I know many successful, beautiful women and we can't find men in DC!

[Anonymous]

DC women are not the most friendly. If you are in a big group, buy a guy a drink and go talk to him with one of your buddies. Also, smile, be playful, and always engage (you might have to practice this if you have lived here for a while...you know flirting,) lots of women here don't make the effort and wonder why they can't get a date.

How old are you and your friends and where do you go out?
If you are going out to places where married men are hitting on you, the single guy will not be there. When I was single the last thing I wanted to do was hang out with married guys at a fern bar. Try going to beer tasting, brewery and distillery tours, flyfishing(god there are only guys flyfishing).

[Anonymous]

"This is obnoxious and offensive. Even if you think this way ("bitches" "broads" "chicks" "sweetie"), have the sense to keep it to yourself. How many conclusions have you jumped to in your post? The OP asked where to meet eligible single men. There is so much venom on her lately."

I'm a woman, one who successfully dates, and I agree 100%. Stop whining and start doing something about it. I know that if I'm meeting up with a friend at some chichi bar, I won't likely be finding any single men there, and it doesn't concern me one bit. There are plenty of guys to date around town - tons of military installations & tech companies full of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

OP, as a man here, let me first apologize for the few rude male trolls who feel the need to insult you for no apparent reason.

Having lived in several big cities, DC included, the cold reality is that the dating scene drastically changes at about the time women and men hit their early 30s. I know about two dozen very eligible single women and only one single male in their early to mid-30s. Almost all of the "good" males are taken, and by that I mean the ones with equal education, earning potential, good looks, etc. If you were really happy marrying blue collar types, you probably wouldn't have trouble finding a man.

Men around your age who go to bars are there to pick up based on looks, and the brutal reality, all things being equal, the mid-20s girls are going to get more attention than the mid-30s girls. So I would get online, approach the shy types who tend to stay single longer, and adjust expectations of what the dating market looks like for people in their 30s. Start going to sports bars and other places where the ratio skews male and go in smaller groups - large groups are intimidating to approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right here. You can email me at [e-mail].

Did OP and her crew email you yet man?

There usually is a thread like this once every month or two and guys leave an email or contact info to the OP - i am curious is all of these OP's and their friends have ever taken up a contact on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Lesbianism could solve this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

I'll take all 12!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

OP, as a man here, let me first apologize for the few rude male trolls who feel the need to insult you for no apparent reason.

Having lived in several big cities, DC included, the cold reality is that the dating scene drastically changes at about the time women and men hit their early 30s.l I know about two dozen very eligible single women and only one single male in their early to mid-30s. Almost all of the "good" males are taken, and by that I mean the ones with equal education, earning potential, good looks, etc. If you were really happy marrying blue collar types, you probably wouldn't have trouble finding a man.

Men around your age who go to bars are there to pick up based on looks, and the brutal reality, all things being equal, the mid-20s girls are going to get more attention than the mid-30s girls. So I would get online, approach the shy types who tend to stay single longer, and adjust expectations of what the dating market looks like for people in their 30s. Start going to sports bars and other places where the ratio skews male and go in smaller groups - large groups are intimidating to approach.

Cold, but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is obnoxious and offensive. Even if you think this way ("bitches" "broads" "chicks" "sweetie"), have the sense to keep it to yourself. How many conclusions have you jumped to in your post? The OP asked where to meet eligible single men. There is so much venom on her lately.

Please...we talking about a grown ass woman whining like a little girl who's lost her blankie about being single. I'm not gonna enabling her infantile attitude by coddling her, I'm gonna speak the straight up truth and the truth is either she's not as aesthetically amazing as she thinks she is, hence her lack of single suitors, or she's got some traits and tendencies that aren't particularly attractive and trump all of her beauty and success and professionalism. Things like - like, oh...I don't know...possibly she's a bitch. It happens you know...it is possible. Hell as women are all too eager to explain on these boards, a lot of men can be jerks AND similarly a lot of women can be...

Just saying - a lot of times these "mysteries" are not all that confounding.

You're jumping to a lot of harsh conclusions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe if you quit bragging about being so successful in your profession, you'd find a guy. A total asshole could be a doctor and a gem could be a mechanic, but would you even give him the time of day knowing he doesn't fit your bizarre standard of success?

