothing-_-Skirts&adtype=pla&product_id=34961227&adpos=1o9&creative=78481242924&device=m&matchtype=&network=g&gclid=CJPG7a6GucwCFckehgodH7cEqw#/

That's very pretty!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best wedding photos are ones of joy and remembrance and softness and love. They are not the photos of your stupid wedding shoes, gown, guests all matchy matchy, or your flowers. Nobody, mind you, NOBODY cares about that stuff or would remember it in a positive way. If OP's friend is reading: get some perspective.

It sounds like you're reading too much into it. If you knew them, you'd know what you're saying is completely asinine.

I don't really need 20 responses about what you all think about the idea. I've decided how I feel about it. You weren't invited, so your opinion of the brides doesn't really matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're not making an effort? That's an obnoxious response.

They're not making an effort but expect their guests to go out of their way to buy a new outfit in a specified color? Sounds like a lovely couple!

[Anonymous]

My aunt and her partner also did a white wedding but it was very casual so I just did white pants and blouse and pashmina (it was chilly).

I would go more casual before I'd add any color in, OP. Stick with all white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have a problem with this request and I can absolutely see how it would make the pictures visually striking. It seems to say to the guests: "You all are a part of this wedding too!"

And when you look closer -- really cheap clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They're not making an effort? That's an obnoxious response.

They're not making an effort but expect their guests to go out of their way to buy a new outfit in a specified color? Sounds like a lovely couple!

Double bridezillas!