Men what are/were you looking for in a woman?

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:Smart, kind, low drama, good taste, good sense of humor, dog person (as opposed to cats), loyal (not just to me but friends).

Everything else I'm coming up with is basically a variation of low drama.

I want to clarify why I said low drama. It's because before the woman who became my wife I dated a woman who was highly dramatic and it was exhausting. She was also highly jealous. So my aunt could call right as we were heading out on a date, and I'd mumble "I'll call her tomorrow" and my girlfriend would throw a hissy fit that I was cheating on her, complete with screaming and crying for an hour. We missed dinner reservations, meeting other people, etc. I'd smile at a waitress and she'd storm out of the restaurant and then scream and cry all the way home that I was flirting with her. Being with that girlfriend made me tired. I just wanted someone who was more secure, more calm. Less drama.

[Anonymous]

1. attractive
2. intelligent
3. loyal/supportive
4. laid back attitude
5. loves giving bj's

It's not all about thin and pretty faces. I'm casually dating a couple of women right now - one is a LOT 'hotter' in the typical sense but I'm way more into the less physically attractive one (she has a killer face as well, just a bit more pudgy than anyone i normally would date).

Unfortunately, the prettier one shows more interest which is frustrating because I'm in a stage where I'm looking if: 'can i see this person be the mother of my future children' .

That changes the calculus a lot, I find it. There's a lot of women I'd fuck but no where near as a many I'd want to knock up and stick around for and the latter doesn't nearly have as much to do with looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. attractive
2. intelligent
3. loyal/supportive
4. laid back attitude
5. loves giving bj's

It's not all about thin and pretty faces. I'm casually dating a couple of women right now - one is a LOT 'hotter' in the typical sense but I'm way more into the less physically attractive one (she has a killer face as well, just a bit more pudgy than anyone i normally would date).

Unfortunately, the prettier one shows more interest which is frustrating because I'm in a stage where I'm looking if: 'can i see this person be the mother of my future children' .

That changes the calculus a lot, I find it. There's a lot of women I'd fuck but no where near as a many I'd want to knock up and stick around for and the latter doesn't nearly have as much to do with looks.

Beware of the pudge it gets worse as time goes by

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a married SAHM and my DH thinks that I am the best DW anyone could have.

The truth is that while I am reasonably attractive, reasonably in shape, educated, social, and less than ok housewife but a better than average mom - there are many women who are better than me in all the above categories.

I know that the reason he loves me is - I am quite laid back, drama free, low maintenance, not a nag or critical of DH, find humor in most situations, do not sweat the small stuff and love to have sex with him. That's it.

Same for my DH and we have been together for 27 yrs. I'm certainly no longer the thin, pretty 21 yr old he fell in love with but the above bolded is what make our life together happy and content.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. attractive
2. intelligent
3. loyal/supportive
4. laid back attitude
5. loves giving bj's

It's not all about thin and pretty faces. I'm casually dating a couple of women right now - one is a LOT 'hotter' in the typical sense but I'm way more into the less physically attractive one (she has a killer face as well, just a bit more pudgy than anyone i normally would date).

Unfortunately, the prettier one shows more interest which is frustrating because I'm in a stage where I'm looking if: 'can i see this person be the mother of my future children' .

That changes the calculus a lot, I find it. There's a lot of women I'd fuck but no where near as a many I'd want to knock up and stick around for and the latter doesn't nearly have as much to do with looks.

Can you predict who will become a fat, nagging shrew who hates giving bjs after marriage?

[Anonymous]

But are you attractive?

My guess would be that that is what men notice first about a woman since they are by nature visual creatures.

First and foremost, do you take the time and effort to present yourself in a certain manner every day that says, "Look at me, I care about myself enough to make the best of what I have."

Men also like a super confident woman. Whether that confidence is real or not, men find that really attractive.

Also a woman who has ambition. Someone who knows what she wants out of life and is all about going after it with a vengeance.

And finally, a woman who has her own life that is not dependent on anyone else's.

They do not like clingy women who are always available and who seemingly have no outside interests. Men definitely like the chase and a good challenge so make him work for it.

Hope this gives you some helpful insight OP.

Keep the faith.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

29

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Anonymous wrote:^Ugh. Men are such boring simpletons.

They all want "no drama" because they can't stand any real passion and the high emotions that come along with it. Blegh.

