Dating as short/unattractive man with decent income

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe use that wealth to make yourself more attractive.

personal trainer, maybe some cosmetic surgery...

[Anonymous]

Do you want smart and ambitious kids? If yes, which future mom do you think you should choose for them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you're dating for looks or money? To find a long term partner you need compatibility and friendship. You already make 300k, so it doesn't much matter what she makes.

300k doesn’t go as far as it used to in this area. Can’t buy a desirable house on that income. I could see someone earning this salary wishing they could combine with another 300k earner which would open up your options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want smart and ambitious kids? If yes, which future mom do you think you should choose for them?

true.. If you are thinking about marriage and kids, you want a smart wife if you want smart kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, nothing is worse for kids than a messy divorce. Date the woman you’re best friends with. Why would you want to be with if you became blind and she became poor? Pick that woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.

You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.

Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.

I think the issue is that he wants the women who are hot and also make 300k. The women who are "aroused" by a guy making that money are not the same as his peers. We are talking 300k here, not 3 million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want smart and ambitious kids? If yes, which future mom do you think you should choose for them?

An educated woman who would be willing to go part time so she can actually be there for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Do make sure they don't have any debt, addiction or a troubled family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.

You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.

Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.

If that were true it would be equally true in his workplace where the women actually know how successful he is. They’re not interested, and OP is confusing professional friendliness for romantic interest which is intensely cringe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want smart and ambitious kids? If yes, which future mom do you think you should choose for them?

An educated woman who would be willing to go part time so she can actually be there for the kids.

Lol. Meaning you want a woman who not only earns money but you can use her sacrificing her career as ammo for you to demand she does every single bit of housekeeping and caregiving for you because you are an entitled ass who isn’t interested in women as human beings. And you’re ugly. How novel.

[Anonymous]

your standards sound too high and not high enough at the same time. stop describing yourself as relatively unattractive. get off online dating. focus more on compatibility and less on looks. also get some confidence because i know lots of attractive professional women in dc who dont get asked out as much as you might think. you also have lots of time to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the pretty barista and woman working retail aren’t any more into you than the attractive women in your office are. Their job requires them to engage in a friendly way with you. PLEASE don’t confuse that for romantic interest.

You are asking whether you should date a woman you disdain for her career or for her looks. Neither. Date a woman you admire and respect.

Some of those baristas and retail women actually might be into him. Some women have a primal, physical, sexual reaction to successful men. They're not just gold diggers. They're actually aroused by a man's success. Some are also physically turned off by a man's financial struggles even if he looks good, smells good, etc. Not all women are the same.

If that were true it would be equally true in his workplace where the women actually know how successful he is. They’re not interested, and OP is confusing professional friendliness for romantic interest which is intensely cringe.

You’re making the mistake of assuming I’m meeting these women irl at their jobs. I’m meeting them on dating apps. It’s weird how you automatically think I’m trying to flirt with waitresses at their jobs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you're dating for looks or money? To find a long term partner you need compatibility and friendship. You already make 300k, so it doesn't much matter what she makes.

300k doesn’t go as far as it used to in this area. Can’t buy a desirable house on that income. I could see someone earning this salary wishing they could combine with another 300k earner which would open up your options

Well, OP can't do anything about his height, but he can figure out how to make more money. So that's at least some form of self-improvement he could focus on if he wants to be more successful in the dating market.

[Anonymous]

True. If he goes above half a million, gold diggers would take notice.

[Anonymous]

How endowed are you?

Also for your height you'll need to make at least 500k preferable 7 figures to be attractive to high quality women.

Do you have a full head of hair at least ?