When someone doesn't reply to texts...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't reply to texts because I don't want people to text me as a regular form of communication. It annoys me when people just randomly want to chat by text and expect an immediate reply 24/7. I think you should take a hint op. She is not replying because she is trying to train you not to text her. Call or email instead.

This. I do it too.

+1. I don't text ppl back quickly when I know they'll want to turn it into a chat. I don't mind texting back quickly if I know you're just asking a question that needs a response but won't want a whole conversation to follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or maybe she's posting on Facebook on her computer, not her phone.

This. My phone is currently charging upstairs while I'm on my computer downstairs. Or if you are texting during work hours, she might have her phone off/silenced and put away but is at her computer (which is me at work).

[Anonymous]

LOL. I do not respond to texts from anyone but my kids and DH. I respond to emails once in 24-48 hours. I do not respond at all to FB status etc. If I get a direct message from FB - I still respond only within 24-48 hours.

Unless, I pick up the phone when you call - you can assume that I will get your voicemail in 24 hours.

Yes, everything is pretty much instantaneous, but I am not going to be available at all times for anyone's convenience but my immediate family.

My texts to my kids is also very short. It is to the extent of - "I am waiting outside the school, soccer complex etc.". or "I am running 10 minutes late". There is no reason for me to be texting otherwise.

I have friends who send group texts with jokes etc., I usually will not respond to it. I think a response is to be expected only if you need an answer from me.

I also feel that I do not have to chime in when group announcements are sent. Unless it is a life and death situation.

[Anonymous]

Talking (even by text) one on one is much more mentally draining than posting on FB. Maybe she's an introvert and you're an extrovert, simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. I do not respond to texts from anyone but my kids and DH. I respond to emails once in 24-48 hours. I do not respond at all to FB status etc. If I get a direct message from FB - I still respond only within 24-48 hours.

Unless, I pick up the phone when you call - you can assume that I will get your voicemail in 24 hours.

Yes, everything is pretty much instantaneous, but I am not going to be available at all times for anyone's convenience but my immediate family.

My texts to my kids is also very short. It is to the extent of - "I am waiting outside the school, soccer complex etc.". or "I am running 10 minutes late". There is no reason for me to be texting otherwise.

I have friends who send group texts with jokes etc., I usually will not respond to it. I think a response is to be expected only if you need an answer from me.

I also feel that I do not have to chime in when group announcements are sent. Unless it is a life and death situation.

You sound unapproachable. I get not being on a device 24-7 but it sounds like you don't ever want to be available to anyone but your kids -- unless you accidentally happen to pick up the phone when someone calls though I'm guessing you screen calls too. It would be exhausting to be your friend.

[Anonymous]

I never respond to vague texts like the ones OP does "how are you?".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's just not that into you.

lol

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this. She gets so many texts and mine get lost, I think. Also, she's flaky and gets overwhelmed easily. I respond to all texts.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying when every time I am with her, she is texting....

[Anonymous]

Texts should be limited to info requiring nearly immediate feedback. Anything for longer range planning, catching up, etc should be by phone or email. I really don't have a need or a desire for daily texts from my husband, much less a former co-worker!

[Anonymous]

I think they became friends over a certain time of working together. Now, they are friends independent of their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. I do not respond to texts from anyone but my kids and DH. I respond to emails once in 24-48 hours. I do not respond at all to FB status etc. If I get a direct message from FB - I still respond only within 24-48 hours.

Unless, I pick up the phone when you call - you can assume that I will get your voicemail in 24 hours.

Yes, everything is pretty much instantaneous, but I am not going to be available at all times for anyone's convenience but my immediate family.

My texts to my kids is also very short. It is to the extent of - "I am waiting outside the school, soccer complex etc.". or "I am running 10 minutes late". There is no reason for me to be texting otherwise.

I have friends who send group texts with jokes etc., I usually will not respond to it. I think a response is to be expected only if you need an answer from me.

I also feel that I do not have to chime in when group announcements are sent. Unless it is a life and death situation.

You sound unapproachable. I get not being on a device 24-7 but it sounds like you don't ever want to be available to anyone but your kids -- unless you accidentally happen to pick up the phone when someone calls though I'm guessing you screen calls too. It would be exhausting to be your friend.

NP. I'm the same way as the PP you're accusing of being unapproachable. It's not exhausting at all being my friend. What's exhausting are friends who expect instantaneous responses to everything (thankfully, my friends are not like this). I'm busy living my life here. My devices are here for my convenience, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Agree with prior posters that she would probably prefer you not text her. Personally, I hate texts except for a quick "running late" or the like. I just don't have time most days for ongoing chit chat with anyone. When I do have time to connect with friends, I choose not to spend it pecking away at a miniature keyboard with my thumbs.

It doesn't mean she is disinterested in your friendship, just that texting isn't her thing.

[Anonymous]

You are a baby. If you don't want texts--say it don't be passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

I use my computer all day, not my phone.