Is that why a lot of women chase the bad boys?

maybe. I like the bad boys because they can handle me and they aren't boring. And they like me back.

- Future single mom with kids.

LOL. You wish. Stay bitter.

I don't wish for you (or anyone) and I am certainly not bitter. It's your life, not mine.

Well, FYI, I would be perfectly happy being a single mom. It would be fab to have a child and not have some dude hovering around trying to tell me what to do. Sign me up!

You already have.

[Anonymous]

Other than all the normal things people want, I wanted someone who gets along with my friends and I get along with hers. I wanted someone who would be comfortable going out on 10 minutes notice and didn't care about looking perfect. I wanted someone who could give me a kick in the ass when needed. I wanted someone who could make decisions for herslef (I dated the "I don't care whatever you want to do" type). I wanted someone adventurous. I wanted someone who I could bounce work issues off of and she could give advice. I'm sure there is more but it has been awhile.

physically, I'm not into stick thin girls. I like curves and I like big boobs. Plus, I also like a girl who can over indulge and not spend the rest of the time talking about how its going to make her fat. My wife was an 8-10 when we met and I found/find her to be incredibly sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm stumped. Help me out here, when you found or were looking for the one what mattered most?

I'm a good girl, laid back, love to laugh. Travel, have a solid career that isn't all-consuming, educated. Love sex, cook, and can get into any fun pursuit. I struggle to find men that want a real relationship. Most seem to want to party and have fun but not into commitment. Any advice?

Are you thin?

Ha! Thin, no. In shape, yes. I've fallen into to the I'll-say-anything-to-get her in bed trap. No I don't sleep with men without a commitment. I'm not talking about boyfriend-commitment, I'm talking about marriage.

You won't have sex before a marriage commitment? You might as well take up cats.

So according to you, women can't win. Don't have sex till commitment= you will end up alone. Have sex without commitment= you will end up alone.

This is why smart women disregard what dumb assholes have to say and do what they think is best for themselves.

Huh? If you are a grown up and are not dating bible thumper or martyrs for Allah and you are holding out for marriage, your chances of someone wanting to take a risk on you is pretty slim. Nobody of sound mind is going to buy something before they ride. Sex is crutial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. attractive
2. intelligent
3. loyal/supportive
4. laid back attitude
5. loves giving bj's

It's not all about thin and pretty faces. I'm casually dating a couple of women right now - one is a LOT 'hotter' in the typical sense but I'm way more into the less physically attractive one (she has a killer face as well, just a bit more pudgy than anyone i normally would date).

Unfortunately, the prettier one shows more interest which is frustrating because I'm in a stage where I'm looking if: 'can i see this person be the mother of my future children' .

That changes the calculus a lot, I find it. There's a lot of women I'd fuck but no where near as a many I'd want to knock up and stick around for and the latter doesn't nearly have as much to do with looks.

Hate to break it to you but most women don't "love giving bjs." We do it to be nice to the one we love. We get nothing out of it. Also, your reference to "knocking up" and "sticking around" are crude and unattractive. Hope you don't talk to women like this because it's going to turn most women off.

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Anonymous wrote:1. attractive
2. intelligent
3. loyal/supportive
4. laid back attitude
5. loves giving bj's

It's not all about thin and pretty faces. I'm casually dating a couple of women right now - one is a LOT 'hotter' in the typical sense but I'm way more into the less physically attractive one (she has a killer face as well, just a bit more pudgy than anyone i normally would date).

Unfortunately, the prettier one shows more interest which is frustrating because I'm in a stage where I'm looking if: 'can i see this person be the mother of my future children' .

That changes the calculus a lot, I find it. There's a lot of women I'd fuck but no where near as a many I'd want to knock up and stick around for and the latter doesn't nearly have as much to do with looks.

Hate to break it to you but most women don't "love giving bjs." We do it to be nice to the one we love. We get nothing out of it. Also, your reference to "knocking up" and "sticking around" are crude and unattractive. Hope you don't talk to women like this because it's going to turn most women off.

Unless he's rich or good-looking. Then it's refreshingly honest.

[Anonymous]

No one said this, and I am really surprised.

Independence.

I am amazed how many women are not as independent as they should be.

Also, a career path, one should know what they want to do in their life, and should be on the road to get there.

[Anonymous]

I am looking for a woman who admits that she likes me because of my fat wallet. Candor is key.