The first question most of these successful hot women ask in a bar is how much $ we make. Total buyers market for men. All we want is someone who seems fun and low maintenance.

I have never not once asked a man how much they made before we were ...hell married. I'm 40.

[Anonymous]

OP, the answer begins and ends with SPORTS. Whichever you one you want. Bars are the WORST place to try to find boyfriends/husbands. I'm not saying it never happens, but no one I know is married to someone they met at a bar. Possible exception: pub trivia.

Sports! Take a lesson! Join a team! Join a meet up! Join a training group! It will happen.

I actually do know a couple of awesome single guys in their 30s (as well as some not-so-awesome ones). The awesome ones are shy before you know them and aren't great at creating opportunities to hit on you. They're not online dating, and they're definitely not at bars trying to picking up chicks. They need to gain a comfort level first and you can get that by paying SPORTS with them. Then they'll ask you out.

If it's only successful single alpha males you're after (understandable, but problematic), then you're out of luck because those guys are a. already happily married since their mid- to late 20s, b. married and only looking to cheat with you, c. divorced and busy with work and kids, or d. jerks. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe if you quit bragging about being so successful in your profession, you'd find a guy. A total asshole could be a doctor and a gem could be a mechanic, but would you even give him the time of day knowing he doesn't fit your bizarre standard of success?

The first question most of these successful hot women ask in a bar is how much $ we make. Total buyers market for men. All we want is someone who seems fun and low maintenance.

I have never not once asked a man how much they made before we were ...hell married. I'm 40.

I actually can't even believe that's true. I didn't even ask my husband until we started discussing me SAH with our first and what our savings would look like if I did. I used to hang out with a super high-maintenance, materialistic Russian princess type and even SHE never asked that. What kind of car, yes. What do you do, yes. So kind of the same thing, but sliiiiiightly less blunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Maybe if you quit bragging about being so successful in your profession, you'd find a guy. A total asshole could be a doctor and a gem could be a mechanic, but would you even give him the time of day knowing he doesn't fit your bizarre standard of success?


The first question most of these successful hot women ask in a bar is how much $ we make. Total buyers market for men. All we want is someone who seems fun and low maintenance.


I have never not once asked a man how much they made before we were ...hell married. I'm 40.


I actually can't even believe that's true. I didn't even ask my husband until we started discussing me SAH with our first and what our savings would look like if I did. I used to hang out with a super high-maintenance, materialistic Russian princess type and even SHE never asked that. What kind of car, yes. What do you do, yes. So kind of the same thing, but sliiiiiightly less blunt.

They may not ask you how much you make, but they will ask you what you do and what school/s you went to within a few minutes..and it's not just innocent small talk. Say you do x and went to x school...you will be fighting off the women. Had a friend who use to do this all the time when he came to town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you all spend a lot of time in bars?

That's a terrible place to meet someone. I literally don't know anyone who's met their significant other in a bar, and most of my friends are married (probably 20-30 close-ish girlfriends).

Try sports, clubs, etc -- you're not going to find great guys at a bar.

+100. Almost everyone I know, myself included, met their spouse at a mutual friend's party, work, or (in my case and many others') sports. Team sports like softball/kickball, or lessons like golf/tennis/kayaking/hashers.

+1000 Or at a summer beach house share/party or at a religious event (church, temple, etc) Signed met "the one" at 34, married at 35, still going strong 15 years later....

[Anonymous]

To be fair, that might just be small talk/playing the name game/getting to know you. It is definitely a quirk of DC that everyone asks what you do as soon as they meet you. I get asked that all the time by everyone (not men who are trying to hit on me). I think it's just a thing here. Like in the South, the first thing they always ask you is where you're from (esp. if you have a Northern accent, so they can determine how Yankee you are).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I have 2 brothers One is a 37 year old orthopedist and the other is a 29 year old electrician. Care to guess who has more financial freedom?


47 year old orthopedist vs. 39 year old electrician (unless he owns are huge business) is where the separation starts to occur. i assume your 37 year old brother has a big student loan nut still over his head.

Yes the 39 year old elections who opens his own business at 29 will have a lot more free time and out earn the orthopedist. I use to deal with both types. I am not taking a big business either. It would drive many lawyers crazy if they knew what the sales rep at their document copy service place make.