have been dating a guy for awhile and he hasn't made any moves

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Anonymous wrote:Does his first name start with a b? Bc this happened to me and another girl I know with the same guy....

omg i was just about to ask op if his name starts with B as a joke. are we all dating the same lame dude?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

OP, I dated a guy like this. He'd been engaged and discovered that she was cheating and wasn't over it yet. (FYI, I was 23 at the time and naive. I put the pieces together after the fact.) He was trying to move on, but I think he wanted to work things out. He seemed to use me for companionship and comfort, but never made a move other than wanting to cuddle sometimes. It was mutual, as I was also on the rebound. He would ask me to sleep over, but he never tried anything. He would sleep on the couch and I would sleep in his bed. I can't prove it, but I think they eventually got back together.

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Op here. Update..... Well we did kiss and it was amazing! I think he was hesitant because of his situation.

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I'm reading with interest as just got back from date 4 (if you count a first meet) and no physical contact. He's been married twice.
I might try a kiss hello next time I see him.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm reading with interest as just got back from date 4 (if you count a first meet) and no physical contact. He's been married twice.
I might try a kiss hello next time I see him.

NO physical contact? At all? Not even a hug or something? I've been on probably 4 (consecutive, with the same man) dates without a kiss, but never, ever more than 2 without any physical contact.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Update..... Well we did kiss and it was amazing! I think he was hesitant because of his situation.

Good!

[Anonymous]

Just to add something...with all of the stuff about no means no, and quiet means no, some guys are reluctant to make the first move because they want to be a gentleman.

I know, when I was dating, I would ask my date if I could kiss her (softly, of course, and usually as a whisper in her ear). I was not a prude, and had no problem with sex quickly, but I wanted to make sure the woman wanted the physical part too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm reading with interest as just got back from date 4 (if you count a first meet) and no physical contact. He's been married twice.
I might try a kiss hello next time I see him.

NO physical contact? At all? Not even a hug or something? I've been on probably 4 (consecutive, with the same man) dates without a kiss, but never, ever more than 2 without any physical contact.

Yeah, no contact. Hope I'm not giving off some no contact signal. Does seem kind of odd. Like him though so don't really want to walk away.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm reading with interest as just got back from date 4 (if you count a first meet) and no physical contact. He's been married twice.
I might try a kiss hello next time I see him.

NO physical contact? At all? Not even a hug or something? I've been on probably 4 (consecutive, with the same man) dates without a kiss, but never, ever more than 2 without any physical contact.

Yeah, no contact. Hope I'm not giving off some no contact signal. Does seem kind of odd. Like him though so don't really want to walk away.

I'm not going to ask the obvious 'are you sure he sees what you are doing as dating?' question because it seems asinine and your posts read like you are socially aware and have good judgement, but I think I'd be asking myself that question if I was in your situation, and I consider myself socially aware with good judgement. How interested does he seem aside from the physical - does he keep asking you out, or are you the one initiating all the time?

I think if it was me I would have hugged him by now. In fact, I'm sure I would have. I have initiated hugs at the end of dates where I knew I might want to keep seeing the guy but wasn't feeling it enough yet to have him kiss me. If you like him, go for the hug goodbye or kiss hello. It's not so aggressive that it should put him off (dude's been married twice you said, so it's not like it's his first time being around women), and if he shuts it down, at least you have your answer and aren't wasting any more time.