I was stood up:(

[Anonymous]

Talked to what I thought to be a great guy online. We have been talking for 4-5 weeks, give or take. We planned to meet twice before. Once he canceled and once I had to ( family emergency). We generally talk and text throughout the day and at night. We had plans to meet for lunch Saturday and he never showed. Friday we texted on and off and he was talking up how he was excited to meet, etc. That night I asked to move up the twice by an hour and no response. I figured he's busy and he will text the morning of - nothing.. I called and texted once to see what happened and no response. I sent him a final text telling him I hope he is okay if something bad happened but I am taking this as he's not interested.

I still have not heard anything. I feel pretty rejected and humiliated. We seemed to have a lot in common and I was excited. This is the first guy I had any real attraction to since my ex-boyfriend. Now something bad couple of happened but I'm not naive. Seems to me he was a liar or just not interested. It still seems odd the very day before he was excited. I went anyway and wait for 20 but he never showed. Why do men do this? We are mid to late twenties.

[Anonymous]

He's immature and probably was dating multiple women, got laid Friday night and was still with the woman Saturday.

Sorry. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Happened to me twice by guys I met online. We made arrangements to meet at a specific place and time and they didn't show up. I thought once was bad but twice? I feel that so many people online are married or have a SO. I am sorry that it happened to you. Don't give him a second chance if you do end up hearing from him. Move on. There are better guys out there for you. Dating is tough. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

This was my first attempt at trying online dating. I figured he had another woman or he might be married. That seems like the only logical explanation. I feel more of just stupid than anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talked to what I thought to be a great guy online. We have been talking for 4-5 weeks, give or take.

WAY WAY WAAAAAY too much talking, not enough action.

[Anonymous]

I think even if it were an emergency, he could at least take 10 seconds to cancel or respond. He canceled last time so it stills baffles me. He's hitting 30 and divorced with a 2.5 year old. I am 27 and single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talked to what I thought to be a great guy online. We have been talking for 4-5 weeks, give or take.

WAY WAY WAAAAAY too much talking, not enough action.

I get that. He had a sick child and my father was in the hospital. I had to fly out for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talked to what I thought to be a great guy online. We have been talking for 4-5 weeks, give or take.

WAY WAY WAAAAAY too much talking, not enough action.

I get that. He had a sick child and my father was in the hospital. I had to fly out for that.

I would of liked to meet him earlier but my family trumps a stranger.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. Next time definitely try to meet sooner than later. Getting stood up is not the norm, I would look at this as a one-off flake, try not to let it hold you back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was my first attempt at trying online dating. I figured he had another woman or he might be married. That seems like the only logical explanation. I feel more of just stupid than anything.

Don't feel stupid. Live and learn. I agree with PP, 4-5 weeks of talking is just too long. It is a red flag if he is not willing to meet you within a week or so. Be strong and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think even if it were an emergency, he could at least take 10 seconds to cancel or respond. He canceled last time so it stills baffles me. He's hitting 30 and divorced with a 2.5 year old. I am 27 and single.

Bad news, OP, I don't care how great he "sounded." This is a red flag. You've obviously dodged a bullet!

Please try not to take this so personally. You didn't know him and he didn't know you.

[Anonymous]

We tried meeting the second week of talking but then his child got sick. The third week my dad was in the hospital and had to have heart surgery. I was away for a week. There were some days where we didn't talk or anything. Then I plan to meet this time and nothing. It literally doesn't take more than 2 seconds to say " not interested" especially less than 24 hours before he was " so excited to meet me".

I definitely dodged a bullet. I was willing to give him a shot but maybe it's for the best. Now I know to not invest that much time without meeting. I got my hopes up just to be let down. It really sucks

[Anonymous]

This guy sounds like a loser. To stand someone up when he texted you the day before is pretty cold. It's likely he's married or a narcissist. OP, please forget this douche and move on. Your damn right your family is more important. He has a young child and pulling these games? I think you got some small insight into why his divorce may have failed. He's not worth the headache.

[Anonymous]

Any other reasons of what it could be? I'm still baffled. I could see if no contact for days before but this was literally less than 24 hours before we last spoke. I may sound naive but it didn't seem to me that he was talking to anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any other reasons of what it could be? I'm still baffled. I could see if no contact for days before but this was literally less than 24 hours before we last spoke. I may sound naive but it didn't seem to me that he was talking to anyone else.

He likely wasn't who he said he was.