IL's and religious issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I've found that fundamentalist, or at least very religious people, have a favorite topic: religion. Your husband may be bombarded with this on a daily basis. He's obviously not going to cut mom and dad out of his life. He doesn't hate them. They may have been nice parents and decent people as far as he's concerned.

You know what's funny? I've always considered myself more devout than DH. He believes me more devout than him and his parents too. His parents, of course, think I'm a heretic. I guess the difference is, I know when it's an appropriate topic of conversation and not.

He's not very close with them - because you're right, he did grow up and leave. I doubt he talks to them more than once a month. But I'm wondering now, if this comes up every.time.he.talks.to.them. Maybe because they just can't help themselves, maybe because it's the only bit of control they have left in his life. That might guilt trip anyone into silence when his wife is being harassed.

[Anonymous]

Wait wait wait everyone...let OP first state how her DH feels about this. How seriously does HE take Catholic religion? Does he secretly agree with his parents? Does he do what you want because he doesn't want a fight with you but actually would like to raise your children Catholic? Etc. There are a lot of assumptions being made here about DH being totally on board with OPs way of raising the kids...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, DH has explicitly told me I'm not allowed to mention it. And if I say I won't see them, I'm being "overly sensitive".

Look up gaslighting and see if it pertains toy our DH in other ways too.

Enough with the "gaslighting" references, pp! You are obsessed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

True. I know of baptisms of 70 year-olds into the Catholic Church (along with confirmation and reaffirmation of wedding vows to be in sync with the Catholic Church all done on the same day). Outside baptisims carry no weight with the Catholic Church. And these 70 year-olds had been baptised Methodist. You must be re-baptised and go through confirmation and the whole mess if you are coming in from outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

I am Catholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

True. I know of baptisms of 70 year-olds into the Catholic Church (along with confirmation and reaffirmation of wedding vows to be in sync with the Catholic Church all done on the same day). Outside baptisims carry no weight with the Catholic Church. And these 70 year-olds had been baptised Methodist. You must be re-baptised and go through confirmation and the whole mess if you are coming in from outside.

Not true. If a person was baptized in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, the RCC will not do it again. That person will be confirmed , make his first penance, and receive his First Communion upon being received into the Church.

http://www.usccb.org/prayer-and-worship/sacraments-and-sacramentals/baptism/

"For a baptized Christian, reception into full communion with the Catholic Church involves reception of the Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation and then a Profession of Faith followed by the celebration of Confirmation and the Eucharist."

[Anonymous]

See also


http://www.paulistboston.com/release_details.asp?id=20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

Or any Nicene Creed believing Christian....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I am an ex Catholic and no fan of Catholicism. My kids are not baptized. But I ask you, what *IF* you just went ahead and allowed them to be baptized? It would shut up your in-laws.

What if you let the in laws take the kids to Mass? Who cares? You can also let them go to other religious worship services. Give them a taste of everything that is out there.

They were baptized. Their baptism is valid in the Catholic Church. In fact, the Catholic Church would not re-baptize them because "we believe in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sin." There is no such thing as a re-baptism in the Catholic Church.

You must be Episcopalian.

True. I know of baptisms of 70 year-olds into the Catholic Church (along with confirmation and reaffirmation of wedding vows to be in sync with the Catholic Church all done on the same day). Outside baptisims carry no weight with the Catholic Church. And these 70 year-olds had been baptised Methodist. You must be re-baptised and go through confirmation and the whole mess if you are coming in from outside.

WRONG. Your 70 year olds were baptized because they had never been before. The Catholic Church will NOT rebaptize people who were baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. My goodness - do you just make things up as you go along?