Husband wants to send 5 year old to MILs for a week, but drug addict brother lives there. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Hell no. Maybe he is truely clean. Or maybe his family is delusional and he has a stash of pills in his room that your kid will overdose on.

[Anonymous]

According to the people here, dope is good.

[Anonymous]

My BIL ODed on pain killers in my MILs basement so you think I'd have a strong opinion on this but I don't. It depends entirely on how trustworthy grandma is and whether or not she's in denial about BIL's problem.

Whatever you decide, you have a conversation with both of them about your concerns. If she goes and all is well - it could be great for everyone. If she goes and grandma realizes all is not well, it may be impetus for her to help BIL get his SH-- together because it is going to impact her relationship with her beloved grand kid.

If grandma isn't trustworthy and/or you couldn't have a candid conversation about it with her, don't send kid.

[Anonymous]

This must be a troll, no one is this stupid to consider this.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for those who made helpful comments. I'm going to have a conversation with MIL and let her know that DC can stay only a few days, and must be supervised at all times by her. Yes, I think a week is too much. I will also invite her to visit, but we have a tiny condo with no fold-out couch, and she doesn't have any $ for a hotel. We are moving overseas soon, hence the desire for some grandmom time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he were addicted to crack or meth I'd say no, but prescription painkillers (while a terrible thing to be addicted to), isn't quite as likely to be a danger to your five year old. That said, I would want to make sure your MIL understands your concerns and promises to stay with your kid at all times and not let him go off alone with the brother.

I have a brother addicted to prescription painkillers, so I live this life. I don't get the concern here, other than not leaving the five year old with the brother. Addiction is never good, but, as PP said, it's not crack or meth - which I would also say no to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for those who made helpful comments. I'm going to have a conversation with MIL and let her know that DC can stay only a few days, and must be supervised at all times by her. Yes, I think a week is too much. I will also invite her to visit, but we have a tiny condo with no fold-out couch, and she doesn't have any $ for a hotel. We are moving overseas soon, hence the desire for some grandmom time.

I hate to use the term "troll", but this responses can't be real, or OP doesn't understand the dangers of drug addiction, even when the addict is in recovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way.

this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he were addicted to crack or meth I'd say no, but prescription painkillers (while a terrible thing to be addicted to), isn't quite as likely to be a danger to your five year old. That said, I would want to make sure your MIL understands your concerns and promises to stay with your kid at all times and not let him go off alone with the brother.

I have a brother addicted to prescription painkillers, so I live this life. I don't get the concern here, other than not leaving the five year old with the brother. Addiction is never good, but, as PP said, it's not crack or meth - which I would also say no to.

An addict is an addict is an addict is an addict

[Anonymous]

NO NO NO. Plus your child is only five. Why does he need to spend a week at Grandma's house. Maybe one overnight if brother is not there. Otherwise, visit with Grandma only when you and DH are present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he were addicted to crack or meth I'd say no, but prescription painkillers (while a terrible thing to be addicted to), isn't quite as likely to be a danger to your five year old. That said, I would want to make sure your MIL understands your concerns and promises to stay with your kid at all times and not let him go off alone with the brother.

Like Oxy? I completely disagree.

[Anonymous]

No. No. NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Too risky for too many things. Not saying your brother in law would do anything wrong. I don't know him at all. But in every case of child molestation I've known personally, the abusers were drug or alcohol abusers too.

This crossed my mind as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for those who made helpful comments. I'm going to have a conversation with MIL and let her know that DC can stay only a few days, and must be supervised at all times by her. Yes, I think a week is too much. I will also invite her to visit, but we have a tiny condo with no fold-out couch, and she doesn't have any $ for a hotel. We are moving overseas soon, hence the desire for some grandmom time.

Are you really that desperate for free babysitting?

[Anonymous]

Nope.

I wouldn't put my child in that kind of environment unless it were a last resort, emergency.

Find other ways to let grandma be with the child - a couple of days at a resort, fly her in to stay with you, whatever...

Don't put your child in a potentially unsafe, unstable or emotionally volatile situation.