I was stood up:(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any other reasons of what it could be? I'm still baffled. I could see if no contact for days before but this was literally less than 24 hours before we last spoke. I may sound naive but it didn't seem to me that he was talking to anyone else.

He likely wasn't who he said he was.

+1 Plus who knows if his child really was sick last time. Please remember that in truth you know zilch about him -- you've never even met and people lie all the time on these dating sites, for a zillion different reasons.

What is concerning me the most, OP, is that you are sounding more upset with yourself than you are with him.
You didn't do anything wrong, and have no reason to be embarrassed -- HE is the one who should feel ashamed and upset with himself.
All you did is make plans, and keep them...why should you feel foolish? You don't know him and he doesn't know you, so this wasn't a true rejection.
You're new to this so you hadn't experienced what online dating veterans are very familiar with...that false sense of intimacy that comes from frequent phone conversations, emails and texts.

It's natural to be disappointed because you had (too) high expectations based on your prior communication, but take this as a learning experience and don't waste another minute thinking and wondering about this guy; chalk it up to him being an a-hole, and move on. But in the future, try to meet sooner, and when you can't, keep your expectations low until you actually meet in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any other reasons of what it could be? I'm still baffled. I could see if no contact for days before but this was literally less than 24 hours before we last spoke. I may sound naive but it didn't seem to me that he was talking to anyone else.

He likely wasn't who he said he was.

We've skyped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was my first attempt at trying online dating. I figured he had another woman or he might be married. That seems like the only logical explanation. I feel more of just stupid than anything.

Or he's not the guy in his photo and so he had to bail when it became "real"

[Anonymous]

The bottom line, OP, is that whatever it was, it had nothing to do with you.

[Anonymous]

PP again. PLUS he's divorced with a small child, at a young age. BAGGAGE.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all! I'm upset but I know I did nothing wrong. We have skyped so I know it's him in the photos. I will get over it but I feel I at least deserve an explanation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all! I'm upset but I know I did nothing wrong. We have skyped so I know it's him in the photos. I will get over it but I feel I at least deserve an explanation.

The thing about online dating is that often you don't get closure. You're left to wonder. Don't waste your time and energy on someone who has no respect for you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

*cough* yeah, "divorced". *cough*

[Anonymous]

Don't try to find logic in this situation. If you are a good, honest person, you will never be able to find logic in how a dishonest, immature person acts.

So in order to help you find closure, I will tell you why he stood you up...he is a liar and a coward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't try to find logic in this situation. If you are a good, honest person, you will never be able to find logic in how a dishonest, immature person acts.

So in order to help you find closure, I will tell you why he stood you up...he is a liar and a coward.

OP here. I think he's a coward, too. Real men and women can regret someone. A coward drifts or vanishes. I would never stand someone up. I would tell them my real feelings, regardless if it hurt or not. He said he would, too, but clearly that was a lie.

[Anonymous]

The thing about online dating is that once you meet in real life you are very often disappointed that there is no spark/attraction/interest.... they were witty in those texts when they had time to think out a reply but then dry as can be face to face.

In my early online dating I made the mistake of communicating for a couple of weeks before meeting - so I would get my hopes up, and 30 seconds into the real date realized it wasn't going to work. It seems counter-intuitive, but try to avoid too much lead in time before the first date.

[Anonymous]

It sucks because I can't stop wondering what happened..

[Anonymous]

Did he say he was poaching bobcats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he say he was poaching bobcats?

Haha, absolutely not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all! I'm upset but I know I did nothing wrong. We have skyped so I know it's him in the photos. I will get over it but I feel I at least deserve an explanation.

OP, you already have an explanation. He is a jerk. That IS the explanation. You just don't want to see it that way.