How long did it take you to conceive?

[Anonymous]

1st try at 35. no charting or predictor kits. hoping #2 will be as easy!

[Anonymous]

After being on the pill for 20+ years straight, I conceived on the 2nd cycle after I stopped the pill at age 40.

[Anonymous]

I recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." It was fascinating but also allowed me to chart, just using my morning temperature, as my body got used to going off the pill. Just looking at the length of your cycle doesn't always work because I have a 28 day cycle but ovulate on day 18!

After figuring that out, at 35 I got pregnant the first time we had sex at the right time of the month. That pregnancy lasted a week and I got pregnant again the very next month, due any day now!

[Anonymous]

First time for three pregnancies. Used ovulation sticks the first time. I charted for several months before trying the second. The second ended in miscarriage, third seems to be going well. I'm nearly out of the first trimester. I am a lesbian, so trying for me is a planned process.

[Anonymous]

First month for all three of my pregnancies. We weren't charting except for the first time. I found the charting/temp taking very stressful. I lost the first pregnancy. With our other two attempts we decided to take a more relaxed approach. We just had sex almost every day for the whole month. Two friends of mine got pregnant right away after trying this method. That way you can't miss ovulation unless you aren't ovulating. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

First try here as well. Got pregnant at the age of 29. Did not chart or do anything special.

[Anonymous]

#1 --> 2 months
#2 --> 4 months..then miscarried...which leads to
#3 --> 2 months

My husband has performance issues. When I got pregnant with #1 and #3 we got BDing in on the 2 most fertile days. All other months of trying we were only able to get BDing in on one of my most fertile days. I temped and used OPK's to help time things correctly. My DH can't get his guys to the finish line when he knows we are tyring to make a baby.

[Anonymous]

Let's not forget that this is not only about OUR bodies - even if you're body is working right your DH's may not be. For me, iit takes us longer because my DH's sperm isn't the best. I know we just need be prepared for at least 6 months of trying, even when we're doing everything possible to time sex optimally. But is hard not to get concerned and frustrated even though I know that there is nothing more we can do (other than medical intervention, which we would rather avoid).

[Anonymous]

I agree w/ PP who stated the posts here are not necessarily reflective of what most couples experience. It took me 16 months to conceive and was only possible with IUI. I was 33. Many of my friends in their early 30s have had to resort to fertility specialists after trying on their own for over a year. 2 have received very unwelcome news about their prospects. Of course, many others get pregnant easily. The fact of the matter is that there is just no way to know until you start trying. My doctor was never able to explain what took us so long. I'm hoping it will be easier to conceive #2. Best of luck to you. Hopefully you will be one of the lucky ones who conceives easily.

[Anonymous]

I posted previously (32 yo, 38 weeks pregnant, PG on the 1st try). Wanted to clarify I did not use charts or anything - with my family history, I just counted 14 days. I should point out though that I had not been on the pill for a couple of years, and I do think it helped a lot not having to get the extra hormones out of my system. One of my girlfriends had to wait a year for her periods to start again after stopping the pill.

[Anonymous]

I agree w/ PP who stated the posts here are not necessarily reflective of what most couples experience.

Without question, you never know until you start trying. I'm not sure, though, that this sample is *quite* as unusual as the two PPs would suggest. While it's an admittedly very small and geographically similar group, I doubt that the posters on DCUM are THAT much luckier than a lot of people. I know at least thirteen people (I just tried to count!) who got pregnant virtually immediately (within the first or second month). By contrast, I think I know four people who had fertility issues that made it a much longer process (more than a year, sometimes much more) to have the first. And, of course, there are a lot of people that I don't know their situation at all. But, for OP -- a lot of my friends and I were prepared for it to be a real struggle and were pleasantly shocked when it really wasn't.

[Anonymous]

#1 - Almost of year. A few months of trying around ovulation based on period length, then temping and charting. Finally got pg month before infertility testing. I was 31.

I have to say, most of my friends conceived on their first or second tries. I was the one who had to deal with the frustration of not being able to conceive right away, and it was very hard at times to be so happy for everyone (esp. when we started trying way before these friends). One piece of "advice" - if you are a fertile myrtle, try not to offer "advice" to those you know having trouble. It's not really helpful to us to hear "go away on vacation" or "get drunk - it worked for us." Thanks, but we've already tried those avenues (and many more)!

[Anonymous]

With #1, 1 cycle (I was 37)
With #2, 1 cycle (I was 38) but miscarred at ~2 months
With #3, 2 cycles (I was 40)

[Anonymous]

Well, we didn't really try...but got pregnant the first time in 7 years DH (30) and I (33) did not use protection. It was a welcome surprise!

[Anonymous]

Took us 3 years with #1. I was 33 at the time and didn't get pregnant until our 4th IVF cycle. As someone else said, it doesn't matter how quickly everyone else got pregnant, what matters is your own body and DH's sperm. Give yourself six months and if it doesn't work, then talk to your doctor.