I know many successful, beautiful women and we can't find men in DC!

[Anonymous]

Clearly, you're hanging in the corner with your five best friends. Forget about scratch golfers and give regular guys a chance now and then - you might be pleasantly surprised with the results.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are not the best judge of what men find attractive in women. So you may think you and all your girlfriends are the shit, but the results say something else. Why are you and your friends hanging around married men? By the way, the married men who hit on women are not being selective.

NP here, and I agree with all of this. But enlighten us - what do men find attractive? Besides youth, which the OP and everyone else can't control? Or is that really pretty much it? I'm curious. I know many cool, smart, fun single women and I've pretty much concluded that there are just way more of them here than there are single 30-something men.

guy here. well yes, in dc there are more single women than men in 25-34 range. it has the worst statistics for any city in the country according to bloomberg. you would be swimming in guys in sf or seattle. however, i have a feeling that the OP and DC women would be frustrated there as well (as proven by the recent article by a woman lamenting about 'amazon' killing her sex life).

guy's are pretty simple.

look pretty, be nice.

i've dated a high-school educated nanny (american born, though really smart - just never went to college), a harvard educated ophthalmology resident, a MIT educated strategy consultant, the barista at starbucks....and they all had two things in common - they were pretty and nice people.

you said your friends are ' cool, smart, fun'....it is telling that you never said if they were nice, not status hungry bitches, nurturing, loving, etc.

and the age thing does matter (not as much to me, but i don't care if i have kids or not) - but when people like that princeton alum who wrote about women should find a good man at a younger age, then other women yell at her for saying some home truths.

Having lived in SF as a single women, just want to point out that the single guys there are all into each other. Maybe Seattle is the better bet.

OP, I actually left San Francisco when I looked around and realized that I knew a ton of great women (smart, well-educated, good jobs, athletic, pretty) who were single, and yet every single straight male friend had a girlfriend, no matter if they were shlubby and unemployed. When the numbers don't work in your favor, they just don't work. I actually left the city, moved back home to the NY suburbs for a while, met my now-husband, and we're now married with two kids. Obviously my path isn't for everybody, but for me, having a family was very important to me, and it worked out. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Should have been early education teachers . More attractive to men. Summers off.

[Anonymous]

A group of close friends hanging out at a bar together is intimidating to a man. Not many would walk up to a group of women like that and those who would aren't necessarily looking for a relationship.

If you want to be approachable, you have to sometimes be alone. Not alone alone, as in walking down a dark alley alone but in a social setting where people are mingling and switching up conversation partners often enough - like the interest based meet up groups PPs recommended, young adult night at a church, a sport, etc. You need to pursue your interests with people who share your interests so you & the men you meet can have something to chat about and connect over off the bat.

Also, watch your body language - says a lot about whether you'd welcome some one's interest. After a tough break up, I found that I wore a "F off" stamped on my forehead for like a year even though I didn't mean to - no one really pursued me in that year. When I realized what I was doing and made more of an effort to be open and friendly, I got a lot of interest.

Lastly, proactively express your interest. And keep the stats of DC in mind so you don't assume it's all you - some women are simply going to be single in this town, and there will be more single women than men. That's just a facet of DC.

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In your desparation to find a spouse, don't fall for someone just out of interest to check a box on your bucket list. Ask yourself: can you truly imagine spending years and years with that person and raising children together? Going through all the ups and downs that life brings? Dealing with unexpected health and financial issues? I would go for a guy who you feel really comfortable being yourself around and who hangs in there when the going gets rough. I don't think you'll find those guys in a bar. I think you'll find them in more meaningful places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

1st of all, drop the desperation act on behalf of your whole crew (its not as endearing as you think) and worry about yourself. 2nd, I don't care how gorgeous you are, I don't care what your profession is, I don't care how much money you make or how many degrees you have, if you're a bitch you're a bitch. It's just that simple and from what you've detailed it sounds like you and your group are perplexed why when you're out and about there isn't a herd of hunks hitting on every single one of you - well...got news for ya sweetie...when women are out in packs they tend to come off as bitches. I'm just saying. Not to mention the fact that most guys have no interest in going through a gauntlet of gaggling geese to get to one chick. Now married men will - hell they just want some interaction, they'll talk to and hit on every doctor, pharmacist, and lawyer in your little group just to find one to flirt with and give his floundering ego a boost. But single guys...good guys as you say...they're out there but if its between a chick sitting by herself and you and your pack of broads at the bar I got $20 says he's going for the chick sitting by herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

Not in bars. In hobby circles (where people are bonded by what they like to do) and online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

Try online dating. I know some people look down on it, and you will get a lot of creepy messages from creepy guys, but there are some sincere men online who don't really know where to meet women, but are otherwise nice. Just be prepared to filter the wheat from the chaf.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Right here. You can email me at [e-mail].

