What is your deepest family secret?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My stepfather's son shot and killed his mother (first wife.) He was a preppy, privileged kid, attended boarding school. Came home for break, and one night decided he didn't like all of the rules his parents gave him so he got a shotgun and tried to kill them both. Only got his mother.

what happened to him? The crazy son I mean

[Anonymous]

My cousin is in prison for sexually abusing several children while he himself was a young teenager. He will never get out thankfully. It was a huge scandal about 10 years ago snd received a ton of pres and I am terrified of people finding out we are related. We have different last names so it would take some digging to find the connection. I had to move from my hometown to escape the scrutiny. My parents house was bombed with a homemade cocktail. My grandmother died from the stress of the case. I believe my brother was abused by him too because he is now totally fucked up in the head, a dead beat who is in some sort of arrested development stage. It ruined my entire family and so many lives. If I ever saw him again, I would kill him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin is in prison for sexually abusing several children while he himself was a young teenager. He will never get out thankfully. It was a huge scandal about 10 years ago snd received a ton of pres and I am terrified of people finding out we are related. We have different last names so it would take some digging to find the connection. I had to move from my hometown to escape the scrutiny. My parents house was bombed with a homemade cocktail. My grandmother died from the stress of the case. I believe my brother was abused by him too because he is now totally fucked up in the head, a dead beat who is in some sort of arrested development stage. It ruined my entire family and so many lives. If I ever saw him again, I would kill him.

Was your cousin also sexually abused as a kid?

[Anonymous]

Why did I open this thread?

[Anonymous]

My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

Having an ill sibling, who has spent time in a mental hospital, isn't scandals. There's a stigma attached but it's not her fault she's bipolar and she probably started drinking as an attempt to stable herself. Conscience decision or not self medicating with alcohol happens.

[Anonymous]

My uncle strangled my aunt then spent the rest of his life institutionalized. They had 3 kids at the time who came to life with us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad, a revered pillar of the community, was an abusive alcholic who would go into a drunken rage every 5-7 days, wrecking the house, beating the shit out of everyone and making a spectacle in public. He killed himself as did two of my siblings. I have no shame with people who didn't know me growing up but I have immense shame with people who knew me back then, even though I know intellectually it's not my fault. Emotionally, I still live in fear and dread that the horrible secret will be out. As long as it's not talked about, I can pretend we're "normal".

I feel for you. Alcoholics and people who have anger problems have ruined so many families. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

None of your damn business. I don't know you people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father was a drug addict and died of AIDS complications. I am a lesbian, but I tell everyone that I plan to get pregnant because I wanted a child. Actually , I was just mad at my girlfriend and had sex with a guy. WOW I am glad I got that out!

How was it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

Having an ill sibling, who has spent time in a mental hospital, isn't scandals. There's a stigma attached but it's not her fault she's bipolar and she probably started drinking as an attempt to stable herself. Conscience decision or not self medicating with alcohol happens.

She refuses to take her bipolar meds. Denies she is bipolar. Goes on week long drinking binges. Stays with a spouse who hates her because of money. She has no conscience. She cares only about herself. Lies constantly. Had three abortions while married because she likes sex but not birth control. She drinks and drives all the time. I mean literally, has an open bottle and literally drives while getting drunk.

Has made death threats to people who cross her. Calls us and says she thinks she'll be dead in a few months. For sympathy, I guess.
Send emails to me with all the secrets I have ever told her, then blind copies numerous people.
Tries to get her husband on tape recording threatening her.
She argues with her spouse and at the same time calls other people so they can listen to the arguments, without her spouse knowing. So when he says things to her in the heat of an argument, others are listening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

Having an ill sibling, who has spent time in a mental hospital, isn't scandals. There's a stigma attached but it's not her fault she's bipolar and she probably started drinking as an attempt to stable herself. Conscience decision or not self medicating with alcohol happens.

She refuses to take her bipolar meds. Denies she is bipolar. Goes on week long drinking binges. Stays with a spouse who hates her because of money. She has no conscience. She cares only about herself. Lies constantly. Had three abortions while married because she likes sex but not birth control. She drinks and drives all the time. I mean literally, has an open bottle and literally drives while getting drunk.

Has made death threats to people who cross her. Calls us and says she thinks she'll be dead in a few months. For sympathy, I guess.
Send emails to me with all the secrets I have ever told her, then blind copies numerous people.
Tries to get her husband on tape recording threatening her.
She argues with her spouse and at the same time calls other people so they can listen to the arguments, without her spouse knowing. So when he says things to her in the heat of an argument, others are listening.

As hard as it is, this all the illness and her lack of control of it. So many people stop taking their meds because they either feel well and think they don't need them or they are left feeling like they are walking through a bowl of oatmeal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

Having an ill sibling, who has spent time in a mental hospital, isn't scandals. There's a stigma attached but it's not her fault she's bipolar and she probably started drinking as an attempt to stable herself. Conscience decision or not self medicating with alcohol happens.

She refuses to take her bipolar meds. Denies she is bipolar. Goes on week long drinking binges. Stays with a spouse who hates her because of money. She has no conscience. She cares only about herself. Lies constantly. Had three abortions while married because she likes sex but not birth control. She drinks and drives all the time. I mean literally, has an open bottle and literally drives while getting drunk.

Has made death threats to people who cross her. Calls us and says she thinks she'll be dead in a few months. For sympathy, I guess.
Send emails to me with all the secrets I have ever told her, then blind copies numerous people.
Tries to get her husband on tape recording threatening her.
She argues with her spouse and at the same time calls other people so they can listen to the arguments, without her spouse knowing. So when he says things to her in the heat of an argument, others are listening.

As hard as it is, this all the illness and her lack of control of it. So many people stop taking their meds because they either feel well and think they don't need them or they are left feeling like they are walking through a bowl of oatmeal.

So shall I keep putting up with her abuse?

[Anonymous]

No pp, the other poster is out of line lecturing you. I am so sorry for what you have endured and what you are dealing with. You have every right to your fellings and illness or not it does not diminish your pain. I wish you peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a bipolar alcoholic who was in rehab and psych wards more than once.

Having an ill sibling, who has spent time in a mental hospital, isn't scandals. There's a stigma attached but it's not her fault she's bipolar and she probably started drinking as an attempt to stable herself. Conscience decision or not self medicating with alcohol happens.

She refuses to take her bipolar meds. Denies she is bipolar. Goes on week long drinking binges. Stays with a spouse who hates her because of money. She has no conscience. She cares only about herself. Lies constantly. Had three abortions while married because she likes sex but not birth control. She drinks and drives all the time. I mean literally, has an open bottle and literally drives while getting drunk.

Has made death threats to people who cross her. Calls us and says she thinks she'll be dead in a few months. For sympathy, I guess.
Send emails to me with all the secrets I have ever told her, then blind copies numerous people.
Tries to get her husband on tape recording threatening her.
She argues with her spouse and at the same time calls other people so they can listen to the arguments, without her spouse knowing. So when he says things to her in the heat of an argument, others are listening.

As hard as it is, this all the illness and her lack of control of it. So many people stop taking their meds because they either feel well and think they don't need them or they are left feeling like they are walking through a bowl of oatmeal.

So shall I keep putting up with her abuse?

Not at all. It's hard to separate the person from the illness, trust me, I know but having a mentally ill family member isn't something you should be ashamed of. You don't have to like her, you don't have to deal with her, but you are adding to the stigma. The stigma then remains for all of those who are capable, and healthy enough, to function normally.