When someone doesn't reply to texts...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17 perfect responses for your situation:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/perfect-responses-for-when-someone-doesnt-text-you-back?bffb

Yeah -- if she's between the ages of 10-21. Otherwise OP -- get over it. Realize that not everyone wants to chat back and forth via text; she may be perfectly happy seeing you in person or hearing from you once in a while via email or phone but may not want to have a -- what did you watch on tv or eat for dinner conversation -- nightly using her thumbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a text-stalker friend like you once:

I had fun tonight, thanks
How are you today?
Are you watching the Bachelorette?
I don't know if you got the last text I sent you but are you doing anything next Tuesday?
Did you get my text?

So freaking annoying. Needless to say, we "broke up".

I think a couple of these are ok - I mean sometimes I will text people I know who watch the same show I do if something really phenomenal happens on the show

And I have made plans via text.

The generic -how are you? type texts - I can see not responding to those.

When I text people it's because I am looking for a response on something right away that can't wait. I am in a store, I am going to purchase something. I am waiting in the lobby, etc. For just chit chat - way too much effort to text...

[Anonymous]

OH MY Gooooooooooooooodness!
I am so over the OVER -COMMUNICATORS complaining that people are not responding to their 1,00000 x a day emails, texts, voicemails.
Please understand:
1) Unlike you, some people do not have their phone or computer surgically implanted onto their hip
2) People have jobs

3) People have a life

4) You, in turn, need to get a life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. I do not respond to texts from anyone but my kids and DH. I respond to emails once in 24-48 hours. I do not respond at all to FB status etc. If I get a direct message from FB - I still respond only within 24-48 hours.

Unless, I pick up the phone when you call - you can assume that I will get your voicemail in 24 hours.

Yes, everything is pretty much instantaneous, but I am not going to be available at all times for anyone's convenience but my immediate family.

My texts to my kids is also very short. It is to the extent of - "I am waiting outside the school, soccer complex etc.". or "I am running 10 minutes late". There is no reason for me to be texting otherwise.

I have friends who send group texts with jokes etc., I usually will not respond to it. I think a response is to be expected only if you need an answer from me.

I also feel that I do not have to chime in when group announcements are sent. Unless it is a life and death situation.

You sound unapproachable. I get not being on a device 24-7 but it sounds like you don't ever want to be available to anyone but your kids -- unless you accidentally happen to pick up the phone when someone calls though I'm guessing you screen calls too. It would be exhausting to be your friend.

+1

Not the pp to whom you are responding, but Nah -- this is just the way grown-ass folks communicated and had lives way before the "text" was even invented. Get a life young' un!

[Anonymous]

I frequently forget to reply to texts. I get them, but if they are converstational in nature and I am busy, I plan to respond later. But the text no longer shows up as unread. And then new, more important texts come in, so the text thread end up father down the screen on my phone. And then I totally forget to respond to the conversation text that came in until I notice it sometime later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are a baby. If you don't want texts--say it don't be passive aggressive.

This. People that won't just state their preference are so silly. Stop wasting my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Creepy that you are stalking her so much.

You clearly don't know the definition of stalking. Quit throwing that word around to mean something it doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I frequently forget to reply to texts. I get them, but if they are converstational in nature and I am busy, I plan to respond later. But the text no longer shows up as unread. And then new, more important texts come in, so the text thread end up father down the screen on my phone. And then I totally forget to respond to the conversation text that came in until I notice it sometime later.

This happens to me also. It is hard to believe grown-ass women waste time feeling put out over this. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I frequently forget to reply to texts. I get them, but if they are converstational in nature and I am busy, I plan to respond later. But the text no longer shows up as unread. And then new, more important texts come in, so the text thread end up father down the screen on my phone. And then I totally forget to respond to the conversation text that came in until I notice it sometime later.

This happens to me also. It is hard to believe grown-ass women waste time feeling put out over this. Get a life.

+10 freaking million!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't reply to texts because I don't want people to text me as a regular form of communication. It annoys me when people just randomly want to chat by text and expect an immediate reply 24/7. I think you should take a hint op. She is not replying because she is trying to train you not to text her. Call or email instead.

Do you tell people you don't want to text as a regular form of communication, or do you just passively aggressively "train" "friends" by not responding? Why not just say, please call me or email me for a faster response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I frequently forget to reply to texts. I get them, but if they are converstational in nature and I am busy, I plan to respond later. But the text no longer shows up as unread. And then new, more important texts come in, so the text thread end up father down the screen on my phone. And then I totally forget to respond to the conversation text that came in until I notice it sometime later.

Either you have a lot of friends, or you're disorganized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My phone doesn't receive texts, so I don't even see them. If people try to send me a text I don't ever get a thing. I set it up that way on my account b/c I hate texting and hate being interrupted and accessible 24-7.

That said, the senders do not receive a message, "This recipient does not receive texts," or anything like that. So I've tried to tell everyone I know. I don't want anyone getting offended if I appear to not reply.

THAT said, some people still don't believe me and think I'm just choosing not to reply. Like: MY MIL! She supposedly sent me some text about hangers and then thought I just chose not to respond. No, I DON'T GET TEXTS, JUST LIKE I ORIGINALLY TOLD YOU, REMEMBER? DUH.

How long does it take you to respond to voicemail messages left on your phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend like this. She gets so many texts and mine get lost, I think. Also, she's flaky and gets overwhelmed easily. I respond to all texts.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My phone doesn't receive texts, so I don't even see them. If people try to send me a text I don't ever get a thing. I set it up that way on my account b/c I hate texting and hate being interrupted and accessible 24-7.

That said, the senders do not receive a message, "This recipient does not receive texts," or anything like that. So I've tried to tell everyone I know. I don't want anyone getting offended if I appear to not reply.

THAT said, some people still don't believe me and think I'm just choosing not to reply. Like: MY MIL! She supposedly sent me some text about hangers and then thought I just chose not to respond. No, I DON'T GET TEXTS, JUST LIKE I ORIGINALLY TOLD YOU, REMEMBER? DUH.

Edited to add:

My main form of communication is FB. It enables me to tell a lot of people one thing all at once. So it's very time-efficient for me. I have one friend who is not on FB, and I understand, b/c if it does not work for her, it does not work for her, but then don't get mad at me if I am not texting or emailing you. I FB. That's it.

So you don't just pick up the phone or make plans to see your one non Facebook friend in person? How do you receive information from her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I frequently forget to reply to texts. I get them, but if they are converstational in nature and I am busy, I plan to respond later. But the text no longer shows up as unread. And then new, more important texts come in, so the text thread end up father down the screen on my phone. And then I totally forget to respond to the conversation text that came in until I notice it sometime later.

Either you have a lot of friends, or you're disorganized.

Well I do have a lot of friends, but I don't know what that has to do with this, or even if I wasn't, why this is a sign that I am unorganized. If a friend texts me "OMG I ran into Julie today!" and I don't have time to reply, and then get text from my H, my parents, my kids and sitter (which are all usually important and require a response), that text gets bumped off my screen (or to the very bottom of it). So it is no longer an unread text and it is no longer in front of me on the iphone screen. So it requires me remember (several hours or a day later) to respond.