Boss Mad At Me For Not Coming In To Work Yesterday...Is He Right Or Am I?? You Decide...............

[Anonymous]

Do you have paid time off? Why is it anyone's business what you do with your PTO, or why you're using it?

If you don't have PTO and your absence causes problems for your co-workers, I can see why your boss is pissed.

Sometimes, it's just better to lie and say you're sick.

[Anonymous]

Why did you tell your boss the reason? That is not sick leave, you were not ill. That is personal leave.

[Anonymous]

GUYS, GUYS, GUYS

OP IS A TROLL.

Seriously, notice that he/she posts all the time, and never responds like a normal person with a real question would?

I think we can stop taking anything he/she says seriously. For reals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

What did your not coming in mean for your boss and your colleagues? Don't you keep deodorant on hand? Missing a shower for one day is not grounds for missing work. I don't think most bosses, or colleagues, would understand!

+1

Not taking a shower is not an excuse for missing work. Many of us have to make do without a daily shower on occasion. Why didn't you take a shower the night before if you knew the water would be out in the morning?

I am with your boss. I'd be pissed and I'd put you on warning that if you pull this again, you will be in deep trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:GUYS, GUYS, GUYS

OP IS A TROLL.

Seriously, notice that he/she posts all the time, and never responds like a normal person with a real question would?

I think we can stop taking anything he/she says seriously. For reals.

Sorry, fell for it. Score for the troll!!

[Anonymous]

You should have lied. Your biggest mistake is not knowing your boss and how he would react - and probably not understanding your status in the organization. Bosses don't think lower level employees are entitled to "unique" reasons to be absent. They won't cut them any slack. They are afraid other employees will do the same and they don't want the management headache of deciding case-by-case basis. He would rather you had called in sick and taken sick leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No I don't think it's a legit reason. A boss might think you should take the initiative to solve little issues - take a shower at the gym, or at a friend's house - rather than miss work for them.

Agreed, although you shouldn't have even told him. Just say you're sick or had a personal emergency. How you use your accrued leave is your business.

Was there a pressing matter that you ignored on this day?

[Anonymous]

Okay, count me an outlier but I would not go to work without a shower unless I had something absolutely critical. We've had times when we've been without power for a week and I even feel bad when I have to take cold showers and can't dry my hair but in those cases I took my hair dryer to work.

Might be a little different for me since I can normally work at home.

[Anonymous]

Totally not reasonable. Especially not for a sick day.

[Anonymous]

Lots of "millennial" bashing on this thread.... Just want to say as a 25 year old I find this entirely absurd. We're not all this ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

Why the hell do they let you post anonymously anyways? It's very unwieldy. Just give everyone usernames.

[Anonymous]

For Christ's sake, OP, you take a shower the night before. Completely a bullshit excuse and you would get a warning from me and I would be questioning your judgment and dedication forever after. Your boss has every right to be mad and you better mind your P's and Q's from now on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He was right. That's a ridiculous reason not to come in to work.

By the way, OP, your writing style is very distinctive (and annoying) and you have never posted anything where I haven't thought "wow, OP is very wrong and a bit dumb"

Yes, I do have a distinctive writing style but most people compliment me on it because they say it is easy to read since I space everything out and I can actually use correct grammar and punctuation.

They also like that I do not use run on sentences and use hash-tags or LOL-type add'ons to my posts.

Oh my dear, no - you most certainly do NOT know how to use proper punctuation, and your syntax is terrible.

[Anonymous]

Next time stay home and do your nails. This is why it was so hard for working women pioneers to break through the glass ceiling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - how old are you?? No seriously, I want to know.
You're either childless or a millennial.

Your "lack of shower" excuse is pretty pitiful. I would be embarrassed to admit that to my boss.

wait wait wait - what does any of this have to do with having kids or not?

re: the original question - to me, it'd really depend on what your job is and how you handled the absence. assuming you're allowed sick days, i'd say (if you really couldn't go in without showering at home) you should have taken a sick day and never, ever, ever told your boss why you stayed home. no big deal, in that case.

if you missed something important, really let someone down, etc, with your absence, then yes, you were in the wrong.

if one of my interns told me they weren't coming in because of a shower, and left me in the lurch, for example, i'd be pissssed. if one of my colleagues decided to take a sick day, and didn't let me know, i'd never give it another thought.