ugh, I look like a mom

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I don't care for the pockets on Gap always skinny jeans. Anyways, skinny jeans and leggings can pretty much be worn interchangeably so if you think you may look cute in a flowy top, definitely go to h&m and go for it. Throw on some chunky jewelry and/or scarf, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Gap always skinny doesn't look momish or frumpy: they fit just fine. But then, I'm a size 4 and share clothes with my daughter. It isn't the jeans, it's the body in the jeans. You can either get in shape or spend lots of money to look like you maybe work out.

I'm happy you enjoy Gap jeans. I am a size zero, and the Always Skinny jeans fit me horribly. Many people have commiserated about how the quality has declined. Feel free to disagree, but you're wrong that they automatically look good on skinny people.

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OP (again!). Went to H&M after the kids went to bed and didn't find a single big buttin down or sweater. Did find a really cute skirt for $7 and a gorgeous $59 Cole Haan Eliza satchel at the Marshall's next door. Think I'll stop spending money now.

[Anonymous]

Ughh I look TERRIBLE in gap jeans and pants. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

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Anonymous wrote:Gap always skinny doesn't look momish or frumpy: they fit just fine. But then, I'm a size 4 and share clothes with my daughter. It isn't the jeans, it's the body in the jeans. You can either get in shape or spend lots of money to look like you maybe work out.

Gag.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 33 and I think a stylish dresser. For those who need it, invest in a high waisted jeans. Nordstrom carries Joes, Paige and J Brand high waisted ones. They are worth the extra cost. For the size 4s out there, wear leggings with longer shirts. I would go to h&m for the leggings and a couple flowy, boyfriend shirts. Throw a vest or drapey cardigan on it if you need more warmth. I got turned onto cashmere sweaters lately and will never go back. The downside is that I can only afford one a season, but there are so many out there that are not "momish". Good luck and post some photos of your finds if you need opinions...

I am a size 2-4, and this is never a good look for me because I have breasts (not huge - 32D) and usually look fat/bloated/pregnant or just like I never got out of my pajamas in the flowy shirt/leggings combination.

Me too. I am 5'4" and this is a HORRIBLE look for me. I need a defined waist. I also have very muscular thighs from playing competitive soccer that look like sausages in skinny jeans or leggings. I avoid those at all costs! Size 2-4 doesn't automatically mean every style looks good on you---height, body proportion, etc. factor so much into it. I am not a slave to trends--esp if they are against my body type.

[Anonymous]

I need new makeup and have been thinking of going to a department store makeup counter. Tell me more about Blue Mercury - there is one near my office at Dupont circle.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gap always skinny doesn't look momish or frumpy: they fit just fine. But then, I'm a size 4 and share clothes with my daughter. It isn't the jeans, it's the body in the jeans. You can either get in shape or spend lots of money to look like you maybe work out.

Gag.

Why? Because I had my kids young enough to regain my health and strength? Because I work out so I look good in damn near anything? Yes, I work full time and always have---I'm a single mom. Because my 23 year old and I share jeans, dresses, and tshirts? We are the same size--why not? I'm not old enough to be decrepit and I really don't care what people think I should wear. I have white hair and have since I was 30---why color it? No one who actually matters will judge me on that.

DC is the land of the frump. If you want to look like that, have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I intend to spend my bonus on some clothes, so I do have some money I can put toward this. I'm thinking a haircut will work wonders. I think I'd look better in a shorter cut, but I'm having trouble convincing my husband to let go of the long hair I'll work on that first. Make up is a great idea - I think I'll hit Sephora or something and get some tips.

As for clothes, I love the What I Wore blog - if I could look like her every day, I would feel great.

I like J Crew (even though a lot of it is flashy or cheapy these days - still some great looks). I spend a lot of time looking in Loft just because it's so cheap and sort of casual trendy, but their clothes are such terrible quality and I really need to get out of there. Any store suggestions would be great.

I'm also looking for a good mid-sized purse to carry around out to dinner or on the weekends. Something classic looking, but maybe with a bit of color.

OP, I'm sorry but short cut pretty much automatically means mom hair, so keep the long hair, just get a trendier cut. If you want GOOD makeup tips, skip Sephora and head to Blue Mercury or a department store makeup counter (just for god's sake don't go to Clinique).

