Hate being a woman in the the dating scene

[Anonymous]

Well OP there is something very glaring about all this that I think you don't want to face up to--maybe there ARE some women who are so DESIRABLE they can make attractive guys, with lots of options, WAIT indefinitely for the sex.

But evidently that is not YOU.

You are puzzled and frustrated because you want to make guys you admit you are attracted to, "wait" for some unknown time period before you feel "comfortable" enough to actually have sex with the guy. And those guys don't want to wait around for you.

Why is that?

You want to believe it's because all those guys are rude jerks.

But that's not it, at all.

They're not waiting for you because they believe, for some reason or other, that you are not worth the wait.

That doesn't make them jerks.

It makes you not worth the wait--to them.

So move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well OP there is something very glaring about all this that I think you don't want to face up to--maybe there ARE some women who are so DESIRABLE they can make attractive guys, with lots of options, WAIT indefinitely for the sex.

But evidently that is not YOU.

You are puzzled and frustrated because you want to make guys you admit you are attracted to, "wait" for some unknown time period before you feel "comfortable" enough to actually have sex with the guy. And those guys don't want to wait around for you.

Why is that?

You want to believe it's because all those guys are rude jerks.

But that's not it, at all.

They're not waiting for you because they believe, for some reason or other, that you are not worth the wait.

That doesn't make them jerks.

It makes you not worth the wait--to them.

So move on.

Eh, I'm an extremely attractive woman, I would say a solid 9.

I've held off on sex and had guys lose interest.

Men are men, not all that bright and when they get "denied" (funny choice of words since it implies they were owed it) sex, something goes off in their brain, like some weird "fuck you" switch. I've had guys act in all sorts of crazy ways.

Never forget- Halle Berry, Eva Longoria, Christie freaking Brinkley were all cheated on. It doesnt necessarily mean he doesnt think she's worth it... he could very well just be a jerk.

Anyway, it doesnt matter, cause it's onwards and upwards for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well OP there is something very glaring about all this that I think you don't want to face up to--maybe there ARE some women who are so DESIRABLE they can make attractive guys, with lots of options, WAIT indefinitely for the sex.

But evidently that is not YOU.

You are puzzled and frustrated because you want to make guys you admit you are attracted to, "wait" for some unknown time period before you feel "comfortable" enough to actually have sex with the guy. And those guys don't want to wait around for you.

Why is that?

You want to believe it's because all those guys are rude jerks.

But that's not it, at all.

They're not waiting for you because they believe, for some reason or other, that you are not worth the wait.

That doesn't make them jerks.

It makes you not worth the wait--to them.

So move on.

Eh, I'm an extremely attractive woman, I would say a solid 9.

I've held off on sex and had guys lose interest.

Men are men, not all that bright and when they get "denied" (funny choice of words since it implies they were owed it) sex, something goes off in their brain, like some weird "fuck you" switch. I've had guys act in all sorts of crazy ways.

Never forget- Halle Berry, Eva Longoria, Christie freaking Brinkley were all cheated on. It doesnt necessarily mean he doesnt think she's worth it... he could very well just be a jerk.

Anyway, it doesnt matter, cause it's onwards and upwards for OP.

Sorry PP you're not a "solid 9." LOL. Self-reporting bias. Men don't lose interest in solid 9's. If you were actually a solid 9 you would NEVER be without a man. EVER. Unless of course your supposed physical beauty was offset by a horrible personality.

But something's telling me you've got the horrible personality but aren't a solid 9 either which is basically like rolling snake eyes.

[Anonymous]

^I'm never without male attention, whether I have a steady man in my life is entirely up to me.


Your assessment of "If you are a 9 you always have a man" is absurd- plenty of supermodels and gorgeous actresses are single and have been for a while.

As for OP, the guy losing interest could have zippo to do with her and everything to do with him (this is likely the case).

You seem to think being beautiful insulates a woman from any kind of rejection or experience of sexism, which says a lot about your views on women and gender relations. In fact, that's not the case, at all.

But please- continue mansplaining to women what life is like for us, what we go through, our life experiences. It's interesting fan fiction, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^I'm never without male attention, whether I have a steady man in my life is entirely up to me.


Your assessment of "If you are a 9 you always have a man" is absurd- plenty of supermodels and gorgeous actresses are single and have been for a while.

As for OP, the guy losing interest could have zippo to do with her and everything to do with him (this is likely the case).

You seem to think being beautiful insulates a woman from any kind of rejection or experience of sexism, which says a lot about your views on women and gender relations. In fact, that's not the case, at all.

But please- continue mansplaining to women what life is like for us, what we go through, our life experiences. It's interesting fan fiction, at least.

So the reason you've concluded you're a solid 9 is that you're lonely a lot and you've delusionally concluded based on zero evidence that lots of supermodels and gorgeous actresses are single, therefore, you must be the equivalent of a supermodel or gorgeous actress????

I will repeat, a solid 9 (whatever you think that means) ALWAYS has men available to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I'm never without male attention, whether I have a steady man in my life is entirely up to me.


Your assessment of "If you are a 9 you always have a man" is absurd- plenty of supermodels and gorgeous actresses are single and have been for a while.

As for OP, the guy losing interest could have zippo to do with her and everything to do with him (this is likely the case).

You seem to think being beautiful insulates a woman from any kind of rejection or experience of sexism, which says a lot about your views on women and gender relations. In fact, that's not the case, at all.

But please- continue mansplaining to women what life is like for us, what we go through, our life experiences. It's interesting fan fiction, at least.

So the reason you've concluded you're a solid 9 is that you're lonely a lot and you've delusionally concluded based on zero evidence that lots of supermodels and gorgeous actresses are single, therefore, you must be the equivalent of a supermodel or gorgeous actress????

I will repeat, a solid 9 (whatever you think that means) ALWAYS has men available to her.

LMAO. That reach. Who said I was lonely a lot? Bro, I'm not the one trolling women in the relationship forum at 12:30 at night, take a look in the damn mirror.

I always have lots of men "available to me", as I'm sure many women do. I honestly dont know why you seem so obsessed with sussing out women's appearance? As if it's the only thing that matters? As the examples I gave you point out, appearance is certainly not everything, and is no guarantee of relationship success or fidelity.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm early 30s and it sounds like we're similar on waiting. Just remember that if this doesn't work out, there will be another good guy coming who is probably more suited for you. The guy for you will be on the same page with the things that matters. It's just that simple.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Boo hoo. You should try dating from the man's side for a while. You have not the slightest idea what rejection is like!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm early 30s and it sounds like we're similar on waiting. Just remember that if this doesn't work out, there will be another good guy coming who is probably more suited for you. The guy for you will be on the same page with the things that matters. It's just that simple.

Seriously OP. There's nothing that says letting a guy know you're interested in him = sleeping with him before you're ready. As long as you are holding up your end of the communications, reaching out, making plans - in other words, actively participating in the relationship, any guy who isn't an asshole will recognize your worth and the sex will happen when you're both on the same page about it. Don't ever feel pressured into giving someone access to your body to keep their interest.