Your son was breaking all the cookies on the counter

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, get back to us when your child is older than 13 months.

All children act up, yours will too. This I can assure you.

All children may act up, but not all parents allow their children to break the cookies in a store, one by one. Some people find it too strenuous and time-consuming to actually parent.

Exactly! I have a child who I think sometimes breathes sulfur. I have to be on his ass every second of the day. He would easily break those cookies when given a chance. I have no qualms to put him in a time out in the corner of the store kicking and screaming. When you have a kid like this you learn that you don't care who sees the tantrum, bad behavior needs to be nipped in the bud immediately.

The mom in starbucks is pathetic. However I would have said nothing, as there is no help for the lowest common denominator.

This comment says a lot more about you than it does about the mom in question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No post and run. It's Saturday and we're having a great time, thanks.

To clarify, DH was embarrassed by my attitude. He's the kind that avoids conflict. I'm the kind who looks for it.

Well there you have it.

[Anonymous]

I probably would've said something too---like hey kid, quit doing that. I never bother with oblivious parents, but most children respond to a firm tone and command---especially if they haven't ever had an adult in charge in their lives before.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I probably would've said something too---like hey kid, quit doing that. I never bother with oblivious parents, but most children respond to a firm tone and command---especially if they haven't ever had an adult in charge in their lives before.....

Rock on, poster! Touche!

I see that with my friends children that I have to set straight in front of their parents because they are all whiney and weak (the parents). I have no respect for that....and that, my friends, is the foundation for a LOT of bad parenting - when parents don't take firm charge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No post and run. It's Saturday and we're having a great time, thanks.

To clarify, DH was embarrassed by my attitude. He's the kind that avoids conflict. I'm the kind who looks for it.

I think you're married to my brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I probably would've said something too---like hey kid, quit doing that. I never bother with oblivious parents, but most children respond to a firm tone and command---especially if they haven't ever had an adult in charge in their lives before.....

I don't care what my child was doing (FWIW It doesn't matter too much as my child does have more discipline than this) but if a stranger scolded my child I would be furious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents have an obligation to the rest of the public to teach their children to behave, special needs or not. Breaking up the cookies rendered them unsalable and money was lost by the store. Perhaps they should put up a sign that says "if you or your child breaks cookies, you will have to buy them." Similar to the one in gift shops: "Love to look at, delightful to hold, drop and break it and then its sold."

I totally agree with this with an exception - grocery store check out lines. The stores put all that candy at kid level and while I try to make sure my kids keep their hands down, I'm not buying any candy they handle. The stores should know better than to put that there. Yeah, there may be one candy free check out line but I'm going to whatever line is shortest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the child was special needs and being "better than normal".

Then he should not be taken out in public, ever. Being special needs is not a license to destroy other people's property.

right
so right

We should keep them locked up in institutions b/c they're not as good as the "normal" ones are.

You're an idiot.

btw - If the kid in OP's post had special needs, then the only one to blame for his behavior was the parent.

Or, better yet, we should just vacuum them out into the trash before they even get born! Oh.....wait........ that's what most people already do!!!

[Anonymous]

If the employees weren't concerned, why were you OP?

Maybe the employees knew the cookies were stale would be thrown out soon? Maybe they didn't care?

You do realize that Starbucks has plenty of other cookies in stock to replace the smashed ones, right? Its not as if they are some rare product never to be replaced or that they stock a 100 of them out at one time...

[Anonymous]

I don't care what my child was doing (FWIW It doesn't matter too much as my child does have more discipline than this) but if a stranger scolded my child I would be furious.

If your kid is misbehaving so badly that someone else notices, fix them and then they won't get scolded. If your kid is being obnoxious while you remain happily oblivious I will say something. And for that matter, if I'd behaved so badly as a child that a stranger had to address my behaviour I wouldn't have sat comfortably for a few days. Neither would my children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I probably would've said something too---like hey kid, quit doing that. I never bother with oblivious parents, but most children respond to a firm tone and command---especially if they haven't ever had an adult in charge in their lives before.....

I don't care what my child was doing (FWIW It doesn't matter too much as my child does have more discipline than this) but if a stranger scolded my child I would be furious.

See, I feel just the opposite. If my kid is misbehaving and for whatever reason I am not noticing or otherwise unable (admit it, we ALL have these moments!) to discipline my kid, I would MUCH rather a stranger just say something to my child - like, "don't break the cookies!" I am really in the "takes a village" camp, and as long as they aren't assholes, I'm perfectly happy for another adult to say something. On the other hand, the bitchy passive aggressive crap from the OP would annoy the shit out of me, and make me want to tell her to shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the employees weren't concerned, why were you OP?

Maybe the employees knew the cookies were stale would be thrown out soon? Maybe they didn't care?

You do realize that Starbucks has plenty of other cookies in stock to replace the smashed ones, right? Its not as if they are some rare product never to be replaced or that they stock a 100 of them out at one time...

Seriously, now... you know it's not about the cookies, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the employees weren't concerned, why were you OP?

Maybe the employees knew the cookies were stale would be thrown out soon? Maybe they didn't care?

You do realize that Starbucks has plenty of other cookies in stock to replace the smashed ones, right? Its not as if they are some rare product never to be replaced or that they stock a 100 of them out at one time...

I know, seriously. It's not like starbucks is some struggling local startup kind of place. I actually used to work at starbucks, and the volume of food items that we threw out every evening was astounding. There is lots and lots and lots of cushion there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I probably would've said something too---like hey kid, quit doing that. I never bother with oblivious parents, but most children respond to a firm tone and command---especially if they haven't ever had an adult in charge in their lives before.....

I don't care what my child was doing (FWIW It doesn't matter too much as my child does have more discipline than this) but if a stranger scolded my child I would be furious.

She didn't say a word to the brat only to the brat's mother. Your kid gets in my space and I will politely tell him/her to go away because you, as a parent, don't appear to give a damn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the employees weren't concerned, why were you OP?

Maybe the employees knew the cookies were stale would be thrown out soon? Maybe they didn't care?

You do realize that Starbucks has plenty of other cookies in stock to replace the smashed ones, right? Its not as if they are some rare product never to be replaced or that they stock a 100 of them out at one time...

I know, seriously. It's not like starbucks is some struggling local startup kind of place. I actually used to work at starbucks, and the volume of food items that we threw out every evening was astounding. There is lots and lots and lots of cushion there.

Maybe so but waste not, want not. America is in financial trouble ppl! Wake up and smell the down-sizing coffee.