6th grade DD has boyfriend - too young!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to hijack this thread, so I'm going to start another. My middle-school kid may go next year to a school that is tech-heavy and where the kids need phones.

I want to hear from BTDT parents of middle and high schoolers what their iPhone contracts with their kids entail, before I buy that darn phone. I'd appreciate it if you have a great contract, to clue us newbies in, and if you left anything out that you wish you had included, to tell us what. TIA!

I was walking outside my 15 year old school the other day where I can see through a classroom window. A kid sitting in the back was watching a movie on his smartphone, pretending he was filming the lecture. What this all social media has done is making kids more and more responsible for how they turn out in life and they need to know it. You or the neighbor down the street cannot lookout for them like in old time. The floodgates has been open, where we land is everyone's guess. The have access to a lot of things but not the wisdom that time infuse. You're no longer your brothers keeper. My advise, try not to have a latchkey kid if you can. My neighbors (both highly accomplished) DS has been addicted to porn since 13. It has affect his academic, drive, social life in every way possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) This is why my 6th grader will never have her own phone

2) This is why, when she does get a phone in a couple of years -- maybe -- I will always have the password and have access to it. It will not be "her phone." It will be my phone that I am generous enough to let her use on occasion, when she demonstrates the maturity required to have one.

Not having a phone isn't going to prevent your daughter from having a boyfriend.

OP, FWIW, I've got three kids and they all had boyfriends/girlfriends in sixth grade. I can tell you that the parents who deny that their kids have coupled are burying their heads in the sand. Now, what it means to be boyfriend/girlfriend in sixth grade isn't all that much.

I trained my DD to just say "No!" It worked. She's been asked out three times and each time she's said the magic word. It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

This isn't really a new thing. I was in 6th grade in 1990 & boys & girls in my class "went out" with each other all the time. It usually just meant sitting together at lunch, talking on the phone in the evening &, occasionally, kissing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) This is why my 6th grader will never have her own phone

2) This is why, when she does get a phone in a couple of years -- maybe -- I will always have the password and have access to it. It will not be "her phone." It will be my phone that I am generous enough to let her use on occasion, when she demonstrates the maturity required to have one.

Not having a phone isn't going to prevent your daughter from having a boyfriend.

OP, FWIW, I've got three kids and they all had boyfriends/girlfriends in sixth grade. I can tell you that the parents who deny that their kids have coupled are burying their heads in the sand. Now, what it means to be boyfriend/girlfriend in sixth grade isn't all that much.

I trained my DD to just say "No!" It worked. She's been asked out three times and each time she's said the magic word. It's that simple.

It probably worked because she didn't want to say "Yes" anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) This is why my 6th grader will never have her own phone

2) This is why, when she does get a phone in a couple of years -- maybe -- I will always have the password and have access to it. It will not be "her phone." It will be my phone that I am generous enough to let her use on occasion, when she demonstrates the maturity required to have one.

This is why she'll be pregnant her freshman year in college.

Only in this area is not having a cell phone in 6th grade or limiting it's use = rebelling and getting pregnant in college. Your kids really do have full control over you, don't they? They have somehow manipulated you into thinking you are a bad mom if you don't give them a phone with unlimited access. You can't be that dumb.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think you answered you own question " we need to supervise more"