You have no choice but to love her fatself since you can’t make her lose weight and you yourself are likely out of shape. You have to accept her the way she is. First sentence of your post says a lot about your gutter mindset |
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I do.
She's like I'm Adam and God created her for me. |
Agreed he was rude and an a-hole for saying it publicly. However, she shouldn’t need him to tell her to lose weight. She should know it and take appropriate steps |
Even when I’m fat and ugly, DH compliments me for my beauty. It’s so uplifting. I love it. |
Not sure about offended but she was very surprised. I didnt say in a disrespectful way; just in a straightforward manner. She is a good wife and understood my point and started working on it right away |
Because instead of supporting your wife you tear her down. If she loses the weight will you watch her like a hawk? I hate people like you. You will always be a loser. |
| Something I've always found extremely classy is when men (or women) give their spouse a genuine compliment within earshot but TO someone else. Like telling guests how good a dish they made is, or noting how nice the look, or saying how great they were with the kids earlier in the day. When people do this, I always think "wow, they must really love their spouse, that's great." Something about bragging on your spouse in that way just feels extra nice. |
I can assure you he doesn’t find u beautiful, he’s just being polite unless he himself is fat. You are being delusional if you believe him. You know what’s more uplifting? Not being fat |
I did support her and used to compliment her. Problem is she believed me and thought she looked good and I found her attractive. She wasn’t putting much effort in losing weight. Being honest with her has made our marriage much better |
It's a form of abuse. I wonder what he says to her behind closed doors. Just to chip away at someone's self esteem like that in front of others is so degrading. |
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Women can never win. Either we’re too fat or too skinny. Our boobs are too big or too small. I have as close to the perfect body as you can get (apart from a B cup chest) and I think the best compliment I got from DH was “your hair looks nice”. I just tried on a bikini because we’re going on vacation and his response was “that’s a little too risqué. It’s a family resort”. I barely have any boobs. How tf can it be too risqué?
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The reverse is true too. Women have just been trained to be nice because men kill us. |
I was so floored. Still can’t believe it. |
Girllllll. Your man is lame. |
| My wife was more attractive "fat" thank skinny under weight loss drugs. She has aged significantly, all her curves are completely gone. It's weird, you would think losing weight makes you look younger. |