Estranged and it feels so good

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how you will feel when it is your children judging and cutting you off?

NP here. There's always one of you who has no idea what it's like to have a toxic parent. And, who doesn't believe how painful and horrible it is.

Go F yourself.

Same here. I have parents who mean well but are emotionally abusive. To the point I was suicidal in high school and the nuns in my Catholic school wanted to report them to CPS.

I cut them off about 5-6 years ago finally.

I find it absolutely irritating when other relatives periodically bring up how 'hurt' my parents are.

Ughh. Leave me alone.

[Anonymous]

We have been honest with our child about the estrangement and have assured her that we expect her to live her life as she sees fit. If my child has reason to protect herself from me then she has every right to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life is far too short to force yourself to be surrounded by people who truly do not love nor respect you. Estrangement is sad but also, very therapeutic. Anyone who has gone through this understands that it is both a blessing and a curse but always a cure.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

This is the best thing I've ever read about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

This is the best thing I've ever read about this.

Great article.

[Anonymous]

Don't sick people usually come from sick early childhood environment/parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't sick people usually come from sick early childhood environment/parents?

What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my DD grows up to hate me I will know it's my fault not hers. Letting go of toxic people is indeed freeing. My husband and I have been very honest with our child about the reasons and the circumstances of our estrangement from her grandparents. She has every right to expect to live her life filled with people who love her and not only themselves.

Anybody who uses the term "toxic" regarding people other than themselves has spent too much time on their own feelings and is self absorbed. It's a red flag identifying people who have literally no ability to admit their own deficiencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my DD grows up to hate me I will know it's my fault not hers. Letting go of toxic people is indeed freeing. My husband and I have been very honest with our child about the reasons and the circumstances of our estrangement from her grandparents. She has every right to expect to live her life filled with people who love her and not only themselves.

Anybody who uses the term "toxic" regarding people other than themselves has spent too much time on their own feelings and is self absorbed. It's a red flag identifying people who have literally no ability to admit their own deficiencies.

Same goes for the term "emotionally abusive".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my DD grows up to hate me I will know it's my fault not hers. Letting go of toxic people is indeed freeing. My husband and I have been very honest with our child about the reasons and the circumstances of our estrangement from her grandparents. She has every right to expect to live her life filled with people who love her and not only themselves.

Anybody who uses the term "toxic" regarding people other than themselves has spent too much time on their own feelings and is self absorbed. It's a red flag identifying people who have literally no ability to admit their own deficiencies.

Same goes for the term "emotionally abusive".

Damn! How did my mother find DCUM?! Folks, just ignore her. This is her method of getting engagement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

This is the best thing I've ever read about this.

Great article.

Wow. It certainly is. Thanks for sharing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my DD grows up to hate me I will know it's my fault not hers. Letting go of toxic people is indeed freeing. My husband and I have been very honest with our child about the reasons and the circumstances of our estrangement from her grandparents. She has every right to expect to live her life filled with people who love her and not only themselves.

Anybody who uses the term "toxic" regarding people other than themselves has spent too much time on their own feelings and is self absorbed. It's a red flag identifying people who have literally no ability to admit their own deficiencies.

Same goes for the term "emotionally abusive".

I wish DCUM wasn't anonymous so I could identify and avoid the defensive people. Attitudes like yours are common among people who like to bully others into accepting the crap you dole out.

Offspring aren't captive audiences. You abuse us and we leave.

FYI also-- recent studies demonstrate that childhood emotional trauma actually takes longer to cure than physical trauma.

Not as long as it takes to cure stupidity though.