I know many successful, beautiful women and we can't find men in DC!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those in your circle 35+, maybe including you too OP, what types of guys are you excluding? Would you date a divorced guy? What if he had a kid/kids? Do you date only w/ in your 'race' or,do you cross ethnic barriers?

What types of activiites do you for fun - when you're not at bars or clubs on the weekends? I can tell you if you are crossing off your list single dads, divorced guys, 35-45, you're really missing out on a wide pool of pretty eligible, mature and successful guys in this town.

NP here. This is my type - where do I find these guys? Especially when I don't have kids (and no real desire to physically have my own) so there's no reason I'd be on a sports field while DD/DS is playing XYZ sport.

Golf, Sierra Club activities, bookstores. After a while, people get tired of bars and clubs.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my 50s and still get hit on. My theory is I am friendly and very low maintenance, and laugh easily.

Most of my male friends who divorced or who have marital issue, feel like they can't do anything right in their spouse's eyes. Those that are single want a woman who appreciates a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single guy in late 20's here - was out in seattle and portland - you dc girls crush your competition out there.

even just browse on okc - the 6-8 on the attractiveness scale, hyper-educated, driven, ambitious group of women are a dime a dozen around here - there is a real paucity of your type out in the pacnw.

As a sociological tool, okc is super interesting - just browsing different cities on it, you start to get an idea of the distribution of the type of women in a particular area.

These aren't really positives in a woman.

[Anonymous]

Mid 30's single professional guy here (though I'm in NYC - I know I'm not the only one here). As others stated, we really don't care how "successful" you are at your jobs. It's not really a negative for me, but might be for other guys. Most smart guys, though, DO want a smart and educated woman, just not one that uses her job to act superior to others. A B.A. from a decent school is quite enough - if you have a Harvard JD or MBA that's cool with me - but it doesn't make you more attractive. Being in good shape, fun, and nice do.

[Anonymous]

Homework assignment for DCUM:

Listen to Dr. Drew podcast #133, with Anahita Sedaghatfar.

She complains about being a successful professional, in her mid-30s, who can't find a man.

Or, rather, she finds them to be married, or "losers." She provides this definition of "loser": unaccomplished.

She sounds eerily similar to some of the posters here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mid 30's single professional guy here (though I'm in NYC - I know I'm not the only one here). As others stated, we really don't care how "successful" you are at your jobs. It's not really a negative for me, but might be for other guys. Most smart guys, though, DO want a smart and educated woman, just not one that uses her job to act superior to others. A B.A. from a decent school is quite enough - if you have a Harvard JD or MBA that's cool with me - but it doesn't make you more attractive. Being in good shape, fun, and nice do.

Yep. Once I learned this I found my spouse. He is happy I'm smart and I think he appreciates the income I bring home a little too much. That being said, we have a great time together and he's attracted to me. I love to cook for him, have sex, dress up for him to go out, decorate our home and plan our social life. I'm sure he appreciates these things a lot more than my career success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Homework assignment for DCUM:

Listen to Dr. Drew podcast #133, with Anahita Sedaghatfar.

She complains about being a successful professional, in her mid-30s, who can't find a man.

Or, rather, she finds them to be married, or "losers." She provides this definition of "loser": unaccomplished.

She sounds eerily similar to some of the posters here.

yup, the problem women like this face is staring at them in the mirror

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Homework assignment for DCUM:

Listen to Dr. Drew podcast #133, with Anahita Sedaghatfar.

She complains about being a successful professional, in her mid-30s, who can't find a man.

Or, rather, she finds them to be married, or "losers." She provides this definition of "loser": unaccomplished.

She sounds eerily similar to some of the posters here.

What's the point in listening to Dr Drew? More importantly, why can't you understand that we're not one collective mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Homework assignment for DCUM:

Listen to Dr. Drew podcast #133, with Anahita Sedaghatfar.

She complains about being a successful professional, in her mid-30s, who can't find a man.

Or, rather, she finds them to be married, or "losers." She provides this definition of "loser": unaccomplished.

She sounds eerily similar to some of the posters here.

What's the point in listening to Dr Drew? More importantly, why can't you understand that we're not one collective mind?

" Some of the posters here" does not imply "one collective mind'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single guy in late 20's here - was out in seattle and portland - you dc girls crush your competition out there.

even just browse on okc - the 6-8 on the attractiveness scale, hyper-educated, driven, ambitious group of women are a dime a dozen around here - there is a real paucity of your type out in the pacnw.

As a sociological tool, okc is super interesting - just browsing different cities on it, you start to get an idea of the distribution of the type of women in a particular area.

These aren't really positives in a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What's the point in listening to Dr Drew? More importantly, why can't you understand that we're not one collective mind?

Yes, but many, to most, of you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mid 30's single professional guy here (though I'm in NYC - I know I'm not the only one here). As others stated, we really don't care how "successful" you are at your jobs. It's not really a negative for me, but might be for other guys. Most smart guys, though, DO want a smart and educated woman, just not one that uses her job to act superior to others. A B.A. from a decent school is quite enough - if you have a Harvard JD or MBA that's cool with me - but it doesn't make you more attractive. Being in good shape, fun, and nice do.

Yep. Once I learned this I found my spouse. He is happy I'm smart and I think he appreciates the income I bring home a little too much. That being said, we have a great time together and he's attracted to me. I love to cook for him, have sex, dress up for him to go out, decorate our home and plan our social life. I'm sure he appreciates these things a lot more than my career success.

The problem is that I don't really want to fit his idea of "fun and nice." I just want to be me, the hyper driven, educated, ambitious me. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single guy in late 20's here - was out in seattle and portland - you dc girls crush your competition out there.

even just browse on okc - the 6-8 on the attractiveness scale, hyper-educated, driven, ambitious group of women are a dime a dozen around here - there is a real paucity of your type out in the pacnw.

As a sociological tool, okc is super interesting - just browsing different cities on it, you start to get an idea of the distribution of the type of women in a particular area.

To a lot of people, the Type A personality is a turn-off!

But if you are Type A, it does no good to hook up with a Type B guy who really wants a Type B gal. That's what happened in my marriage - X thought he wanted or could live with a Type A mate, but he just wanted a fun, sweet girl. No problem with him wanting that, other than he should have decided he wanted that type of person before he married me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who cares? What's your point?

Marriage is a financial liability to men, that's my point.

How so? I make more than my husband. It's only a liability if they marry a low earner or a SAHW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who cares? What's your point?

Marriage is a financial liability to men, that's my point.

How so? I make more than my husband. It's only a liability if they marry a low earner or a SAHW.

Will be a much bigger liability to have children outside of marriage. For what it's worth, my husband makes more but I force is to save tons of money. He didn't save a lot before we got married. Also, we will never divorce.