Wives who have cheated: share your story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My husband is a decent guy, and when I first started hanging with the other guy it was purely innocent. Things happened so fast when we finally started sleeping together that it was impossible for me to stop it. I cried all the way home the night we first had sex, I felt so guilty and ashamed that I had cheated on my husband.

Get over yourself. You are a lying sack of shlt.

[Anonymous]

I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frequently you hear about men cheating. Any wives out there who have stepped out of your marriage? Do your husbands know? Care to share?

You hear about men cheating but very few people ask them for their story. They too often have it just as hard at home and just as much of a rationalizing sob story as women do.

Not according to 8:08

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

Not the PP, but the point - and it's a valid one - is that a man sharing his story of infidelity would not receive a sympathetic audience. In my opinion, the stories of cheating are probably VERY similar between men and women, but the response from DCUM is always very different.

[Anonymous]

NEWSFLASH!!!

Neither men nor women are perfect.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Everyone behaves selfishly at times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story short, I threw a bomb into my terrible marriage because I couldn't think of a different way to get out of it. Do I wish I'd ended my marriage differently? Sure. Do I regret it? Nope.

"I want a divorce."

That's for next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

I'm one of the PPs who told me story. I am interested to hear how you differentiate between "placing the blame on the husband" and "explaining what made you unhappy enough to cheat". Honestly, it's like the only explanation that you would find acceptable would be "BECAUSE I AM A HORRIBLE PERSON WITH DADDY ISSUES, THAT'S WHY" or whatever. I was unhappy in my marriage for a variety of reasons. The reality that my husband prioritized his job over spending time with our family was one of the reasons that I was unhappy. You can dismiss that as "blaming my husband" but what I can tell you is that I cheated because I was unhappy that was one, though not the sum total, of the reasons why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

Not the PP, but the point - and it's a valid one - is that a man sharing his story of infidelity would not receive a sympathetic audience. In my opinion, the stories of cheating are probably VERY similar between men and women, but the response from DCUM is always very different.

You don't know that, though. If someone started a post saying "Men, share your cheating stories" and men said what the women are saying -- basically, my marriage wasn't very good, I handled it wrong and cheated, but I'm glad I got out of the marriage though I'm sorry for doing that to my DW who didn't deserve it, then they wouldn't be flamed any more than the women have been. Try it and see what happens.
But men tend not to say that stuff. They tend to say stuff like "my wife was a bitch". And then, yeah, they get flamed.
There's one guy (at least I hope it's just one) who hangs around DCUM looking for excuses to rant on women. He's getting close to the manifesto level. He's visited this thread repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

Not the PP, but the point - and it's a valid one - is that a man sharing his story of infidelity would not receive a sympathetic audience. In my opinion, the stories of cheating are probably VERY similar between men and women, but the response from DCUM is always very different.

You don't know that, though. If someone started a post saying "Men, share your cheating stories" and men said what the women are saying -- basically, my marriage wasn't very good, I handled it wrong and cheated, but I'm glad I got out of the marriage though I'm sorry for doing that to my DW who didn't deserve it, then they wouldn't be flamed any more than the women have been. Try it and see what happens.
But men tend not to say that stuff. They tend to say stuff like "my wife was a bitch". And then, yeah, they get flamed.
There's one guy (at least I hope it's just one) who hangs around DCUM looking for excuses to rant on women. He's getting close to the manifesto level. He's visited this thread repeatedly.

+1

[Anonymous]

What's manifesto level?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's manifesto level?

I'm not the PP, but I agree with what s/he said. The poster in question will invariably mention:

- women can have sex any time they want
- will bring up the differences between men and women, usually in pretty unenlightened ways
- will mention alpha vs. beta males

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's manifesto level?

You know, like the screeds written by crazy people. (The guy in CA who opened fire on the sorority wrote an anti-woman manifesto.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

Not the PP, but the point - and it's a valid one - is that a man sharing his story of infidelity would not receive a sympathetic audience. In my opinion, the stories of cheating are probably VERY similar between men and women, but the response from DCUM is always very different.

You don't know that, though. If someone started a post saying "Men, share your cheating stories" and men said what the women are saying -- basically, my marriage wasn't very good, I handled it wrong and cheated, but I'm glad I got out of the marriage though I'm sorry for doing that to my DW who didn't deserve it, then they wouldn't be flamed any more than the women have been. Try it and see what happens.
But men tend not to say that stuff. They tend to say stuff like "my wife was a bitch". And then, yeah, they get flamed.
There's one guy (at least I hope it's just one) who hangs around DCUM looking for excuses to rant on women. He's getting close to the manifesto level. He's visited this thread repeatedly.

I hope you're right. I cheated on my wife, and while it wasn't because she is a bitch, I'm very careful what I say about it here, which is unfortunate since we resolved a lot, both got professional help, and are in a much better relationship.

What I will say is that no matter if you're a man or woman, violating a spouse's trust takes a huge, painful toll on the cheater as well as the spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how most of the stories by women who have cheated place the blame on their husband. It's either they weren't attentive or caring or whatever. That's NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO CHEAT. If a husband says that EVERY SINGLE FUCKING WOMEN would say "Well, we should have talked about it and sought help. It's still the husband's fault."

Love the men hating people on these boards. It's laughable.

You can read, right? Try again. That's not what you're seeing. You WANT to see that so you can rant against women. The women said what motivated them. That doesn't mean they're saying it was right.

Not the PP, but the point - and it's a valid one - is that a man sharing his story of infidelity would not receive a sympathetic audience. In my opinion, the stories of cheating are probably VERY similar between men and women, but the response from DCUM is always very different.

You don't know that, though. If someone started a post saying "Men, share your cheating stories" and men said what the women are saying -- basically, my marriage wasn't very good, I handled it wrong and cheated, but I'm glad I got out of the marriage though I'm sorry for doing that to my DW who didn't deserve it, then they wouldn't be flamed any more than the women have been. Try it and see what happens.
But men tend not to say that stuff. They tend to say stuff like "my wife was a bitch". And then, yeah, they get flamed.
There's one guy (at least I hope it's just one) who hangs around DCUM looking for excuses to rant on women. He's getting close to the manifesto level. He's visited this thread repeatedly.

I hope you're right. I cheated on my wife, and while it wasn't because she is a bitch, I'm very careful what I say about it here, which is unfortunate since we resolved a lot, both got professional help, and are in a much better relationship.

What I will say is that no matter if you're a man or woman, violating a spouse's trust takes a huge, painful toll on the cheater as well as the spouse.

Glad it worked out, and I'm sure it took a TON of work. I couldn't stay married if my DH cheated. I'm reticent to trust as it is, so that would be too hard to overcome. Also I would view him differently. (And I expect he couldn't stay married to me if I did.)