I can't get past my new guys sexual past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff tries to avoid use of the F word on the non-explicit forums, so your post may get deleted too.

It didn't say "fuck." It said "sleep with." Doesn't matter. Just google "cuckold" and you'll figure it out.

[Anonymous]

OP, your guy is my hero. Three serious girlfriends and marriage. That's it. I needed to sow my wild oats and never will.

[Anonymous]

He's disgusting. Run.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am here to clear up and answer the responses.

To the pps who say he is " trolling for sex". He's in his 20's, single, and hot. What guy ( and some women) in their 20's ( while single) doesn't go out to a bar, etc. with the hopes of getting laid? Yes, he sought out women in social settings and online hookup sites like craiglist. I can't fault him for wanting sex.

We both got tested together before we started sleeping with each other. He ( and I) are both negative for everything. I also have the HPV shots and we use condoms.

Marriage issue. I can't say he sought out women specifically married or if they just happened to be married and he didn't know until later. He knew some were because the husband set it up for himself to watch while my bf had sex with the wife. I can't say he would cheat and I feel bad judging but it's clear he has no regard for marriage vows. I've been approached by married men but I always turn them down. Him having repeatedly slept with married women is an issues. Apparently it's the milf and mature aspect he enjoys.

I think I'm going to bail out and end it. Thanks DCUM!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

That is one heck of a lot to deal with Op and only you know if you're up for all of that. I can tell you that this is not the sort of sexual past that a typical 20 something guy would have. They may have plenty of bar hook ups under their belt but to have that many MARRIED bar hookups is just unreal. What are the odds that all of these married women just happened to cheat on their husbands with your new guy? And he's only been single for 4 years? WTH?

Most women would RUN from this guy. But if you're cool with him, that's up to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am here to clear up and answer the responses.

To the pps who say he is " trolling for sex". He's in his 20's, single, and hot. What guy ( and some women) in their 20's ( while single) doesn't go out to a bar, etc. with the hopes of getting laid? Yes, he sought out women in social settings and online hookup sites like craiglist. I can't fault him for wanting sex.

I'm not so sure a male going out to bars in their 20's typically results in sleeping with 50 + married women including some whose husbands are watching. Even one so hot as you are claiming. Seriously OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

That is one heck of a lot to deal with Op and only you know if you're up for all of that. I can tell you that this is not the sort of sexual past that a typical 20 something guy would have. They may have plenty of bar hook ups under their belt but to have that many MARRIED bar hookups is just unreal. What are the odds that all of these married women just happened to cheat on their husbands with your new guy? And he's only been single for 4 years? WTH?

Most women would RUN from this guy. But if you're cool with him, that's up to you.

He's been single for 4 years until now but was single prior to his other relationship too. I agree that most men would just have bar hookups, not married hookups. I believe the married women were on sites like craiglist and Ashley Madison.

[Anonymous]

Wait till he runs a train on you.
Just what you want. 8-10 guys using you as a cum dumpster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am here to clear up and answer the responses.

To the pps who say he is " trolling for sex". He's in his 20's, single, and hot. What guy ( and some women) in their 20's ( while single) doesn't go out to a bar, etc. with the hopes of getting laid? Yes, he sought out women in social settings and online hookup sites like craiglist. I can't fault him for wanting sex.

I'm not so sure a male going out to bars in their 20's typically results in sleeping with 50 + married women including some whose husbands are watching. Even one so hot as you are claiming. Seriously OP?

I have no reason to lie. If you are in the military at 18 and meeting women all across the country and in foreign countries, it's not all that hard. I know a guy wig liver in LA and has been with 250+ only because he is rich and they wanted his $.

I don't think he has a reason to lie and I'm not that familiar with casual so I can't speak to the truth about hooking up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait till he runs a train on you.
Just what you want. 8-10 guys using you as a cum dumpster.

