I was stood up:(
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So about 20 something years ago, I was stood up. A year ago, ran into the same man again, who apologized profusely for his behavior (he remembered? Really?) and told me he was going through some bad stuff then, but it was no excuse.
We are now good friends. Moral: Don't take it personally. It's usually him |
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Anonymous
| OP here. I called just one last time and it appears he blocked me. Normally I would only block a crazy person so I don't get why he stood me up and them blocked me.. |
Anonymous
| OP, enough about this loser. Stop wasting your time thinking about him. You know all you need to know! |
Anonymous
Well you sound crazy here so.... I mean, who really cares WHY he stood you up, the fact is he STOOD YOU UP. That tells you everything you need to know about this man. They WHY is not going to change anything that happened. The blocked phone just underscores that he is a jerk. Take the lesson and move on. |
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Because he's embarrassed and ashamed, and doesn't want to deal with the consequences of his actions. Or he does this to everyone, for whatever twisted reason. Or he's a drug addict. Who knows, really -- but I'm sure his ex-wife could tell you a thing or two. And just because you sky ped with him doesn't mean he is who he says he is Look, I understand how powerful it can be, making a connection with someone new after a painful break-up. But you didn't know him. He is basically a stranger to you. And you still seem to be finding ways to be down about yourself instead of about this yodel-head, despite the feedback you've gotten here. So perhaps you're not quite ready to date, at least online, with total strangers - and there's no shame in that. |
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| This sounds like the RI dater getting back into the dating game. The "needing to know why", can't let it go, 27 yr old single girl just dating after ex-boyfriend ....if not, you kinda sound desperate. |
Anonymous
| OP no offense but you sound kinda crazy. I'd block you too |
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| You likely did dodge a bullet op. A few thoughts though in case you are interested. First, we all know that family trumps a stranger. That being said, conveying that attitude turns people off. All you had to do was schedule the date for after your dad's surgery. Remember, your mom and dad were strangers before they met and had they not conveyed to each other that they both mattered, you'd not be here. Second, what was up with rescheduling the date for an hour earlier? That's just screwing with the guy. It says that you don't view his time as valuable, that he's got nothing better to do with his time then adjust his schedule. It also comes across as you having gotten a better offer. The offer could be nonsexual, you could have gotten the chance to go flying and wanted to take it. Still, changing the time by an hour conveys the attitude that you just want to get this date over with. Now, the guy could have texted back and said "I'm no longer interested". He didn't and that doesn't speak well of him. If you try dating again, be it online or not, make plans and stick to them. If you agree to meet on Friday at 7, then meet at Friday at 7 unless you both decide you want to go see a ballgame and it starts earlier. Second, don't waste time talking. Either people can and want to meet up, or they don't. Any monkey can send emails and texts. Be clear in your goals and don't take less from anybody else. Lastly, treat people as if they matter to you. If you go through life conveying the attitude that your current circle of family and friends will always take priority, then you won't meet anybody be it romantically or socially. People won't invest in you if you convey to them that you won't do the same. Chalk this all up to a learning experience. |
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OP, I agree you deserved some sort of explanation. Bizarre that you were in such close contact, texting throughout the day and at night, and then suddenly nothing. How long has he been divorced? Has he dated anyone seriously since the divorce? I wish you could report him to the online dating site where you met. There should be a way to prevent people from using the site when they treat others with such callous disregard. Also would be great if a journalist was writing a story about online dating and could track him down and interview him! |
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That reference was made earlier in this thread. |
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| WOW!, what I would give to be 27 and single! You have your whole life ahead of you! You need to get some real world experiences under your belt. Don't get involved with a guy that's divorced and has a young child that you met online. I'm sure some of them are just fine, but give it a little thought before just jumping off the cliff. |
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| I agree that he might have been put off by another "rescheduling." Still, it's crappy not to just cancel. |
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OP here. Thank you all again. I am not crazy, I guess I'm in a vulnerable state where a lot of things aren't going right in my life. I hung on to what I thought would be a fun and joyous experience with this guy.
To clear this up. I used the words " family trumps stranger" on here but not to him. I cancelled like two days in advance and let him know the reason. Moving the meeting up this time was only so I could meet with a school advisor ( only time they had). I let him know like 10 hours in advance. I didn't think it was a huge deal but maybe it was. I still think no explanation and then blocking is BS. This is the first time I reached out since Saturday afternoon. I was wondering if maybe something happened to him or his child. I will not be reaching out again or think of him but no explanation shows how much of a coward he is. |
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He's been divorced a little over a year. He has not seem anyone serious but I'm speculating that was a lie. |