I was stood up:(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was my first attempt at trying online dating. I figured he had another woman or he might be married. That seems like the only logical explanation. I feel more of just stupid than anything.

one thing from online dating that I learned - don't waste too much time interacting before meeting in person. The phone/e-mail/text version of a person is different from who he is in real life. Not necessarily worse, just different. By the time I finished up online dating, I would do one e-mail exchange, one phone call, and then a short date - coffee, not dinner. As you realize now, you put a lot of emotional energy into something that never panned out. Remember that dating is a numbers game. Meet as many people as possible. (I eventually met DH on match.com)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all again. I am not crazy, I guess I'm in a vulnerable state where a lot of things aren't going right in my life. I hung on to what I thought would be a fun and joyous experience with this guy.

To clear this up. I used the words " family trumps stranger" on here but not to him. I cancelled like two days in advance and let him know the reason. Moving the meeting up this time was only so I could meet with a school advisor ( only time they had). I let him know like 10 hours in advance. I didn't think it was a huge deal but maybe it was.

I still think no explanation and then blocking is BS. This is the first time I reached out since Saturday afternoon. I was wondering if maybe something happened to him or his child. I will not be reaching out again or think of him but no explanation shows how much of a coward he is.

You keep missing the point. Again, it doesn't matter WHY he stood you up. What matters is that he stood you up. This person is not worth the five pages of this thread we have all spent trying to knock it into your head that he ain't shit. There are other -- better, more honorable and reliable -- men out there. Find one and date him.

[Anonymous]

At least he didn't literally stand you up.

Do you think he could have seen you waiting for him, then left immediately?

Or perhaps he got "cold feet" at the last minute and changed his mind.

Either way, he isn't worth it. When a person shows you their true colors, always believe them the first time.

I am not trying to trivialize what happened, I am just hoping to offer some clarity. I totally understand your disappointment, but always be cautious when talking to ANYONE prior to meeting in person. Even then it can be tricky, but it can be especially tricky if you have never met face-to-face.

Don't lose the faith, your dream guy is still out there. Keep searching for him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talked to what I thought to be a great guy online. We have been talking for 4-5 weeks, give or take.

WAY WAY WAAAAAY too much talking, not enough action.

+1M

This is why you meet quickly - after two or three exchanges - for some low-cost (time, money, risk) thing like coffee or a drink.