Married neighbors having an affair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also disagree with the rest of the posters on here. If my husband was cheating on me, I would want to know. However, I would absolutely not want to be the one to tell and be responsible. I can't imagine how awkard that would make the neighborhood dynamic if I ruined 2 marriages.

I would mail an anonymous letter maybe. I better be dead sure though and not speculating.

MYOB. These are not relatives and best friends that they need to "tell". This is a neighborhood of newly constructed homes.

Get a life! You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with those telling you to MYOB. They made their affair very public by taking it outside where neighbors could (clearly) see. If I were the pregnant wife, I would certainly want to know, but I would also want the person telling me to stress that they wouldn't be spreading it around to anyone else in the neighborhood.

You are not the wife. You have no idea what she would want. Don't try and disguise your puerile interest in this by pretending you have a noble motive.

Ugh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:report it to thedirty.com dc edition or cheaters website

Why? Why be a party to a wreck which will surely happen on its own? Sooner or later? Or maybe it will not happen at all? Who are you to be the judge and jury for someone else's life?

Disgusting nasty posters!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't tell. The poor woman is pregnant and doesn't need more stress now. She may already know!

But I agree with the PP that I might be concerned if she is planning to quit her job and be a sahm

And it would still not be your business! Women forgive cheating spouses all the time. It is not your marriage, not your spouse, not your relative, not your friend.

Stay out of it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you leave an anonymous note to the suspected cheated-on partners, saying what you see. If it's nothing, no big deal. If they don't know about it, they'd want to know and it is the ethical think to do to inform them.

No. This is being nasty. What kind of person leaves anonymous notes! Do not do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And there are some people who really DON'T want to know. They're happy to look the other way and telling them just bursts their bubble. Who is anyone to decide what someone really needs to know?

THIS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you leave an anonymous note to the suspected cheated-on partners, saying what you see. If it's nothing, no big deal. If they don't know about it, they'd want to know and it is the ethical think to do to inform them.

No. This is being nasty. What kind of person leaves anonymous notes! Do not do anything.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:send an anonymous note to the pregnant wife she deserves to know what kind of marriage she's bringing that helpless baby into.

PP, you are an idiot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The next time you see them making out outside, I would go to my mailbox and stare real hard, lmao.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with those telling you to MYOB. They made their affair very public by taking it outside where neighbors could (clearly) see. If I were the pregnant wife, I would certainly want to know, but I was also want the person telling me to stress that they wouldn't be spreading it around to anyone else in the neighborhood.

The so called "I am your friend" busybody!

[Anonymous]

Ok I am the OP & I have to post again to defend myself. I am not a troll. I did not explain the whole situation because I do not want to be identified. If I do write an annonymous note or something I don't want it to be easy to figure out who I am. I LIVE NEXT TO THESE PEOPLE FOR HEAVENS SAKE & JUST BOUGHT A BRAND NEW EXPENSIVE HOUSE. But the fact is that they are having an affair. I know that they are having an affair and my husband actually took a picture to show me because he knew I wouldnt believe it. That was a while ago and we noticed a bunch of other stuff after. I am not some crazy old lady making things up about neighbors because I am bored.

I would not be getting involved except that my conscious is really weighing on me. I have known about it for a long time & every time I see any 1 of them, especailly the pregnant lady, I feel really bad and guilty. I am friendly w/both couples and I am having trouble keeping my mouth shut but you do what you have to do when you are neighbors. No matter what I do I am not letting on that it's me who knows. My husband also wants to tell her husband so I don't even know, maybe he will do that first., hopefully in an annonymous way.

The more I read these posts I think I have to do something. The worst part is that the 2 couples involved are the closest out of all of us. They are next door neighbors and hang out almost every night. I just keep thinking of the pregnant lady. She would probably drop dead if she found out, I guess what I wonder is if it is better to be hit with something like this while pregnant or with a newborn. I dont know. I am thinking pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand why people would say myob. But put yourself in the shoes of the pregnant wife. Yes, some people don't want to know, but most of us would. It can give her time to prepare for the inevitable end of her marriage. What if she decides not to return to work? What if her husband leaves her. In some cases, mind your own business does apply, but If someone is getting hurt, I'd feel differently.

ummm...still MYOB!

[Anonymous]

what does the price of the house have to do with it?

you are thirsty for attention and drama. step off!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are behaving intimately outside? I'd take a pic and mail it to the wife.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also disagree with the rest of the posters on here. If my husband was cheating on me, I would want to know. However, I would absolutely not want to be the one to tell and be responsible. I can't imagine how awkard that would make the neighborhood dynamic if I ruined 2 marriages.

I would mail an anonymous letter maybe. I better be dead sure though and not speculating.

MYOB. These are not relatives and best friends that they need to "tell". This is a neighborhood of newly constructed homes.

Get a life! You are pathetic.

HAHA! Wow, such rage... are you the cheating neighbor? There seem to be a lot of MYOB crazies on this thread who I imagine are likely cheaters themselves. I think OP should have a discreet conversation with the pregnant woman and leave it at that. For all you MYOB-freaks, if you don't want your business being minded by others, quit boning in the backyard.