Are you single?

+1

I have a friend who has been dateless 4 years.

[Anonymous]

It's well known that there is a low ratio of eligible women to men in DC, especially if you're AA.
OP, are you a black woman.
Either you need to find a husband before you're 27 or you need to wait for them to start divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

1st of all, drop the desperation act on behalf of your whole crew (its not as endearing as you think) and worry about yourself. 2nd, I don't care how gorgeous you are, I don't care what your profession is, I don't care how much money you make or how many degrees you have, if you're a bitch you're a bitch. It's just that simple and from what you've detailed it sounds like you and your group are perplexed why when you're out and about there isn't a herd of hunks hitting on every single one of you - well...got news for ya sweetie...when women are out in packs they tend to come off as bitches. I'm just saying. Not to mention the fact that most guys have no interest in going through a gauntlet of gaggling geese to get to one chick. Now married men will - hell they just want some interaction, they'll talk to and hit on every doctor, pharmacist, and lawyer in your little group just to find one to flirt with and give his floundering ego a boost. But single guys...good guys as you say...they're out there but if its between a chick sitting by herself and you and your pack of broads at the bar I got $20 says he's going for the chick sitting by herself.

This is obnoxious and offensive. Even if you think this way ("bitches" "broads" "chicks" "sweetie"), have the sense to keep it to yourself. How many conclusions have you jumped to in your post? The OP asked where to meet eligible single men. There is so much venom on her lately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try not hanging out with 11 other women.

THIS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is obnoxious and offensive. Even if you think this way ("bitches" "broads" "chicks" "sweetie"), have the sense to keep it to yourself. How many conclusions have you jumped to in your post? The OP asked where to meet eligible single men. There is so much venom on her lately.

Please...we talking about a grown ass woman whining like a little girl who's lost her blankie about being single. I'm not gonna enabling her infantile attitude by coddling her, I'm gonna speak the straight up truth and the truth is either she's not as aesthetically amazing as she thinks she is, hence her lack of single suitors, or she's got some traits and tendencies that aren't particularly attractive and trump all of her beauty and success and professionalism. Things like - like, oh...I don't know...possibly she's a bitch. It happens you know...it is possible. Hell as women are all too eager to explain on these boards, a lot of men can be jerks AND similarly a lot of women can be...

Just saying - a lot of times these "mysteries" are not all that confounding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is obnoxious and offensive. Even if you think this way ("bitches" "broads" "chicks" "sweetie"), have the sense to keep it to yourself. How many conclusions have you jumped to in your post? The OP asked where to meet eligible single men. There is so much venom on her lately.

Please...we talking about a grown ass woman whining like a little girl who's lost her blankie about being single. I'm not gonna enabling her infantile attitude by coddling her, I'm gonna speak the straight up truth and the truth is either she's not as aesthetically amazing as she thinks she is, hence her lack of single suitors, or she's got some traits and tendencies that aren't particularly attractive and trump all of her beauty and success and professionalism. Things like - like, oh...I don't know...possibly she's a bitch. It happens you know...it is possible. Hell as women are all too eager to explain on these boards, a lot of men can be jerks AND similarly a lot of women can be...

Just saying - a lot of times these "mysteries" are not all that confounding.

You could be the most beautiful, professionally accomplished woman I've ever met, but: 1) if you do not take a genuine interest in me; and/or 2) you are just a nasty human being, I'll take the kind fat chick sitting next you.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe if you quit bragging about being so successful in your profession, you'd find a guy. A total asshole could be a doctor and a gem could be a mechanic, but would you even give him the time of day knowing he doesn't fit your bizarre standard of success?

+1

If they are not finding ANY man, then they need to look at themselves and their attitude or image they are projecting.

And maybe they're the ones who are afraid of actual commitment and are in denial about it. I was single for years in part because I was afraid of a real relationship and only chased after unavailable men. If it hadn't been for group therapy, I think I'd be single today.