is DH unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But there's still you leaving work because you didn't like your husband's decision as parent-on-the-spot. How much faith and trust do you have in your husband as a father?

What? Ridiculous. Husband said he wasn't going to go, does not mean that OP cannot go.

I'm guessing that the conversation went more like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, he'll be fine.

Than like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, but it's fine if you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

^^^Now that was probably one of the most idiotic things I've ever read on DCUM^^^

[Anonymous]

hrm, well in your DH's shoes, I would have probably taken the pjs to school. because it would take 5 minutes and make my kid happy. in your shoes, there is no way I would take an hour out of my work day to take my kid pajamas, even if it made her happier. so, I probably would have tried to talk DH into it and if refused or was really busy/stressed/grumpy, i'd let it drop. it's pajama day, not the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

I don't put pajama day in the same category of bringing home the mortgage money. Do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

^^^Now that was probably one of the most idiotic things I've ever read on DCUM^^^

Because calendars and reminders only serve a single function? Please! I feel sorry for your children. You obviously think of them as a nuisance.

[Anonymous]

OP here, its about 15 minutes to drive from work to home, from home to school and back to work so total about 45 minutes. Yes I undermined mine husband on this because I felt this was important. And its not like DS knows about the argument so my DH's parenting decisions were not udermined. it's not like Dad says no TV, and mom turns it on. Completely different. For posters who say that I am making the illness up to strengthen my argument... Why would I post the whole thing in the initial post, the illness is of no consequence to my DH's decision. Some of you started asking if the cild was crying more than usual so answered. He was sick for a few days, we kept him home Tuesday when he was fever free to ensure that not symptomatic anymore, he went to school today and was still feeling tired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm guessing that the conversation went more like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, he'll be fine.

Than like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, but it's fine if you do.

Who cares how the conversation went? Husband does not tell Wife what to do with respect to her job, and it's not his place to say whether it is fine for the OP to go or not.

[Anonymous]

This situation is different than the ice cream cone falling on the floor or the park being closed. We walk away from those situations. But, this pajama thing--he's sitting there for 7 hours constantly reminded of how he stands out when everyone just tries so hard to fit in. He can't relax and learn. He can't walk away from the situation and then do something completely different.

Wow, I really feel you are being melodramatic. I am sure it would be disappointing and difficult for my son if I forgot to put him in his pajamas on pajama day. There are kids in his class that do not have enough food to eat at home and have food for the weekend sent home in a backpack. There are kids whose parents don't care enough or unable to wash their clothes so they go to school in the same filthy outfit day after day. those are the kids who are standing out while trying so hard to fit in. DS will pull through if he misses pajama day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

I don't put pajama day in the same category of bringing home the mortgage money. Do you?

I don't either, but evidently this means that we hate our children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

I don't put pajama day in the same category of bringing home the mortgage money. Do you?

Do I put parenting my children and remembering things that they value in the same category as money? Is that what you're asking? Yes. Yes I do. I'm a single working mom of two and I find it just as easy to put kids items on my calendar. Sad that you don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But there's still you leaving work because you didn't like your husband's decision as parent-on-the-spot. How much faith and trust do you have in your husband as a father?

What? Ridiculous. Husband said he wasn't going to go, does not mean that OP cannot go.

I'm guessing that the conversation went more like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, he'll be fine.

Than like this:

Wife: You should bring him the pajamas.
Husband: No, but it's fine if you do.

OP here something like this, but because my phone call worke him up it was more like DH being super pissed off using "choice" words and saying "i don't care if you take them". I did not know he was sleeping,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, its about 15 minutes to drive from work to home, from home to school and back to work so total about 45 minutes. Yes I undermined mine husband on this because I felt this was important. And its not like DS knows about the argument so my DH's parenting decisions were not udermined. it's not like Dad says no TV, and mom turns it on. Completely different. For posters who say that I am making the illness up to strengthen my argument... Why would I post the whole thing in the initial post, the illness is of no consequence to my DH's decision. Some of you started asking if the cild was crying more than usual so answered. He was sick for a few days, we kept him home Tuesday when he was fever free to ensure that not symptomatic anymore, he went to school today and was still feeling tired.

OP, what if you said to DH that DS should not go somewhere, and then DH took DS anyway? Would you feel undermined? Would you be angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

I don't put pajama day in the same category of bringing home the mortgage money. Do you?

Do I put parenting my children and remembering things that they value in the same category as money? Is that what you're asking? Yes. Yes I do. I'm a single working mom of two and I find it just as easy to put kids items on my calendar. Sad that you don't.

Aha! I am always wondering what "parenting" means. And now I know. "Parenting" means remembering pajama day. If you forget pajama day, you are not parenting your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, its about 15 minutes to drive from work to home, from home to school and back to work so total about 45 minutes. Yes I undermined mine husband on this because I felt this was important. And its not like DS knows about the argument so my DH's parenting decisions were not udermined. it's not like Dad says no TV, and mom turns it on. Completely different. For posters who say that I am making the illness up to strengthen my argument... Why would I post the whole thing in the initial post, the illness is of no consequence to my DH's decision. Some of you started asking if the cild was crying more than usual so answered. He was sick for a few days, we kept him home Tuesday when he was fever free to ensure that not symptomatic anymore, he went to school today and was still feeling tired.

OP, what if you said to DH that DS should not go somewhere, and then DH took DS anyway? Would you feel undermined? Would you be angry?

OP here, yes I would be upset. But you have to put the situation into the context of school calling, DS crying, and DS being a new kindergartner who is still adjusting to the new school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an aside I'd like to share with you all that I HATE THE SPECIAL DRESS-UP DAYS. It's a nightmare to remember, try to find the right clothes, etc.

Do you remember the important meetings you have?

I don't put pajama day in the same category of bringing home the mortgage money. Do you?

Do I put parenting my children and remembering things that they value in the same category as money? Is that what you're asking? Yes. Yes I do. I'm a single working mom of two and I find it just as easy to put kids items on my calendar. Sad that you don't.

Aha! I am always wondering what "parenting" means. And now I know. "Parenting" means remembering pajama day. If you forget pajama day, you are not parenting your child.

Whatever makes you feel better PP.