That's never going to happen. He knows it and I would never do something that nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

You said it best here. It's not like it happened once out twice by accident or lack off planning. He's gone a cuntry (ha!) mile to seek out and create these opportunities and that desperation is a turn off to me. I couldn't roll with this, it disgusts me. If it's not an issue for you, go for it I guess. I'd keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, like 10 years would go by and you'd find out he'd never stopped effing other guys wives, or he'd gear up to ask you to get into it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ought to see what he has going on that has all the girls so interested.

yeah like what diseases he's walking around with? If this guy has been with all these women, you don't think he's got at least one thing that you are going to catch?

He doesn't respect the vows, OP. He's got no boundaries. In fact, sounds like he's telling you all this not in an attempt to 'fess up and start clean, but as a way to push past your boundaries--to hear what you've been up to in the past (and get off on breaking that boundary), and move you past other boundaries you may have, all to satisfy his sexual insatiability. Because that's what it is--he's insatiable--and that's why you should break up, because whatever you have to offer will never be enough for him, so you want to break it off before he uses you up and dumps you.

uh, these people are in their late 20s. I think this is a bit much. People do change over time, especially in how they express themselves sexually. I would hate to be judged by the way I acted 25 years ago since it is such a poor reflection of who I am today (or even who I was 20 years ago).

Yeah but you are 25 years older. This dude is still in his late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am here to clear up and answer the responses.

To the pps who say he is " trolling for sex". He's in his 20's, single, and hot. What guy ( and some women) in their 20's ( while single) doesn't go out to a bar, etc. with the hopes of getting laid? Yes, he sought out women in social settings and online hookup sites like craiglist. I can't fault him for wanting sex.

I'm not so sure a male going out to bars in their 20's typically results in sleeping with 50 + married women including some whose husbands are watching. Even one so hot as you are claiming. Seriously OP?

I have no reason to lie. If you are in the military at 18 and meeting women all across the country and in foreign countries, it's not all that hard. I know a guy wig liver in LA and has been with 250+ only because he is rich and they wanted his $.

I don't think he has a reason to lie and I'm not that familiar with casual so I can't speak to the truth about hooking up.

You misunderstood my post (or I didn't explain properly)
I don't doubt the veracity of his claims. I am saying it is not typical male behavior as you attempted to explain away in your post I quoted from. Not normal 20 something male behavior in any way, you need to rethink about who you are surrounding yourself with if you think this isn't an extreme

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am here to clear up and answer the responses.

To the pps who say he is " trolling for sex". He's in his 20's, single, and hot. What guy ( and some women) in their 20's ( while single) doesn't go out to a bar, etc. with the hopes of getting laid? Yes, he sought out women in social settings and online hookup sites like craiglist. I can't fault him for wanting sex.

I'm not so sure a male going out to bars in their 20's typically results in sleeping with 50 + married women including some whose husbands are watching. Even one so hot as you are claiming. Seriously OP?

I have no reason to lie. If you are in the military at 18 and meeting women all across the country and in foreign countries, it's not all that hard. I know a guy wig liver in LA and has been with 250+ only because he is rich and they wanted his $.

I don't think he has a reason to lie and I'm not that familiar with casual so I can't speak to the truth about hooking up.

You misunderstood my post (or I didn't explain properly)
I don't doubt the veracity of his claims. I am saying it is not typical male behavior as you attempted to explain away in your post I quoted from. Not normal 20 something male behavior in any way, you need to rethink about who you are surrounding yourself with if you think this isn't an extreme

Not OP, but I don't think this behavior is as unheard of as you think. Some guys will really take most offers they receive, and if a guy is good looking enough and charming enough he will get a lot of offers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are both in our late 20's. He wanted to know past experiences because he is to voyeurism. He told me about it in a very gloating manner. If I fucked a married man I would be a homewrecker, a whore, etc. The last experience was about a month before we met. His # is over a 100. He just got out of the military so his numbers are large and scattered throughout the city.

I'm not disgusted at the act itself. I'm just disgusted by his blatant disregard for the fact these women were married.

Voyeurism, illicit affairs, double standard when it comes to you and what you do. What do you like about this guy? I am mystified as to why you are still with him.

+1 As they used to say, "He's not good marriage material."