What is your deepest family secret?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is almost humorous how in denial our parents generation is about so many things. And so it goes.

OP, why do you want to know? You must have something pretty unsettling to tell us, besides what you posted, if you are asking. It is anonymous, so you can tell us. Have you resolved whatever it is?

My confession was more timid I guess, because I started this. I have always dated Jewish men and marrried a Jewish guy. I guess it is just amazing to me looking back what a tense issue merely appearing Jewish was. It is very sad, I agree. Thank goodness times have changed. But this stuff was really, really intense 2 or three generations ago.

[Anonymous]

My sister molested me and my brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister molested me and my brother.

This is so horrible. I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

My mom supported the family (fortunately had a PhD and had a good job). My dad didn't do a damn thing all day long, but on our school forms, my parents would write "independent scholar". My mom would act like he was this wonderful person and my dad practically had this cult following among people to whom she had painted a rosy picture. He also sexually abused me which my mom will to this day (well after his death) refuses to admit. I am getting great pleasure out of writing all this here - thanks OP.

[Anonymous]

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My sister and her long term boyfriend pretended that my niece was his, but really my sister had cheated on him and he pretended to be the father to save face because they were working on the relationship. 18 years later and it leaked out to my niece and some others in the family.

How did your niece react? Does she know her bio father? did she feel betrayed by the family?

The only ones that knew the secret before her were her mom and 'dad'. She and her mom are super close still. She no longer has much to do with who she thought was her father. (He and my sister had split up when she was a preschooler but he was very involved in her life until she was in high school and he remarried.) None of us talk about it at all. The identity of her real father is still a secret, although my parents are pretty sure they've figured it out. We're from a small town and there's a guy that looks just like her who always asks them about her. As far as I know, she has never asked about him.

[Anonymous]

It's remarkable how so many of us have so many secrets. Even when someone tries to mock the other's secret--they reveal their own pain. The pain of not belonging, somehow.

Ok. we can all go back to being assholes again...

[Anonymous]

My father was an abusive alcoholic. My mother would never discuss it, even after he died. He died 20 years ago, and my brother still won't have a conversation about it. Not sure how secret it really was though, because my mother was always walking around with a black eye. For all I know everyone was talking about it but us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister molested me and my brother.

Where is your sister now? Are you in touch?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My whole family has rabbits

You post this so much, it has become boring. Get a new tag line and use it less.

Don't be so hard on the rabbit poster. It always reminds me that I should be doing something more, ahem, useful with my time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That my grandfather was 1/4 black and passed for white. I had to pry it out of my mother...

wow. this is amazing...do you appear AA? Ahhh, sorry, that didn't come out the way I meant it. I just find this fascinating as to how people come to look the way they do...

The PP is 1/16 black. It's very doubtful that s/he looks black.

I don't look black, and neither did my Grandfather. I only questioned as to whether he might have an Italian heritage when I learned the "secret". It's not like I'm going to start claiming to be black or anything but I don't see it as something to keep hidden either, it's just interesting.

It was probably kept hidden to hide having black blood in the family but really the secret should be that the baby was probably the product of rape.

[Anonymous]

My grandmother was murdered at a crime scene. I was always told she had died in a fire. Dad was 5 at the time, with twin brothers aged 2. My Dad's father was framed for the murder, put in jail, then finally released...he didn't do it. There were anti-semitic overtones to it (my family is Jewish, and they were living in a very small town in Ohio at the time.)
I found out about it on the internet. Asked my dad, he confirmed. He's kept it a secret for 60 years.

[Anonymous]

There are many family secrets. I won't reveal all of them here since it's not really anonymous.

-Gay uncle died due to AIDS-related complications
-Grandfather was a child molester
-Another secret that I couldn't reveal if I wanted to because, well, it's a secret so I can't get anyone to tell me if it's true
-Many more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandmother was murdered at a crime scene. I was always told she had died in a fire. Dad was 5 at the time, with twin brothers aged 2. My Dad's father was framed for the murder, put in jail, then finally released...he didn't do it. There were anti-semitic overtones to it (my family is Jewish, and they were living in a very small town in Ohio at the time.)
I found out about it on the internet. Asked my dad, he confirmed. He's kept it a secret for 60 years.

Was the murder ever solved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My whole family has rabbits

Welcome back Rabbit poster!

[Anonymous]

An aunt-by-marriage's brother disappeared one night on his yacht. Missing, then presumed dead.
He had just brazenly showed up to a family wedding with his mistress, whom no one knew about until then. In front of his wife and grown sons.
The family whispers that his sons pitched him overboard.