Also, Lands End (someone previously suggested it) also automatically equals mom clothes, unless you're looking at their Canvas line which has some pretty cute stuff. Don't shop there. Maybe Madewell, Anthropologie, Banana Republic, and shop on Asos.com for trendier clothes.

OP, I especially agree with the bolded. Get a stylish haircut that works with your longer hair. I go to Progressions in Rockville, but that may be too much of a hike for you. Also, it's fairly expensive, but in my opinion worth it. A haircut and color person - if you need color - will work magic.

For the make-up consider going to a Bobbi Brown counter at Nordstrom or another department store.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I intend to spend my bonus on some clothes, so I do have some money I can put toward this. I'm thinking a haircut will work wonders. I think I'd look better in a shorter cut, but I'm having trouble convincing my husband to let go of the long hair I'll work on that first. Make up is a great idea - I think I'll hit Sephora or something and get some tips.

As for clothes, I love the What I Wore blog - if I could look like her every day, I would feel great.

I like J Crew (even though a lot of it is flashy or cheapy these days - still some great looks). I spend a lot of time looking in Loft just because it's so cheap and sort of casual trendy, but their clothes are such terrible quality and I really need to get out of there. Any store suggestions would be great.

I'm also looking for a good mid-sized purse to carry around out to dinner or on the weekends. Something classic looking, but maybe with a bit of color.

OP, I'm sorry but short cut pretty much automatically means mom hair, so keep the long hair, just get a trendier cut. If you want GOOD makeup tips, skip Sephora and head to Blue Mercury or a department store makeup counter (just for god's sake don't go to Clinique).

Also, Lands End (someone previously suggested it) also automatically equals mom clothes, unless you're looking at their Canvas line which has some pretty cute stuff. Don't shop there. Maybe Madewell, Anthropologie, Banana Republic, and shop on Asos.com for trendier clothes.

OP, I especially agree with the bolded. Get a stylish haircut that works with your longer hair. I go to Progressions in Rockville, but that may be too much of a hike for you. Also, it's fairly expensive, but in my opinion worth it. A haircut and color person - if you need color - will work magic.

For the make-up consider going to a Bobbi Brown counter at Nordstrom or another department store.

I completely disagree that short hair automatically means mom hair. There are so many trendy hair cuts and if all she is going to do with her long hair it put it in a pony tail that says mom more than a cute short style. Have you seen Halle Berry's haircut? What about that says mom?

[Anonymous]

I agree. I am growing my hair out now...just for fun, but I had a cut similar to victoria Beckhams and it looked great!

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Read some fashion blogs that are aimed towards adult women in general instead of at moms. See what the trends for the season are and pick one or two that you like and try to incorporate them. I like to pick ones that I know will be around for a few seasons. Find some time to put on makeup quickly.

Here are fashion sites that I read:
http://www.refinery29.com/
http://www.couturesnob.com/
http://stylebakery.com/
http://alaceyperspective.com/ (DC blog)
http://somuchtosmileabout.com/ (also DC blog)
I also like the wardrobe and accessories sub forums at The Purse Forum (forum.purseblog.com)

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Anonymous wrote:Get in shape, that will fix the jeans problem. Gap fits me just fine: if you don't have a ginormous ass, they will look ok.

If you think Gap jeans look good, you are NOT the person OP should be taking fashion advice from...crawl back under your bitch rock please.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gap always skinny doesn't look momish or frumpy: they fit just fine. But then, I'm a size 4 and share clothes with my daughter. It isn't the jeans, it's the body in the jeans. You can either get in shape or spend lots of money to look like you maybe work out.

Gag.

Why? Because I had my kids young enough to regain my health and strength? Because I work out so I look good in damn near anything? Yes, I work full time and always have---I'm a single mom. Because my 23 year old and I share jeans, dresses, and tshirts? We are the same size--why not? I'm not old enough to be decrepit and I really don't care what people think I should wear. I have white hair and have since I was 30---why color it? No one who actually matters will judge me on that.

DC is the land of the frump. If you want to look like that, have fun.

No because a 40 something should not be dressing the same as a 23 year old. You probably look a lot more ridiculous than you think, granny.