Cold feet about starting infertility treatments

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What exactly are you looking for by way of support? Most of the people I know have only had "online" support and a DH who is there when he needs to be, gives shots, etc., but is not at most (or any) appointments.

+1. I only consulted "ONLINE" and DH. No one else while going at IVF. I do not prefer to disclose my most private information to anyone but me and DH. But that is individual dependent. OP, if you need a real person listening to your concern, your RE and nurse may be able to connect you to their patients? (not sure if that is allowed but never hurt to ask?).

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Anonymous wrote:OP, can you do this in your home country while on vacation? Your family will provide the support you need. Or bring your parents here temporarily?

OP here. What do you mean by home country? This is my home country. We just don't have any local family, and family is far away (and unsupportive of infertility treatments so I don't share anything with them).

I do have a therapist which has been helpful but I unfortunately can only see her once a month due to cost.

I have looked into support groups on the Resolve website but there are none near me, it's hard for me to go to evening support groups b/c of childcare issues, I'd need to get a sitter which is difficult and expensive, and the fact that there are none close to me makes it harder to get there on a weeknight.

I have shared our infertility issues with friends, but none have gone through IVF, so while they can listen there's not much in the way of support they can offer.

What exactly are you looking for by way of support? Most of the people I know have only had "online" support and a DH who is there when he needs to be, gives shots, etc., but is not at most (or any) appointments.

OP here. By support I mean someone to talk through and to empathize with all the emotions/feelings I have about this whole process. I am scared of putting hormones into my body and scared of the side effects, I'm scared of the egg retrieval procedure, I'm anxious about this not working and the time/expense involved, and then what will we do? How many IVFs do we do before we give up and accept our infertility and being one and done? I need someone to talk about all this with, on a daily basis. I can only see my therapist once a month due to cost, my parents are unsupportive, my husband doesn't seem interested in being supportive emotionally. So I feel very alone in an existential sense going through all this.

How did you manage to go through your first pregnancy, labor, delivery and first couple of months of being a first time mom?
If there is a child in your care who is alive and well then you're a competent adult. I don't get the helpless scared little girl act at all.

Not OP, but I was way more fearful of IVF than labor and delivery, because I'm terrible with needles. I don't get OP at all, but for entirely different reasons, such as why she won't ever answer the hard but reasonable questions people are asking here.

[Anonymous]

Can you pay for a few extra sessions with your therapist just for the next few weeks?

And my only advice is take it one day at a time. Quit thinking about what might happen next week or next month. Focus on today and what has to happen today. Tomorrow will take care of itself.