Cannot wait for AAP decision to be out

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Anonymous wrote:I am ashamed of admitting this but the wait is killing me.

Any other parents with the same feeling?

Pace yourself, you have a long haul. Iowa algebra readiness tests, TJ test, AP/IB tests, PSATs, SATs, SAT IIs, ACTs, college acceptances..............GMATs, MCATs.................

..... cheating scandal, ADHD med addictions, suspension from college, departure from college for "personal" reasons, breakdown, marriage, divorce, disaffection with well-paid job that all of this was supposed to be leading to, inability to get job that all this was supposed to be leading to... whether kid got into AAP will seem a really ridiculous thing to have worried about by comparison.

Speaking from experience?

Not personal. Just some kids I've known.

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Anonymous wrote:FCPS teacher here. It is really sad that parents put so much stock into AAP. Children will not suffer for being in base school. When they are in high school, they all get the same choices. Parents, get a life!

It's just an extension of the competitive parenting that's flagrant in these parts since before birth. Surely you know that?

And its just wanting to know some more info about your child, so you can move onto other important things in life. No one here said their child will suffer if not into AAP. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know, and sharing that anticipation with other like minded folks.

Like if your child tried out for the soccer team, and you have to wait those 2 hours in the car while the coaches decide the final roster and post it on the locker room door. Or when your planning your child's 5th birthday, and you get excited when they blow out the candles. Or when you've wrapped Christmas presents, and you can't wait to see hte look on your child's face when they open it.

Just saying -- everyone has a different perception of life events, and you don't have to hate on a forum where like minded folks are minding their own business. No one here other than you said anything offensive to anyone else.

There are a lot of like-minded people supporting Trump for president, too. That doesn't make them right. The only hate I'm seeing is people lashing out at a teacher for stating something she might know a little about. How dare she when all you parents who have never had a kid in AAP and are on pins and needles about it certainly know better than someone whose been in education or has older kids and has seen how it all works out.

No one is lashing out at the teacher for "stating something she might know a little about." If the teacher intended to provide constructive advice, she wouldn't have ended her post with "get a life!" Clearly her intent was to be snarky. I'm sure if she had said, "as a teacher, I know it all evens out, and even if your child doesn't get into AAP, he/she will be fine. In high school they have the same opportunities, and from my experience whether a child was in AAP doesn't have a significant impact on academic success in high school, so don't stress about the result," I'm sure people would have thanked her for her reassuring words.

Or more likely, she's spouted reassuring words till she's blue in the face and still the parents have pushed and pushed and she's seen the damage to kids and schools and communities and she's fed up and trying to get people's attention.

Please come back when your kids are older.

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Anonymous wrote:FCPS teacher here. It is really sad that parents put so much stock into AAP. Children will not suffer for being in base school. When they are in high school, they all get the same choices. Parents, get a life!

It's just an extension of the competitive parenting that's flagrant in these parts since before birth. Surely you know that?

And its just wanting to know some more info about your child, so you can move onto other important things in life. No one here said their child will suffer if not into AAP. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know, and sharing that anticipation with other like minded folks.

Like if your child tried out for the soccer team, and you have to wait those 2 hours in the car while the coaches decide the final roster and post it on the locker room door. Or when your planning your child's 5th birthday, and you get excited when they blow out the candles. Or when you've wrapped Christmas presents, and you can't wait to see hte look on your child's face when they open it.

Just saying -- everyone has a different perception of life events, and you don't have to hate on a forum where like minded folks are minding their own business. No one here other than you said anything offensive to anyone else.

There are a lot of like-minded people supporting Trump for president, too. That doesn't make them right. The only hate I'm seeing is people lashing out at a teacher for stating something she might know a little about. How dare she when all you parents who have never had a kid in AAP and are on pins and needles about it certainly know better than someone whose been in education or has older kids and has seen how it all works out.

No one is lashing out at the teacher for "stating something she might know a little about." If the teacher intended to provide constructive advice, she wouldn't have ended her post with "get a life!" Clearly her intent was to be snarky. I'm sure if she had said, "as a teacher, I know it all evens out, and even if your child doesn't get into AAP, he/she will be fine. In high school they have the same opportunities, and from my experience whether a child was in AAP doesn't have a significant impact on academic success in high school, so don't stress about the result," I'm sure people would have thanked her for her reassuring words.

Or more likely, she's spouted reassuring words till she's blue in the face and still the parents have pushed and pushed and she's seen the damage to kids and schools and communities and she's fed up and trying to get people's attention.

Please come back when your kids are older.

