Date made snide comments about me being a trust fund baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH, his brother, and sister all have trust funds. He and his brother worked anyway, and worked hard. They have both been successful. His sister refused to work. She’s a piece of work, like the child who never grew up.

I think of trust funds as something that someone at some point worked really hard to build. They’re there for safety and to pass down, to make life easier, but not to just blow through aimlessly.

The line that you are open to working is weird. Working isn’t something you just sign up for, like a gym membership. You have to actually build a career, and that takes work. Unless you mean you’re going to work at Banana Republic or Starbucks or someplace like that.

+1

The issue is that OP is taking a "well earned break" from the workforce at the ripe old age of 24. And OP's free time activities don't seem to include anything meaningful, such as continuing education, volunteer work, helping care for a relative, etc.

OP, unless a man is looking for a SAHM, and that's also your desire, you are not the best catch. Of course if you are very attractive, you could be a trophy wife. If you lead with your trust fund, you could attract gold diggers. But overall, you really should focus on creating a more purposeful life.

[Anonymous]

Turn off

[Anonymous]

He was trying to neg you, because he knows he is inferior. These men can't handle a woman who is more successful/better off/etc than them. They have nothing to offer you, because all they were planning to offer was their lackluster wallet. But funny how he's still chasing after you? He wants the money, but wants you to feel like sh*t about it.

Move on. The right man will not care and will not see this as a negative.

[Anonymous]

I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

[Anonymous]

Look up the burned haystack method. Good luck op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

You poor thing. Yes, a break is what you need even though you aren’t opposed to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look up the burned haystack method. Good luck op

Thank you
He called, so I picked up and he went on to apologize, and asked when we would be having our third date. I said we wouldn’t be and hung up.

[Anonymous]

My recent ex is a trust fund baby. I wouldn't care except that he can't relate to people having money issues. At all. And I often got stuck paying for him and he didn't think it was a big deal, but it was for me. He never had to worry about money in his life, and now that everything is expensive, I worry about money constantly. We couldn't relate to each other.

So he might feel the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ended up unblocking him and sending a text that basically echoed what was said in the 19:13 post—so thanks for that perspective. I have two dates lined up this weekend. One guy comes from an upper-class background and the other middle class , but either way I’m not bringing up my trust fund, and honestly might want to focus on just dating other wealthy guys around me from now. And, I did need a break after a tough four years doing a rigorous curriculum at a top school.

You poor thing. Yes, a break is what you need even though you aren’t opposed to work.

I’d like to in the future but there isn’t really any need for me to now or really ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, what do you do all day?

I graduated from an Ivy League school and am just taking a well-needed break. Hobbies including traveling, golf, Pilates, etc.

This one is definitely a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all so judgy towards rich people and Sahms?

I come from a rich family, and took many breaks throughout my career, it’s not an issue at all. Not being a wage slave bothers you that much?

I don’t look down on SAHMs because they are doing a job - raising children. I don’t look down on a rich person who doesn’t work but does a lot of meaningful volunteering. Or even if they are spending all their time mountain climbing or painting or some other challenging and time consuming activity. (I may not able to relate to them but I don’t look down on them.) Someone who is rich and does nothing I look down on, same as I’d look down on a poor person who does nothing.

[Anonymous]

How much is this trust fund?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He was trying to neg you, because he knows he is inferior. These men can't handle a woman who is more successful/better off/etc than them. They have nothing to offer you, because all they were planning to offer was their lackluster wallet. But funny how he's still chasing after you? He wants the money, but wants you to feel like sh*t about it.

Move on. The right man will not care and will not see this as a negative.

How is OP successful? An Ivy League grad who couldn’t manage the workforce? It sounds like her grandparents might have been successful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all so judgy towards rich people and Sahms?

I come from a rich family, and took many breaks throughout my career, it’s not an issue at all. Not being a wage slave bothers you that much?

I don’t look down on SAHMs because they are doing a job - raising children. I don’t look down on a rich person who doesn’t work but does a lot of meaningful volunteering. Or even if they are spending all their time mountain climbing or painting or some other challenging and time consuming activity. (I may not able to relate to them but I don’t look down on them.) Someone who is rich and does nothing I look down on, same as I’d look down on a poor person who does nothing.

I don’t see much difference between a rich person doing nothing and a rich person spending all their time pursuing personal hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much is this trust fund?

Over 50m but less than 100.