Date made snide comments about me being a trust fund baby
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Anonymous
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I met a guy on Instagram and we went on two dates. On the second date he asked about my work. I said I’m taking a break for now, which is true. Later it came out that I’m financially independent due to family money / a trust fund.
His tone immediately changed. He made snide comments like “must be nice not to have to work” and implied I must have an easy or unmotivated life. It didn’t feel playful — it felt judgmental. After the date he continued calling and texting me, but I felt uncomfortable enough that I ended up ghosting and blocking him. I’m not flashy, I live a normal life, and I’m not opposed to working in the future. I just didn’t expect this reaction from this guy who is quite successful himself. So I’m genuinely curious — is being a “trust fund baby” a turn-off when dating? Or did I just meet the wrong guy? What do men really think of women like me? |
Anonymous
| People are comfortable with people they can understand, understand the experience of the other person. That's all. We are all entitled to a preference. |
Anonymous
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Everyone will have a different opinion ..
Most prob see it as either a flex or turn off. |
Anonymous
Yes, it will definitely turn me off. I can do it tomorrow adds nothing to you as a person. |
Anonymous
| Who cares what men think of women like you. Live your life the way you want, you don’t need anyone’s approval. |
Anonymous
| You should ask around in your network to find someone similar to date. I’m dead serious. There’s a reason why all the wedding announcements in the NYT were between people from rich families. Someone who had a similar upbringing to you wouldn’t do a double take when you mentioned you had a trust fund and then you could know that you were on the same page re: money. |
Anonymous
| You gave up the info too soon |
Anonymous
| It’s not typical and is probably viewed as a negative trait - to be not working even if you don’t need to work, assuming you’re under 55. It makes you seem lazy and entitled. The other response would be for them to seem like a moocher and ask you to buy things. If I were you I wouldn’t bring up your money 2 dates in. |
Anonymous
| You might have trouble finding romantic partners you can trust, OP. I suggest you try to keep your trust fund as close to the vest as possible until you're exclusive, at least. I know it's hard, given the work question comes up immediately. But if I were you, I'd rather they think I'm dependent on someone than have a personal fortune. Weeds out the gold-diggers. |
Anonymous
| Many people are not going to be comfortable with that. And ... I mean ... "I'm not opposed to working in the future" ... that language alone will cause eye rolls with the majority of people, other "trust-fund babies" included. |
Anonymous
| Well, what do you do all day? |
Anonymous
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See how nastily some people on this thread are responding? You want to keep this a secret for as long as possible. And then they'll be too much in love to care, especially as it's not debts you're confessing to, but money!
Also, do these nasty posters also look down on stay-at-home parents? There is nothing wrong with not working if you don't have to work. |
Anonymous
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Ignore the trolls, OP.
They've been home with their kids for a week and can't handle it. |
Anonymous
| I'm pretty sure we are getting trolled here. |
Anonymous
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1. He shouldn't have said that
2. You shouldn't have said you don't work due to family money. 3. If you don't want to be with him, don't. |