have been dating a guy for awhile and he hasn't made any moves

[Anonymous]

BTDT- I suspected but found out on date 5 that he was still involved in a relationship with his ex-gf and was trying to "move on" but at the same time wanted to hold out and be able to say to the ex if she came back "but I was only friends with this other woman - we never even kissed!"

[Anonymous]

Friend zone and he's too nice to say something. Or he's exploring other options simultaneously.

How old r u guys?

[Anonymous]

"Does his first name start with a b? Bc this happened to me and another girl I know with the same guy.... "

LOL - I was going to ask if his name began with a "P"! Still not sure whether he was exploring other options or had a sexual hang up, but am long past him.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I think the quick answer is that if you like sex and if physical affection is important to you in a relationship, then this isn't the guy for you. It is one thing to wait for sex because you don't want your hormones to overwhelm your rational brain early in a relationship, another to not touch or kiss.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

I would say so, yes. It makes more sense now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

No. A guy is a guy. If he wants to hit something, he'll hit it. Either he's not really in to you (most likely), or he's gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

Seriously, OP- why don't you ask him?

[Anonymous]

Probably doesn't want to pressure you. Can't be too careful these days. I've read the feminist sites and the definition of sexual coercion is very broad.

[Anonymous]

Possibly gay. Possibly very religious. Possibly very shy. Possibly has Asperger's or some other diagnosis linked to social awkwardness.

Maybe you could kiss him on the cheek at the beginning or end of the date and see if he takes that as a hint?

[Anonymous]

(10:50 here - just saw that he's separated - maybe it's been awhile since he's dated and has no idea what the protocol is these days. Most guys I know would kiss you by now, though, separated or not.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

Seriously, OP- why don't you ask him?

Should i ask him directly how exactly he views our relationship?

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the divorce is on? Maybe he's not ready to get involved physically because he's not sure he's done with the marriage? HOw long has he been separated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the divorce is on? Maybe he's not ready to get involved physically because he's not sure he's done with the marriage? HOw long has he been separated?

Separated since October. I am positive they are getting divorced. Papers have been served, he is asking for divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't want to bring this up because I don't want to get flamed BUT he is separated and not yet divorced. I really don't want to hear that I should NOT date a separated guy (i know I shouldn't). BUT does this factor into why he hasn't made any moves?

Seriously, OP- why don't you ask him?

Should i ask him directly how exactly he views our relationship?

As a guy, after 8 dates- HELL NO. That's way too open ended and if he's separated, he may not even view it as a relationship yet. Its been a handful of dates and you haven't even kissed yet. Make the first move and if he backs away, then ask why he doesn't want anything physical yet. But running into a "relationship conversation" is putting the cart before the horse.