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How long did it take you to conceive?
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Anonymous
| OP, I don't know how old you are, but if you are 30 or up, I would not recommend trying randomly to conceive (ie, not using any protection and just having sex whenever you feel like it). Get an ovulation predictor kit or "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" to maximize your chances of getting pregnant in the first few months. I was 29 when I got PG, and we charted/took temperatures and used the book mentioned above. We miscalculated when I would ovulate the first time around, but I got PG the second time. |
Anonymous
| I also recommend "Taking Charge of Your Fertility"-- I wish I had read that book in my early 20s. It teaches you a lot about your body that they don't teach you in high school sex ed. I especially found it useful in deciphering my cycles (which were a bit irregular after going off the pill). |
Anonymous
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#1 2 cylces (31 years old)
#2 2 cycles and ended in m/c at 5 weeks (33 years old) #3 3 cycles, 12 weeks now USED Robotussin that last cycle. Maybe that helped thinout the mucus. Always charted, as well, and have the TCOYF book. |
Anonymous
| Another vote for TCOYF--I found it really helpful. In the end, it took us three months (I was 32, DH 40). The first month, we weren't really trying, per se, just not using any protection. When I didn't get pregnant, I was shocked! All these years of trying so hard NOT to get pregnant had me somehow convinced that the first time I didn't use any BC I would, of course, get pregnant! I have two close friends who struggled with infertility, so I definitely feel very, very lucky and hope that #2 will be as easy. |
Anonymous
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I was 24 when we conceived our first child, it took 9 months!
Second one was a spur of the moment baby  so within one cycle... actually within one time of being careless. I was 26 then.
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Anonymous
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Sorry to be redundant but I also read TCOYF. I agree, I learned a lot about my body that I wish I had known while trying so hard not to get pregnant! At 34, I went off the pill after 19 years and got pregnant after one cycle. I am 16 weeks today. I didn't start charting, etc. but just reading it gave me an idea of what to expectt/look for/etc. TMI, but noticed a change in my cervical fluid and went for it.
I feel incredibly lucky to have had such an quick go of it and try to be sensitive to friends I know are trying and struggling. Like a PP said, we are all so different and you won't know until you start trying. Two friends had similar experiences to mine, that is got PG right away. I know many who are struggling. It's not a competition and we all need to support one another!! Don't be hard on yourselves...or each other. Just my two cents. |
Anonymous
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Please remember which board we are on "Expectant Moms". I predict that there are probably several people who frequent the "Trying to Conceive" board who probably avoid this board.
I think just being on this board is going to skew the responses. I agree we all need to support one another but just something to take into consideration. |
Anonymous
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dc#1 - first try at 32yo
dc#2 - 9th try at 34yo |
Anonymous
Okay, but the people on the TTC board won't be able to answer her question. Her question was for people who have already conceived. |
Anonymous
| Since I'm in my late 30s we decided to stop using bc when we got engaged thinking it would take a while. Our soon-to-be bundle of joy came about the night we got engaged. Whoops! |
Anonymous
| Boy, there are a lot of first try people on this thread (guess one likes to share good news/experiences).... I agree with the poster that suggested the TTC thread as well.... sure, be positive and optimistic, but you don't want false hopes/statistics and then feel like something is wrong if it takes a little while. Up to year is perfectly normal (unless you are on the older end of the spectrum)... so that statistic should be accurate regardless if it is on babycenter or dcurbanmoms... |
Anonymous
First time both times -- my Husband was hoping for a bit more practice. 
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Anonymous
| I was off the pill for one month before we started trying. I got pregnant the first month. It took my mom 2 years to get pregnant with me so I was expecting it to take longer. I guess you just never know! |
Anonymous
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First time, I was 37 and it took 2 months (Got pregnant and m/c at 10 weeks)
Second time, I was 38 and it took 2 months (I waited 2 months after m/c to try, and then it took 2 months) Third time, I was 39 and it took 3 months. I am now 40, we have a 19 month old and are expecting baby #2 any day now. |
Anonymous
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I too agree that the people on this board are not representative of my own and friends experiences. I think its good to know that all it takes is once...BUT it can take a lot longer than that too.
I am 38 weeks (31 years old). I was off BC for at least a year, but not actively trying in a 'serious' manner. Got pregnant, but miscarried at 5 weeks last June. Didn't try for a couple of months and then got pregnant on my 2nd try afterwards. Learned afterwards that most of my friends had had a miscarriage or took longer than expected. |