"Party girl" reputation

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with having a good time, but if you don't have the discretion and the good taste to conduct your sexual business privately, not only will your co-workers judge, I'LL judge you.

You're in a professional environment and you're being evaluated as a responsible, dignified professional and adult. I certainly don't want to know about my colleagues' hook-ups and if I was a man (I'm not) who was romantically interested in a woman, I'd be turned-off by her indiscreet hook-ups. All men will be turned off, no matter how "enlightened" or "progressive" they are. It's not because they're prudes, it's because that's not dignified behavior.

And by the way, accusing someone of sexism or slut-shaming just because they think you're an immature, vulgar idiot is getting really, really old.

[Anonymous]

OP---while you may consider this slut shaming---I will point out further that your peer group of guys in an office environment will talk about your behavior with the older, more senior men (and perhaps women) as a way to get attention by letting the older boring settled folks get some vicarious gossip thrills. I watched this happen to a young woman in our office, and I kept wishing that she would have kept her personal life a lot more hidden from her older, married boss.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound very immature.

Here is a lesson. If you are going to fish off the company pier, keep your mouth shut.

You also should not be boozing around your co-workers. Maybe once or twice a year but do not let yourself get out of hand. Think your company holiday party or some other semi-annual event.

That you even brought up "slut-shaming" makes me think this post is fake or in fact, that your name is Jane - you ignorant slut!

[Anonymous]

Because believe it or not, the double standard will between women and men will always exist whether we want to admit it or not.

ALWAYS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because believe it or not, the double standard will between women and men will always exist whether we want to admit it or not.

ALWAYS.

I wouldn't be interested in a guy who was always partying and hooking up with colleagues. Gender has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Yep,

There is a guy at my office who seems to only troll for office girls. He's managed to land a few of them - actually a lot of them - although I am not sure how since most of us think he his batting for the other team as is his his boss.

He is not particularly attractive nor is his boss but this guy seems to get all of the "party chicks."

These girls seem to fall for him. Though most are not quite bright. And he really should be dating someone of his own gender.

To be continued!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should party with fun, exciting, good looking dudes for the next 2 or 3 years. Then, when you hit 30 - before your looks start to go, you should find a stable, reasonably successful guy to settle down with, even if you wouldn't have bothered hooking up with him in your 20s.

And why should he want to settle with her?

Not OP, but because I have mad skills in bed.

it is more beneficial to rent skills (via dating or paying a pro) than to buy a depreciating asset. especially something his depreciation curve is exponential and not linear.

[Anonymous]

Don't get drunk at work functions, and don't drink hook up with coworkers in front of other coworkers. Of course they think you are a slut. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am real. And yeah I'm starting to realize I should've kept the hook-ups secret and outside of work. Ugh.

I think 16:29 gave advice you should heed. It's really not just about keeping behavior secret. On a daily basis, it's important to try to act in ways that reflect our core thoughts and beliefs.

[Anonymous]

The expression "sloppy seconds" is gross, but it gets at a real feeling among guys. No rich, successful guy with options will go there.

Also...not to be mean, but 27 is a little old for this kind of behavior. It doesn't age well.

[Anonymous]

Because believe it or not, the double standard will between women and men will always exist whether we want to admit it or not.

ALWAYS.

No if you have some guy acting like he is still in a frat 5-6 year out of college, no one takes him seriously. It's the same way for everyone. I remember a guy I worked with, he would always come in tired, bags under his eye and wearing the same cloths from the night before. His work suffered and people noticed all his behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get drunk at work functions, and don't drink hook up with coworkers in front of other coworkers. Of course they think you are a slut. Grow up.

This is it in a nutshell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should party with fun, exciting, good looking dudes for the next 2 or 3 years. Then, when you hit 30 - before your looks start to go, you should find a stable, reasonably successful guy to settle down with, even if you wouldn't have bothered hooking up with him in your 20s.

And why should he want to settle with her?

Not OP, but because I have mad skills in bed.

it is more beneficial to rent skills (via dating or paying a pro) than to buy a depreciating asset. especially something his depreciation curve is exponential and not linear.

LOL

My DH of 21 years much prefers having someone that the he loves do those things for him. He enjoys spontaneity and creativity and adventure with someone that he loves.

Sex workers have their place, but there is a lot to be said for a regular partner. Guys also experience improved sexual performance with a familiar partner as they age. Penises are apparently like Pavlov's dog and are conditioned to respond to certain people. As guys age, they are better able to get and maintain erections with familiar people with whom they are comfortable.

Committing to professionals to get your kink on is a recipe for divorce for most people. Go read the relationship board on DCUM. You'll find tons of people complaining that their DH is bored or they are bored and their sex life has died on the vine. There are tons of people who want a little adventure but their spouse isn't up for it. None of them are willing to allow DH or DW to visit a professional or step out on the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lindsey Lohan looks 50 , watch out you will age yourself out of fertility and marriage

No one is doing those things anymore granny.

[Anonymous]

These bitches look 50 when they turn 30