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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, can you do this in your home country while on vacation? Your family will provide the support you need. Or bring your parents here temporarily?[/quote]

OP here.  What do you mean by home country?  This is my home country.  We just don't have any local family, and family is far away (and unsupportive of infertility treatments so I don't share anything with them).

I do have a therapist which has been helpful but I unfortunately can only see her once a month due to cost.

I have looked into support groups on the Resolve website but there are none near me, it's hard for me to go to evening support groups  b/c of childcare issues, I'd need to get a sitter which is difficult and expensive, and the fact that there are none close to me makes it harder to get there on a weeknight.

I have shared our infertility issues with friends, but none have gone through IVF, so while they can listen there's not much in the way of support they can offer.[/quote]

What exactly are you looking for by way of support?  Most of the people I know have only had "online" support and a DH who is there when he needs to be, gives shots, etc., but is not at most (or any) appointments.[/quote]

OP here.  By support I mean someone to talk through and to empathize with all the emotions/feelings I have about this whole process.  I am scared of putting hormones into my body and scared of the side effects, I'm scared of the egg retrieval procedure, I'm anxious about this not working and the time/expense involved, and then what will we do?  How many IVFs do we do before we give up and accept our infertility and being one and done?  I need someone to talk about all this with, on a daily basis.  I can only see my therapist once a month due to cost, my parents are unsupportive, my husband doesn't seem interested in being supportive emotionally.  So I feel very alone in an existential sense going through all this.[/quote]

How did you manage to go through your first pregnancy, labor, delivery and first couple of months of being a first time mom? 
If there is a child in your care who is alive and well then you're a competent adult. I don't get the helpless scared little girl act at all.
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Not OP, but I was way more fearful of IVF than labor and delivery, because I'm terrible with needles.  I don't get OP at all, but for entirely different reasons, such as why she won't ever answer the hard but reasonable questions people are asking here.[/quote]

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