I can't get past my new guys sexual past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both in our late 20's. He wanted to know past experiences because he is to voyeurism. He told me about it in a very gloating manner. If I fucked a married man I would be a homewrecker, a whore, etc. The last experience was about a month before we met. His # is over a 100. He just got out of the military so his numbers are large and scattered throughout the city.

I'm not disgusted at the act itself. I'm just disgusted by his blatant disregard for the fact these women were married.

Now you know why he is single...

I wouldn't be surprised if he wouldn't be faithful to you. It sounds like sexual addiction. He'll get bored of you very fast. Life is too short to waste with someone that wants to see you be humiliated.

[Anonymous]

To add -- I know how tough it is to break it off with someone you like over this. My ex and I were compatible in many ways that I know I won't find again. But when a man has a sexual addiction and constantly pushing your limits it won't stop. My ex could replace me with anyone else (and did) because ultimately even though I could see what we had in common outside of the bedroom, to him I was just a sex toy.

[Anonymous]

Was he an escort? That is a seriously large number of married chicks.

I'd probably be turned off by that. I think by a certain age, it's natural to have hooked up with one or two married/separated folks. (at least judging from how many married people I know who have cheated and how many single people I know who have slept with a married person.) But 50? Oy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was he an escort? That is a seriously large number of married chicks.

I'd probably be turned off by that. I think by a certain age, it's natural to have hooked up with one or two married/separated folks. (at least judging from how many married people I know who have cheated and how many single people I know who have slept with a married person.) But 50? Oy.

For a "bull" it's pretty easy to get to those numbers once you are working the scene.

[Anonymous]

I would trust your gut and move on.

[Anonymous]

He's not an escort. He's traveled for his job all over the country. He met majority of these women at bars, craiglist, and other hookup sites.

[Anonymous]

Your values in this area are seriously not compatible. He'll want to do this kind of stuff with you, and it will make you miserable. Deal breaker. Let him go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both in our late 20's. He wanted to know past experiences because he is to voyeurism. He told me about it in a very gloating manner. If I fucked a married man I would be a homewrecker, a whore, etc. The last experience was about a month before we met. His # is over a 100. He just got out of the military so his numbers are large and scattered throughout the city.

I'm not disgusted at the act itself. I'm just disgusted by his blatant disregard for the fact these women were married.

Voyeurism, illicit affairs, double standard when it comes to you and what you do. What do you like about this guy? I am mystified as to why you are still with him.

[Anonymous]

Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

Are you looking for a fling or relationship? He might be ok for a fling but I would be nervous about him cheating and STDs. He definitely has no long term potential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up until this weekend I didn't know much about his sexual past and I didn't think it was my business to know. So long as he didn't had an STD.

He was and is a great guy. This sexual part is the only issue. I love rough sex and bdsm type stuff. That's not the issue. The issue is seeking out married women. He does have a fetish. He has also told me he did couples, threesomes, and ran a train on a woman. He has been single 4 years before I met him.

He has been single because he has been banging married women. That's different than "single because dating like a normal person."

You need to run, don't walk, from this relationship.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't understand your generation. I was a young woman in the 80s and I can say that those numbers would scare anyone away.
I would DROP him now. This is going nowhere. And you know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't we read the EXACT OPPOSITE ISSUE regularly here, where men are told to "man up" and not be so insecure about a woman's past (gangbangs, threesomes, weird shit)?

Men are then referred to as losers for not having an equally exciting past.

Therefore, on behalf of all men who have been berated for this EXACT question, STFU.

NP here. It's not about the kink. It's the fact that he slept with so many married women. To the point that it's almost like a fetish. And it reflects his value system. Threesomes, etc are fine, that's just kink and doesn't reflect basic values, or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't understand your generation. I was a young woman in the 80s and I can say that those numbers would scare anyone away.
I would DROP him now. This is going nowhere. And you know it.

I don't think the number is an issue at all and I came of age in the 90's. I can see being bothered by how he got there though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a cuckhold? Me so slow....

Anyway, how old is he and how old was he when he did all of this?

If he was young, say in his early to mid-20's, I may give him a free pass for just needing to sow his wild oats.

Also, how was his attitude about it? Did he seem remorseful that he had done these things, esp. sleep with married women?

Or does he act like it is not big deal to him.

Depending on how he talks about his past should be an excellent indicator of how he will act in the future.

Cuckold

Some men have fantasies about their wives cheating on them. They get really hot when they think about it. They send their wives out to "cheat" with another guy and then come back and tell them all about it. Some guys like to watch their wives sleep with other guys.