Hate being a woman in the the dating scene

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

No it's not. Are you saying that your grandmother or anyones grandma who had up to 15 kids but didn't put out on the first date had a sexless marriage? Just because we are a modern society doesn't mean we should do what everyone else expects us to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

No it's not. Are you saying that your grandmother or anyones grandma who had up to 15 kids but didn't put out on the first date had a sexless marriage? Just because we are a modern society doesn't mean we should do what everyone else expects us to do.

Yeah, it is. My grandma had an out-of-wedlock baby before getting married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

Oh, I'm over myself. I'm happily married OP is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

Oh, I'm over myself. I'm happily married OP is not.

+1! Another happily married woman here. DC has had an unwritten third date rule pretty much since the 1980s! I had a fifth date rule myself and I let him know this because I wanted him to know that I really wanted to get to know him first. Now, of course, I realize that you can't really know someone that early on, but when can you really know anyone? Anyway, sure enough DH and I had sex on the fifth date, and it did develop into a relationship, but there are no guarantees.

The point is that everyone is busy, this guy is devoting time to OP, and OP is unsure of what she wants. OP, figure it out, and tell him ... or the next guy, whatever works out ... but remember that both parties have expectations, realistic or not.

Oh, BTW, Washington is not #5 in STD rates, it's #10: https://www.stdcheck.com/blog/top-10-us-cities-positive-std-tests/

[Anonymous]

Heh you so called (happily married) women wouldnt be on here if you didnt have issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

Oh, I'm over myself. I'm happily married OP is not.

+1! Another happily married woman here. DC has had an unwritten third date rule pretty much since the 1980s! I had a fifth date rule myself and I let him know this because I wanted him to know that I really wanted to get to know him first. Now, of course, I realize that you can't really know someone that early on, but when can you really know anyone? Anyway, sure enough DH and I had sex on the fifth date, and it did develop into a relationship, but there are no guarantees.

The point is that everyone is busy, this guy is devoting time to OP, and OP is unsure of what she wants. OP, figure it out, and tell him ... or the next guy, whatever works out ... but remember that both parties have expectations, realistic or not.

Oh, BTW, Washington is not #5 in STD rates, it's #10: https://www.stdcheck.com/blog/top-10-us-cities-positive-std-tests/

10 in the US is pretty high but it is 5 for hiv. So say you or the OP arr browsing tinder the number 1 hookup app for women and you meet a guy and hit it off and hookup then he tells you that he was a sex offender would you feel slezy or great for giving it up to him now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

Oh, I'm over myself. I'm happily married OP is not.

+1! Another happily married woman here. DC has had an unwritten third date rule pretty much since the 1980s! I had a fifth date rule myself and I let him know this because I wanted him to know that I really wanted to get to know him first. Now, of course, I realize that you can't really know someone that early on, but when can you really know anyone? Anyway, sure enough DH and I had sex on the fifth date, and it did develop into a relationship, but there are no guarantees.

The point is that everyone is busy, this guy is devoting time to OP, and OP is unsure of what she wants. OP, figure it out, and tell him ... or the next guy, whatever works out ... but remember that both parties have expectations, realistic or not.

Oh, BTW, Washington is not #5 in STD rates, it's #10: https://www.stdcheck.com/blog/top-10-us-cities-positive-std-tests/

10 in the US is pretty high but it is 5 for hiv. So say you or the OP arr browsing tinder the number 1 hookup app for women and you meet a guy and hit it off and hookup then he tells you that he was a sex offender would you feel slezy or great for giving it up to him now?

Excuse me, what you talking about? This is one of the most confusing posts I've ever read on DCUM, and that says so much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heh you so called (happily married) women wouldnt be on here if you didnt have issues.

Actually, I'm here for entertainment because DCUM can be so hilarious! I'm sorry that OP is creating so much drama for herself over a third date at her age -- realistically OP, it's just a third date! -- but everyone has issues everywhere and one of OP's issues is that she doesn't know what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heh you so called (happily married) women wouldnt be on here if you didnt have issues.

I'm a happily married man. I go to recent topics often. I usually learn something. And sometimes I get pulled into threads like this...

[Anonymous]

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Gross! So you'd sleep with a woman after a few dates? You don't know her. What is you end up with sores or bumps for life? oh wait nevermind i guess if you are doing this on a regular basis you already got every skin disease known to man.

Yes, I would. Most people do this also.

As for skin disease, I slept with a lot of women in my 20s', and never once got a skin disease.. and I wasn't that careful either. It's just not that common.

If not the big H then you probably got chlamydia or gonorrhea since you weren't 'that careful'. Yes it is actually common. DC has the highest number at number 5 of STD occurences.

Chlamydia and gonorrhea are not skin diseases. I did get those in my 20s 2-3 times, and antibiotics cleared it up. This was from almost 10 years of really wild behavior. I guess I'm just lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heh you so called (happily married) women wouldnt be on here if you didnt have issues.

People may have issues not related to their marriages. Shocking, I know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not playing hard to get.

I'm just want to get to know someone well before sleeping with him. I don't want to sleep with someone too soon and then find out later he's a jerk or doesn't like me.

Oh poor you. You sound like a teenager. No relationship lasts forever and you're not entitled to any specific length of a relationship, be it long or short. You're lucky if this guy sticks around for another date, with the way you're treating him. If you treated me this way, I'd never talk to you again.

If you're not attracted to him, find someone else's time to waste.

Ignore this person. Not having sex by the third date is mistreating someone? Give me a break.

I'm sorry, OP. This sucks, but clearly this guy was looking for sex, and recognized you were looking for more. It would have been worse if you slept together, then he disappeared. He isn't the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how people end up in sexless marriages.

I'm female, and I still don't get this. If you are not interested in the carnal side of things, why date at all? Get out with friends who don't mind keeping it completely platonic.

Because not everyone thinks like you? Get over yourself.

Oh, I'm over myself. I'm happily married OP is not.

LMFAO. LOVE your response

Man here and agree, leave the guy alone because he actually has a libido. Let him find a match. OP needs to find a low drive deeb.