Parents will still be anxious when their kids are older, the focus just shifts from AAP to SATs, to college admission, to grad school....I actually have a child 4 years into AAP, and I know AAP isn't the end all be all. Nevertheless, the teacher's post was meant to be snarky and condescending, and I just don't see the point in that. I was crazy and obsessive about what my first child ate, did, played with, watched....With my third I'm much more laid back because I'm more comfortable with how things will work out. I don't then decide to be condescending and snarky to first time parents who are as obsessive as I was. I say reassuring words that it gets better and move on, not "your child will live, stop hovering and get a life!"

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Or more likely, she's spouted reassuring words till she's blue in the face and still the parents have pushed and pushed and she's seen the damage to kids and schools and communities and she's fed up and trying to get people's attention.

Please come back when your kids are older.

Oh lawdy.

Tonight at 11. It's more addictive than heroin, more damaging than meth. It's AAP - the open secret that's destroying children, schools and communities. We'll hear of one teacher's desperate effort to fight back against this scourge, and about the parents trying to stop her!

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Anonymous wrote:Called AAP office .They said the Decisions will be mailed by April 2nd week

To clarify, the answer is that they are mailed by the second week of April, not during the week of April 2nd.

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Anonymous wrote:FCPS teacher here. It is really sad that parents put so much stock into AAP. Children will not suffer for being in base school. When they are in high school, they all get the same choices. Parents, get a life!

It's just an extension of the competitive parenting that's flagrant in these parts since before birth. Surely you know that?

And its just wanting to know some more info about your child, so you can move onto other important things in life. No one here said their child will suffer if not into AAP. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know, and sharing that anticipation with other like minded folks.

Like if your child tried out for the soccer team, and you have to wait those 2 hours in the car while the coaches decide the final roster and post it on the locker room door. Or when your planning your child's 5th birthday, and you get excited when they blow out the candles. Or when you've wrapped Christmas presents, and you can't wait to see hte look on your child's face when they open it.

Just saying -- everyone has a different perception of life events, and you don't have to hate on a forum where like minded folks are minding their own business. No one here other than you said anything offensive to anyone else.

There are a lot of like-minded people supporting Trump for president, too. That doesn't make them right. The only hate I'm seeing is people lashing out at a teacher for stating something she might know a little about. How dare she when all you parents who have never had a kid in AAP and are on pins and needles about it certainly know better than someone whose been in education or has older kids and has seen how it all works out.

No one is lashing out at the teacher for "stating something she might know a little about." If the teacher intended to provide constructive advice, she wouldn't have ended her post with "get a life!" Clearly her intent was to be snarky. I'm sure if she had said, "as a teacher, I know it all evens out, and even if your child doesn't get into AAP, he/she will be fine. In high school they have the same opportunities, and from my experience whether a child was in AAP doesn't have a significant impact on academic success in high school, so don't stress about the result," I'm sure people would have thanked her for her reassuring words.

Or more likely, she's spouted reassuring words till she's blue in the face and still the parents have pushed and pushed and she's seen the damage to kids and schools and communities and she's fed up and trying to get people's attention.

Please come back when your kids are older.

Parents will still be anxious when their kids are older, the focus just shifts from AAP to SATs, to college admission, to grad school....I actually have a child 4 years into AAP, and I know AAP isn't the end all be all. Nevertheless, the teacher's post was meant to be snarky and condescending, and I just don't see the point in that. I was crazy and obsessive about what my first child ate, did, played with, watched....With my third I'm much more laid back because I'm more comfortable with how things will work out. I don't then decide to be condescending and snarky to first time parents who are as obsessive as I was. I say reassuring words that it gets better and move on, not "your child will live, stop hovering and get a life!"

Actually it never stops - at least not for the ambitious (and D.C. is all about that). The focus just shifts to:

-college admissions

-college GPA - is it enough for grad school?

-GMAT/LSAT scores - enough for law/med school?

-law review - only the top 5% need apply

-law firm - which one is the best?

-did you make partner? (were you even on "partner track" to begin with??)

-now that you've made partner, are you a sufficient rain maker?

-why aren't you married yet? / why no grandkids?


Finally, you reach retirement/old age. Then it's time to take a breather, and re-hash your life's regrets.

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PP, what a sad life you just described. What's the grand purpose in all of it?

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Anonymous wrote:PP, what a sad life you just described. What's the grand purpose in all of it?

Good question PP. Glad you found your happy place. But how did you kids take it when you told them not to worry about grades, college and career?

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Anonymous wrote:PP, what a sad life you just described. What's the grand purpose in all of it?

I wish I knew what it was (or at least where to find it).

But wherever the answer lies hidden, I'm fairly sure it isn't in D.C. Hope one day to get away from here; will try to make the best of it until then.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, what a sad life you just described. What's the grand purpose in all of it?

I wish I knew what it was (or at least where to find it).

