Turned a colleague down for a date, reported it to HR, and I was fired the next day

[Anonymous]

OP: My experience is whenever you go to HR, bad things happen. I once called trying to find out a question about COBRA....got called into my bosses office wondering if I was leaving. No...I was just curious.

In general, HR's job is to protect to company, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: My experience is whenever you go to HR, bad things happen. I once called trying to find out a question about COBRA....got called into my bosses office wondering if I was leaving. No...I was just curious.

In general, HR's job is to protect to company, not you.

I agree. HR is ONLY there to protect the company and prevent lawsuits. Nothing else.

[Anonymous]

Yes HR is to protect senior management.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps company B thought you were going to be a high maintenance employee and didn't want future problems.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is missing out on asking the main question:

OP: Are you hot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: My experience is whenever you go to HR, bad things happen. I once called trying to find out a question about COBRA....got called into my bosses office wondering if I was leaving. No...I was just curious.

In general, HR's job is to protect to company, not you.

I agree. HR is ONLY there to protect the company and prevent lawsuits. Nothing else.

+1000 HR is very "sympathetic" when you first go to them and they promise you confidentiality. Then they "warn" management about your problem while they figure out how to transfer or terminate you.

[Anonymous]

HR bastards.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have heard HR will try to fire you if they consider your private email address not cool- aol, yahoo!. They are just the management's lackeys.

[Anonymous]

Sexism and Ageism. They were right to let you go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You deserve to be fired if you reported someone for just asking you for a drink.

I have never heard anything so ridiculous.

Seriously. I would have fired you, too. You scream "walking litigious asshole."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you reported him for asking you out on a date?

I would have fired you too. Too litigious; a potential headache.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you reported him for asking you out on a date?

I would have fired you too. Too litigious; a potential headache.

I wrote this and didn't even see the quote just above. Apparently two of us were thinking alike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then legitimate harassment happens and people don't take it seriously because of overreactions like this.

+1. And then next time old guy in authority is hiring someone, female applicants will bear the burden of any conscious or unconscious bias this guy has developed out of this experience. Thanks, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP overreacted greatly.

Keep that email exchange for future reference if needed. If there's another approach, respond unequivocally "thanks but I keep business & private life separate, so please don't ask again."

If there's an approach after that, then you consider going to HR or investigating your options.

You went over the top way too soon IMO and revealed a lack of judgment to HR (IMO).

[Anonymous]

Yeah, OP sounds like an over reacting bitch. The older guy knows people in HR and you likely misread his intentions. They fired you because you are a drama queen.