How would you feel/ react?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume your over the top reaction is due to post pregnancy hormones and newborn sleep depravation.

Your DH has done nothing wrong. It also wouldn't be wrong if he went to this business dinner.

I didn't see an over the top reaction. What did OP do that was over the top?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how op will feel in 5 years when ex has partnered with someone else to what turns out to be the next billion dollar breakthrough idea, knowing she and her insecurity blocked her own blessing.

Yeah, I wouldn't care. My marriage is worth more than that. As billion dollar ideas......I will take this risk. Because that's pretty rare.

Really? Because your reaction tells me the exact opposite.You have no faith in your DH or your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume your over the top reaction is due to post pregnancy hormones and newborn sleep depravation.

Your DH has done nothing wrong. It also wouldn't be wrong if he went to this business dinner.

I didn't see an over the top reaction. What did OP do that was over the top?

The entire thread is an overreaction. Op bring angry is an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO. Not in this lifetime. She had her chance.

Don't listen to the cheaters here. They have no morals.

I'm a pp not a cheater. Neither is my husband, just been married long enough to know playing babysitter is not worth it and freaking out on someone for not reacting like you want them to is a relationship killer.
He didn't marry her.
He married you.
If you want to make it to 23 or 33 or even 53 years with this man, you have to get over the fact that he was with someone before you therin lies your insecurity. Deep down it bothers you that you weren't the first woman DH was engaged to, that you got together quickly after they split.

+1 but let's be real this marriage ain't making it to 5 years.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed by her. I would have no issue with how DH handled it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO. Not in this lifetime. She had her chance.

Don't listen to the cheaters here. They have no morals.

I'm a pp not a cheater. Neither is my husband, just been married long enough to know playing babysitter is not worth it and freaking out on someone for not reacting like you want them to is a relationship killer.
He didn't marry her.
He married you.
If you want to make it to 23 or 33 or even 53 years with this man, you have to get over the fact that he was with someone before you therin lies your insecurity. Deep down it bothers you that you weren't the first woman DH was engaged to, that you got together quickly after they split.

+1 but let's be real this marriage ain't making it to 5 years.

Don't be crazy. I have been married 23 years and I would.be furious about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NO. Not in this lifetime. She had her chance.

Don't listen to the cheaters here. They have no morals.

I'm a pp not a cheater. Neither is my husband, just been married long enough to know playing babysitter is not worth it and freaking out on someone for not reacting like you want them to is a relationship killer.
He didn't marry her.
He married you.
If you want to make it to 23 or 33 or even 53 years with this man, you have to get over the fact that he was with someone before you therin lies your insecurity. Deep down it bothers you that you weren't the first woman DH was engaged to, that you got together quickly after they split.

+1 but let's be real this marriage ain't making it to 5 years.

Don't be crazy. I have been married 23 years and I would.be furious about this.

That's a good point a lot of emotionally immature people get married and unhealthy marriage last for years

[Anonymous]

He totally started dating you or talking to you before things ended with her. Deep down you know this, which is why you are angry and fearful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have your husband invite her over to your house for a meal with the family followed up with a business conversation over coffee and dessert. If she is full of it she won't touch that invitation with a 10 ft. pole.

I dont really want to host my husband's ex.
Especially with a baby at home. Plus, we are in a tiny rental for a few months until we get our house.

So you *are* insecure.

[Anonymous]

Well, he chose you.

He also seems to have a track record of respectful breakups.m

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you go with him? Business is business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how op will feel in 5 years when ex has partnered with someone else to what turns out to be the next billion dollar breakthrough idea, knowing she and her insecurity blocked her own blessing.

Well, this thread is about 5-1/2 years old so maybe OP will come back and let us know how it worked out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have your husband invite her over to your house for a meal with the family followed up with a business conversation over coffee and dessert. If she is full of it she won't touch that invitation with a 10 ft. pole.

I dont really want to host my husband's ex.
Especially with a baby at home. Plus, we are in a tiny rental for a few months until we get our house.

DP but I thought along these lines too— “sure my wife and I are free on Thursday for dinner at Fiona Mare. Oh just me? No, it’s a family business” and then girl bye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have your husband invite her over to your house for a meal with the family followed up with a business conversation over coffee and dessert. If she is full of it she won't touch that invitation with a 10 ft. pole.

I dont really want to host my husband's ex.
Especially with a baby at home. Plus, we are in a tiny rental for a few months until we get our house.

So you *are* insecure.

I would imagine its sleep deprivation and not enough space to host. Plus with a new baby, I wouldn't want to be cooking for an ex of DH I was tired!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you're angry at your husband, and insecure in your relationship. Be happy he's passing on getting "business" from her and move on.

LOL, of course I am angry! I am.
I dont think I am insecure though. I cant imagine emailing another woman's husband and asking him out to dinner!!

Is that because you can't imagine going to dinner with a person of the opposite gender in a platonic fashion? Personally, I would not say no, because why would I worry about him cheating on me? Even if his ex came by and tried to hit on him, I trust him to say no thank you. Clearly he likes and loves me more than he likes/loves her - I'm the one he married.

Even if you can't imagine other folks' motivations, you should give it a try. And if that doesn't work, why don't you say yes, but then suggest you go with? You'll be able to see how the whole thing plays out.