Cities you don’t want your kids to live in

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want them to live anywhere they can't get an abortion.

NP. I’ve never understood this thinking because at this point as teens, I hope they can come and talk to us about anything and would not want them to hide it from us and go through this alone. And I would pay for them to fly anywhere if they couldn’t get one in their current city. I don’t want my kids making college decisions based on this.

But I do want them to have decent access to overall health care. I grew up in a small town and it was lacking. So I think it is important to have medical care and easy access to an airport. I would not stop them from attending any school unless we couldn’t afford it.

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I don't think it's reasonable to strike anything off your kids' college list for any reason other than money. If you're paying it's reasonable to worry about cost (including cost to travel there), but otherwise they're adults and should get to decide their own lives.

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Anonymous wrote:LA, SF, and Miami were on my no-go list for kid's college process.

Miami too fun? LA and SF too dangerous/expensive?

IF LA/SF are too dangerous, there’s a lot of places to strike, including most of the American South.

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Anonymous wrote:Anywhere without a direct flight

Every airport is a direct flight from somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it reasonable to strike a college off your kid’s list based on it being in a city you don’t want them to live in? Like a place you don’t want to visit or return to or don’t like the weather?

Lubbock
College Station
Waco

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I don't really understand all of the posts about accessing good healthcare. Unless your kid has some sort of medically complex condition that requires close monitoring, that seems like a criteria that would strike many good colleges off the list. The majority of top tier SLACs for instance, are fairly remote so unlikely to be anywhere close to a major medical center.



I will say that my kid is in Poughkeepsie NY for school, and it's a bit of a pain in terms of accessibility. You either drive from here (6 hrs), take the train (through NY and then straight there), or fly to Newark and rent a car. But now that she has a car there, it's easier for her. And not that often anyway.

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The city we currently live in - they need to leave their bubble and can always come back.

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DC is off the list for us as a California family. Couldn’t believe how bad it was last time we visited.

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Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want them to live anywhere they can't get an abortion.

NP. I’ve never understood this thinking because at this point as teens, I hope they can come and talk to us about anything and would not want them to hide it from us and go through this alone. And I would pay for them to fly anywhere if they couldn’t get one in their current city. I don’t want my kids making college decisions based on this.

But I do want them to have decent access to overall health care. I grew up in a small town and it was lacking. So I think it is important to have medical care and easy access to an airport. I would not stop them from attending any school unless we couldn’t afford it.

The argument I am going to make is admittedly a bit exaggerated, so don't jump all over me and take it with a grain of salt: states that are limiting abortions are also interfering with the way OB/GYNs do their jobs. If they practice medicine the way they were taught in any decent medical school and residency, there is a chance some legislator with zero medical knowledge is going to try to arrest them for using their best medical judgement in the treatment of a patient. Who wants to practice medicine in a state of fear?

As a result, OB/GYNs are less willing to practice in these states. I'm not saying that a bunch of 45 year old OB/GYNs with homes and families are picking up their families and leaving. But there will be a gradual reduction in the number of them there. So it will be harder to find good doctors to provide basic services. This isn't just about abortion - it is about secondary and tertiary effects of the decision.

Is this a driving, #1 reason in the decision making process for a kid going to college next year? Probably not. But it should be a consideration that is factored in.

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I strongly encourage kids to leave their comfort zone when going to college (within reason - I'm not sending my Jewish kid to Liberty or a Catholic kid to Yeshiva). It is part of the experience. I spent most of my life in and around NYC and know too many people who have never left the northeast corridor so have a very provincial view of the world.

And there are way too many people in the rest of America who are afraid of us northerners and the "big bad cities" and would be well served to spend some time in one of these places rather than going from their youth in small town Texas to Texas A&M for college.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want them to live anywhere they can't get an abortion.

You can’t/wouldn’t pay for them to go somewhere they could? That, plus the fact you think DD might need one, seem like the issues that should drive college choice or choices concerning whether college is the best first for the kid at this stage of their life.

God forbid my child felt like they couldn't tell me, and couldn't travel somewhere they could access it if they wanted. I want healthcare easily accessible to them.

+1

And to be in an area with people who value women's lives.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

My kids don't want to live in areas that treat women and LGBTQ people like garbage.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No red states, including any cities within

Right on cue, the nutter arrives.

Maybe her daughter needs regular abortions lol

So does yours you just don’t know it.

Cause these days, girls just use the day after pill or an abortion pill. Same thing. They just don’t tell you, You’re so out of touch you don’t understand it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want them to live anywhere they can't get an abortion.

You can’t/wouldn’t pay for them to go somewhere they could? That, plus the fact you think DD might need one, seem like the issues that should drive college choice or choices concerning whether college is the best first for the kid at this stage of their life.

Those girls are not flying around getting abortions or even going in for what us 80s girls considered an abortion.

They are taking the abortion pill and they are doing it at home. If something goes wrong, guess what they get rushed to the hospital and guess what if they are in a state where abortion is illegal they get arrested…. Or they send them home and say we can’t treat you and since girls are not completely educated about their bodies they bleed out.