Gross. My husband doesn't wash his hands... EVER

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Yep. In fact, there's growing evidence that being super-hygenic correlates with emerging allergies in children. I wonder, given the amount of hyper-obsessiveness with hygiene on this thread, if there's a reason we're seeing growing numbers of allergies in US children when compared with the rest of the world.

I've read this too. There is way to much germaphobia in this country.

Trying to kill off every. single. germ. kills off the good ones as well as the bad ones.

I try not to wash my hands much and never use Purell (that stuff is such crap). My dad actually was like OP's DH and never washed his hands. He rarely got sick/colds/etc.

I think you PPs need to calm down. Can't believe the outrage.

Oh so let's all stop washing our hands... It will get so much better, right?

REmind me to not wash my hands after covering my cough and going for shaking your hands when we meet.

Umm, really it's fine.

What are you PPs so grossed out by? Do you realize that there are germs everywhere??

You have been brainwashed by the 'anti-bacterial' industry to believe that you need to destroy every single germ in your home or else you will die!!!

It's crazy. OP, you and your kids will be fine if your DH is not washing his hands.

[Anonymous]

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He responded that I was overly cautious, and he NEVER deliberately washes his hands unless they are visibly dirty. He said on an average weekday his hands get wet (1) when he gets ready in the morning, (2) when he rinses off his plate after dinner, and (3) as he gets ready for bed. But what really got me is that he said that he NEVER washes his hands after he goes to the restroom. If he's at work and someone else is in the bathroom, he'll actually go through the trouble of turning on the sink and PRETENDING to wash his hands, but he doesn't actually get them wet. (Unless someone is at the counter too, then he'll actually wash his hands.)

I tried to explain that handwashing is a very important component of personal hygeine, to which he said that he just doesn't like washing his hands and said that everyone is too OCD about it. He thinks I'm over-reacting and doesn't want to talk about it anymore. Anyways, I feel like I must be missing something. Anyone else hate washing their hands and go through great lengths to avoid it? I'm just really, really grossed out and don't understand his perspective at all. Or maybe I AM over-reacting; if so please give me a reality check.

I agree that you're overreacting. He's actually doing your child a favor!

There was a study out about how kids who grow up in a household with pets/dogs have lower incidences of asthma/allergies. I agree with the PP who said our 'hyper-hygienic' environment is probably doing more harm than good.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but that's gross. While I have greatly toned down my germaphobe tendencies, I do make sure I wash my hands when I come home from work (I work in a hospital) and that DH does, too. Hands are always washed after using the bathroom. It's basic hygiene.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yep. In fact, there's growing evidence that being super-hygenic correlates with emerging allergies in children. I wonder, given the amount of hyper-obsessiveness with hygiene on this thread, if there's a reason we're seeing growing numbers of allergies in US children when compared with the rest of the world.

I've read this too. There is way to much germaphobia in this country.

Trying to kill off every. single. germ. kills off the good ones as well as the bad ones.

I try not to wash my hands much and never use Purell (that stuff is such crap). My dad actually was like OP's DH and never washed his hands. He rarely got sick/colds/etc.

I think you PPs need to calm down. Can't believe the outrage.

Oh so let's all stop washing our hands... It will get so much better, right?

REmind me to not wash my hands after covering my cough and going for shaking your hands when we meet.

Umm, really it's fine.

What are you PPs so grossed out by? Do you realize that there are germs everywhere??

You have been brainwashed by the 'anti-bacterial' industry to believe that you need to destroy every single germ in your home or else you will die!!!

It's crazy. OP, you and your kids will be fine if your DH is not washing his hands.

Really? So you wipe your ass and cook without washing your hands????????????????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Yep. In fact, there's growing evidence that being super-hygenic correlates with emerging allergies in children. I wonder, given the amount of hyper-obsessiveness with hygiene on this thread, if there's a reason we're seeing growing numbers of allergies in US children when compared with the rest of the world.

I've read this too. There is way to much germaphobia in this country.

Trying to kill off every. single. germ. kills off the good ones as well as the bad ones.

I try not to wash my hands much and never use Purell (that stuff is such crap). My dad actually was like OP's DH and never washed his hands. He rarely got sick/colds/etc.

I think you PPs need to calm down. Can't believe the outrage.

Oh so let's all stop washing our hands... It will get so much better, right?

REmind me to not wash my hands after covering my cough and going for shaking your hands when we meet.

Umm, really it's fine.

What are you PPs so grossed out by? Do you realize that there are germs everywhere??

You have been brainwashed by the 'anti-bacterial' industry to believe that you need to destroy every single germ in your home or else you will die!!!

It's crazy. OP, you and your kids will be fine if your DH is not washing his hands.

[Anonymous]

OP, your thread title was misleading (perhaps to get views?). Your husband does wash his hands. Several times a day in fact, so your "EVER" was a bit over-dramatic, no?

[Anonymous]

My husband is the same and brushes his teeth once daily. Refuses to brush any other time because he likes the taste of food in his mouth. Won't wash his hands and fake washes in bathroom. I squirt soap in his hands, so he'll wash. He is in and out of healthcare facilities all day and constantly sick in winter months. It's a battle and silly me for thinking an educated healthcare professional would know the importance of hand washing. He is also a very neat guy with expensive tastes in all things and meticulous with his clothes. It's a constant gross battle.

[Anonymous]

I think we wash our hands too much. But never is not enough.

[Anonymous]

I actually think a lot of men are like OP's DH. They just don't admit it.

Thought this might be interesting for posters to read:

http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2012/04/a_j_jacobs_drop_dead_healthy_chapter_germs_germaphobes_and_the_hygiene_hypothesis_.html

[Anonymous]

That would make me lose sexual attraction for him. Sorry OP, I don't have any advice.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman with the exact same hand-washing habits as OP's husband, and I haven't been sick for a decade.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Divorce. Every day I come home and wash your husbands penis off my hands after my metro ride home. I work in public health so I see direct results of all the dirty poohs who won't wash their hands.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. I also think there's a difference between

1 using antibacterials and being OCD about germs, therefore killing all the good germs that keep you from getting sick and growing superbugs

And

2 at a minimum, washing your hands after you use the bathroom, and when you get home after being out in public.

Trust me, you and your family will be exposed to enough germs without engaging in these disgusting behaviours of no washing.

I don't know how sex would be possible as I wouldn't be able to get that out of my mind... And if you are wrong, why does he know to fake hand wash? I'd be disturbed that he's ok with his life partner knowing he's nasty, but still going through the motions for strangers. He needs to go through the actual motions for you.

[Anonymous]

Your husband's a disgusting pig and so are you. Good hygiene is high up on my list of qualities in a man, it's obviously not important to you if you didn't realize what an animal he is until now

[Anonymous]

Does he wash his hands before sex?