But wherever the answer lies hidden, I'm fairly sure it isn't in D.C. Hope one day to get away from here; will try to make the best of it until then.

What a trooper you are!

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Anonymous wrote:FCPS teacher here. It is really sad that parents put so much stock into AAP. Children will not suffer for being in base school. When they are in high school, they all get the same choices. Parents, get a life!

It's just an extension of the competitive parenting that's flagrant in these parts since before birth. Surely you know that?

And its just wanting to know some more info about your child, so you can move onto other important things in life. No one here said their child will suffer if not into AAP. There's nothing wrong with wanting to know, and sharing that anticipation with other like minded folks.

Like if your child tried out for the soccer team, and you have to wait those 2 hours in the car while the coaches decide the final roster and post it on the locker room door. Or when your planning your child's 5th birthday, and you get excited when they blow out the candles. Or when you've wrapped Christmas presents, and you can't wait to see hte look on your child's face when they open it.

Just saying -- everyone has a different perception of life events, and you don't have to hate on a forum where like minded folks are minding their own business. No one here other than you said anything offensive to anyone else.

There are a lot of like-minded people supporting Trump for president, too. That doesn't make them right. The only hate I'm seeing is people lashing out at a teacher for stating something she might know a little about. How dare she when all you parents who have never had a kid in AAP and are on pins and needles about it certainly know better than someone whose been in education or has older kids and has seen how it all works out.

No one is lashing out at the teacher for "stating something she might know a little about." If the teacher intended to provide constructive advice, she wouldn't have ended her post with "get a life!" Clearly her intent was to be snarky. I'm sure if she had said, "as a teacher, I know it all evens out, and even if your child doesn't get into AAP, he/she will be fine. In high school they have the same opportunities, and from my experience whether a child was in AAP doesn't have a significant impact on academic success in high school, so don't stress about the result," I'm sure people would have thanked her for her reassuring words.

Or more likely, she's spouted reassuring words till she's blue in the face and still the parents have pushed and pushed and she's seen the damage to kids and schools and communities and she's fed up and trying to get people's attention.

Please come back when your kids are older.

Parents will still be anxious when their kids are older, the focus just shifts from AAP to SATs, to college admission, to grad school....I actually have a child 4 years into AAP, and I know AAP isn't the end all be all. Nevertheless, the teacher's post was meant to be snarky and condescending, and I just don't see the point in that. I was crazy and obsessive about what my first child ate, did, played with, watched....With my third I'm much more laid back because I'm more comfortable with how things will work out. I don't then decide to be condescending and snarky to first time parents who are as obsessive as I was. I say reassuring words that it gets better and move on, not "your child will live, stop hovering and get a life!"

Actually it never stops - at least not for the ambitious (and D.C. is all about that). The focus just shifts to:

-college admissions

-college GPA - is it enough for grad school?

-GMAT/LSAT scores - enough for law/med school?

-law review - only the top 5% need apply

-law firm - which one is the best?

-did you make partner? (were you even on "partner track" to begin with??)

-now that you've made partner, are you a sufficient rain maker?

-why aren't you married yet? / why no grandkids?


Finally, you reach retirement/old age. Then it's time to take a breather, and re-hash your life's regrets.

You forgot:

- do we live in the hippest, trendiest neighborhood?
- do we eat at restaurants that prove we're into diverse, edgy cuisines?
- do we vacation in places that make people think we're adventurous?
- do we belong to the right swim/tennis/country club?
- did Larla get into the right pre-school?
- does our base school have a rating of 8 or higher on Great Schools?
- will Larla get into AAP, then TJ, then Stanford?

Oh wait, here we go again.....

[Anonymous]

Ha! YES to most of what you listed (guess I need to complain less); all except:

-will Larla get into AAP??

Reassure me here: in pool with a point or two to spare; GBRS 13 & strong recommendation package (according to coordinator - or was she just being nice?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! YES to most of what you listed (guess I need to complain less); all except:

-will Larla get into AAP??

Reassure me here: in pool with a point or two to spare; GBRS 13 & strong recommendation package (according to coordinator - or was she just being nice?).

Sounds good to me. Our pool kid got in with a 12 GBRS and our AART was very tight-lipped. So we were very uncertain until the letter came.

[Anonymous]

Two quick questions. Do they let you know if you don't get in. Do the letter come directly from the AAP office or do they send it to the schools first and then the schools mail the letters to the families. TIA.

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Anonymous wrote:Two quick questions. Do they let you know if you don't get in. Do the letter come directly from the AAP office or do they send it to the schools first and then the schools mail the letters to the families. TIA.

You find out either way if you hold is admitted or not. I think what happens is the central office prepares the letters and they are sent to the kids schools. Then information on orientation or how to appeal is included Witt the letter. Schools then mail the letters home.